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5 tips on how to make a man fall in love with you

by | February 2nd 2018 | 4 comments

A large number of men and women set up one on one coaching sessions with me because they have one question in mind. They want to know how to make someone fall in love with them! “Is there something I can say to make him fall in love with me? Is there something I should do? I have a friend and men are always falling for her but I don’t know what I’m doing differently!”

Some people think that there’s a magic solution for knowing how to make a man fall in love with you, but the truth is that you can’t just wave a magic wand and make the man of your dreams fall head over heals in love with you. There are however certain techniques and elements to bring into play if you want to considerably increase the odds of making him fall in love…

You know this, and you’ve come to the right place to learn all about these techniques! They’re subtle, but highly effective. I’ve written this article today to go over the biggest do’s and don’ts of making someone fall for you so that you can get the guy of your dreams in your arms for good!

Is it actually possible to make someone fall in love with you?

This is an interesting question that somebody once asked me. She wanted to know if there actually existed tools for making a man fall for her. When she had asked her friends, “Can you make a man love you,” her friends had replied to her that “No, it doesn’t work like that… You can’t just do something and expect him to suddenly be in love with you!”

While on a certain level her friends were right in saying that you can’t make someone love you at the snap of your fingers, there are things that you can do that can make somebody’s love for you grow and grow.

When you’re thinking about how to make a man fall in love with you, there are a few things that you can do that are going to be the deciding factors in whether or not you succeed.

Sometimes people experience mutual love at first sight and then they’re all set, but this isn’t how it happens for everyone. Sometimes these things take a bit more time, but that is in no way, shape, or form a bad thing!

In fact, relationships that begin slower and more organically often last longer than ones that began very swiftly. Sometimes relationships that begin with a very strong spark can fizzle out just as fast because time wasn’t taken to build a solid foundation.

So if you’ve found yourself in a situation in which you feel like you are in love with someone and you don’t think that the feeling is reciprocated quite yet, I don’t want you to panic. I don’t want you to think that you’re going to be stuck with an unrequited love and that all hope is lost.

I want you to remember that this is an opportunity to build something much more stable and long-lasting. To do so, you’ve just got to make sure that you follow some very specific rules.

How to make a man fall in love with you: The most important elements

If you’re familiar with my philosophy then you know that I am most certainly going to dedicate a section of this article to the importance of taking care of yourself and becoming the best version of yourself that you can possibly be!

So with out further ado, let’s go over the two most important elements of successfully making a man fall in love with you.

How you make a man fall in love by being the best version of yourself

The most successful relationships are those in which the two partners inspire each other, and the best way to do this is to make sure that your life looks the way you want it to be.

This is why it’s so important to take care of yourself both physically and mentally. Go to the gym and get your endorphins flowing and boost your self confidence. Pursue your professional and personal goals, dedicate time to your passions, spend ample time with your friends and family, and always be open to new, exciting experiences.

One of the keys for making someone want to be in a relationship with you is living a life that he would very much want to be a part of. Happy and satisfied people attract others like moths to a flame!

If you’re feeling deeply dissatisfied and you’re depending on someone else in order to be happy you’re going to run into some serious roadblocks. Generally speaking, a man will want to feel that you choose and want to be with him; not that you depend on him.

The easiest way to ensure that this is the case is to focus on making your life as great as you’ve always wanted it to be.

How to make him fall in love: Be confident

This point goes hand in hand with the previous section in that you need to feel proud of who you are if you want to really attract him. Confidence is one of the most attractive qualities a person can have, and it is easy to pick up on.

If you’re not feeling like you bring anything interesting to the table or that you’re not good enough for him, he’ll pick up on it. You want to spark his interest and make him want to know more about you! More on that in a moment…

If you feel that you are lacking in self confidence, I encourage you to reach out to me here for one on one coaching!

We can create a custom action plan geared towards boosting your self confidence as well as getting you closer to your goal of making a man fall for you!

There are lots of things that you can do to get you closer to that goal, so let’s take a look at some of the things that you can do starting today!

