10 signs a man wants something serious!
Dating is a tough process, especially in today’s day and age. We have so many ways to meet new people, but when you meet someone special, you want to be sure that they feel the same way about you. You’ve found that you have a connection with this special someone, but you are looking for the signs that he wants something serious.
Fortunately you’ve found this article because you are about to learn the 10 biggest ones! On top of that, I’m going to tell you how to steer clear of getting stuck in a “friends with benefits” situation with this guy!
Why is it important to know if he wants something serious?
The best piece of advice that you should follow is to measure someone’s actions more than their words. I say this so much because you will know when a man is serious about you by his actions and the way he shows up for you as well as treats you. If a man is half a foot in and half a foot out, which I like to call “breadcrumbing” then why would you try to convenience him otherwise?
This is where a lot of relationships fail because people are constantly trying to prove their self-worth to others. Which also decreases attraction and desire to another person. More often then not if a man is not being serious by his actions this will leave you to question his intentions. Instead of pursuing him walk away and let him feel as though he can lose you.
A man has to know that you value yourself enough to put yourself first when he isn’t giving you a relationship. It’s important to know if he wants something serious because if you continue to go at a pace that has no relationship status, then the both of you can open up to commitment problems and have a significant amount of lack of communication. So, to avoid these issues it’s important to have clear boundaries of communication with eachother and continue to focus on communicating to one another so you do not question this mans intentions to commit to you in the future.
Now that you know how to set the right tone with communication, I am going to give you tips on the actions to pay attention to when a man wants to be serious with you and take things to the next level. Alot of these tips you will see that he is connecting with you emotionally and it’s not all about himself it’s about the partnership and moving to the next level with you and the relationship.
Spotting the 7 signs a man wants to be with you!
If only we could read minds, right? Here’s this guy, you have so much fun together and you’re hoping that he wants to pursue a serious relationship with you… But how can you know for sure if he hasn’t flat out told you? Well, here are the ten biggest indicators that this guy can see himself getting serious with you and building a solid relationship!
1/ Signs he wants a serious relationship with you: He makes an effort
If a man is really involved in this budding relationship, he’s going to go out of his way to see you and