How to make a man fall for you: Always be true to yourself!

You might be surprised at how many people actually begin to act like someone else when they’re trying to get someone to fall for them. The biggest problem with this (aside from the fact that they aren’t being true to themselves) is that this damages the relationship later on down the line. You can’t pretend to be someone else forever and your partner will realize that he fell in love with someone who was playing a role and wasn’t being sincere, even if your intentions weren’t malicious. The result is often that the guy loses interest and the relationship comes to a close.

It’s a very common phenomenon, so I encourage you to work on finding a way to seduce that allows you to be yourself. This requires one of the most important ingredients when it comes to successfully making him love you: Confidence. Feeling good about yourself and knowing what you bring to the table is of upmost importance! People with a confident and positive personality are irresistible!

I’m not saying this to scare you – I just want you to avoid making a very common mistake that can come back and cause serious damage later on down the line. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not. For example, if you’re funny, make him laugh instead of trying to adhere to the Jessica Rabbit stereotype just because that’s what you heard was considered to be seductive. Don’t try to play the damsel in distress or a ditzy girl to try to make him fall for you. Be yourself and make sure that you’re living a life that would inspire someone to want to be a part of it!

Another thing to keep in mind when it comes to ways to make him fall for you is the way you present yourself. Some people make the mistake of thinking that they have to dress a certain way if they want to catch his eye. While it’s true, men are visual creatures, this doesn’t mean that you have to be scantily clad when you want to make him fall for you. Think about wearing clothes that make you feel sexy and confident; clothes that you feel good in. Wear what you feel looks most flattering on you, and you’ll instantly feel more confident. Don’t hesitate to ask your friends for their advice, and have fun with it!

Make a man fall in love with positivity and humor

People love to feel good, so they want to be around people that make them feel good. It’s super simple. Generally speaking, a person doesn’t want to be around someone who’s always complaining or always talking about negative things. Everyone can benefit from focusing on silver linings, even when times are tough! Don’t hold back from laughter and smiles.

I’m sure you’ve been around someone who has a magnetic smile. You can have one too if you focus on being positive. Trust me, this will make him want to spend more time with you. It’s simply because you’ll be making him feel good!

Being optimistic and remaining positive in your conversations is a key factor. It’s important in your personal life, but also when you’re working on making him love you! People don’t really respond positively to Debby-Downers, so if this is a challenge for you, work on maintaining a level of positivity in your conversations and in your daily life!

Make a man fall in love with your body language

It’s normal that he makes you nervous sometimes (or perhaps always!) It’s natural that you have those butterflies in your belly and sometimes the words just don’t seem to come out right, and that can actually be very charming!

The issue that I see some people facing is that they don’t realize that some of their body language makes it seem like they are not interested or open to pursuing anything with the man they are actually in love with.

A few examples of things that can send the wrong message are:

• Crossed arms
• Staring at the floor
• Not smiling or laughing
• Not facing him when you’re talking
• Not speaking clearly and confidently

Don’t hesitate to be a bit tactile and touch him on the arm when he makes you laugh. These are subtle cues that let him know on a subconscious level that you’re interested, without you having to be obvious about it. Whether you’re talking to him at work or chatting at a bar, slightly lean towards him. Maybe even let your hand graze his as you reach for the menu or for something on the desk.

There is another tool that you can try, but you have to make sure that you’re very subtle about it! Research has shown that recognizing similarities heightens the attraction between you. It’s great to talk about things you have in common, but you can also use something that’s called “Mirroring.”

When you subtly mirror or mimic his actions, you portray interest. For example, match his pace when you’re walking together. When he takes a sip of his drink, do the same, and you can incorporate words and phrases he used in the same conversation. Don’t forget: subtlety is key! Also, time is an important factor here. If you start mimicking him too far down the line, it won’t come off as natural and he might notice that you’re doing it on purpose!

Be careful not to mirror him too much, because remember – when you are looking for ways to make your man fall in love with you, you have to be true to yourself and be proud of what you bring to the table. Don’t be afraid to tell him about your hobbies and interests, and be open to his. You don’t have to agree on everything either.

If you’re already dating, you’re going to have more of an opportunity to be more tactile, so don’t be afraid to be affectionate. By the way – handy hint… Research has shown that cuddling releases oxytocin in the brain, which happens to be the “bonding chemical.” It makes two people feel closer and more connected, and attachment begins to form. And guess what! The stronger the attachment, the closer you are to L-O-V-E!

How to make a man fall for you: Don’t forget complicity!

Complicity is one of the absolute most important elements of falling in love. So how exactly do you establish complicity, this feeling of closeness, between you and the man you’ve got your eye on? Well, it’s not something that happens overnight, but the process of building it up can be very fun.

The trick is to share experiences that bring you closer, and have meaningful conversations that let him into your world. Think about having fun – go on a roller coaster ride together and get your adrenaline flowing, because feelings of excitement can lead to arousal as well. Make your time together enjoyable, laugh, and don’t forget to let him in. Make him feel like he’s an insider by opening up about yourself and telling him things that you might not tell everyone. Share funny stories about things that have happened to you and show him that time spent with you is always fun. Show him that you aren’t like all the rest. Ask him questions and invite him to share with you as well. Show him that you’re interested in who he is and what brings him joy.

As feelings between you begin to bud and become stronger, the complicity between you will deepen. It will be important to maintain it and to ensure that communication between you is open and honest. Once you’re in a relationship, you always want to remain a team.

Have fun making memories together that will make you smile when you think about them later on.

Ways to make a man fall in love: What to avoid

I wanted to make sure we dedicated a section of this article on how to make a man fall in love with you to the things that you should avoid doing if you want to increase your odds of success!

The first thing I want you to avoid is accidentally suffocating him by constantly wanting to hang out, always blowing up his phone, and not giving him any space to breathe. This can be a huge turn off and what’s more, it can lead to clinginess and neediness… which are also things that men are going to recoil from. Similarly, be careful to avoid being jealous. Sometimes the fear of losing him can make you a bit possessive so be careful to not let this become too prevalent!

Don’t be too easy to get because men like an exciting challenge. Ideally, you should find the sweet spot between being present and unavailable. Let him reach out to you, let him approach you, and let him come up with something fun to do together. If he’s lacking in this department, show him that you’re not just going to wait around for him. You don’t have to be at his beck and call.

Make sure that you ask him questions during your conversations as well. Sometimes people don’t realize they’re doing it, or they do it because they’re nervous, but they go on and on about themselves without thinking to ask questions to learn more about their partner.

Don’t forget – I am always here to help you, so if you have any questions don’t hesitate to share them in the comments section below. It would be my pleasure to personally respond to you!

Wishing you all the best,

Your coach for knowing how to make a man love you,

Alexandre Cormont


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    Hi I am working at nursing home. Recently maintenance guy try to talk to me. Little here and there , but he always likes to see me. One day all didn’t see end of the day he came said or where you been I didn’t see you all day . I said yeah I was running around, he sat down start talking to me , what I am doing weekend? I said no plan ,morning he look for me I notice that . Some time he blinks his eyes, I don’t know what to talk or say. Before he was very quiet. Now every day seeing me stop by my office I say hi how are you? ?i don’t know what to say. Please advise me . I lost my husband recently, .my kids are grown.

    • Alex Cormont

      Hello Lalini,
      Ask him how he’s doing, how long he’s been working here, does he have any children, where he is from etc. Engage in conversation with him and see how the conversations flow. When he stops in your office and especially if you like him just ask him how his day is going and take it from there! 🙂 Good Luck!

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    Hi Alex,
    I have my own business and my boyfriend helps me all the time. I believe he loves me because I am just me and we have similar interest. How to make a man fall in love with you is by being the best version of you. I agree thank you.

    • Alex Cormont

      Thank you Laure for sharing your story. A man can fall in love when you share something special 🙂

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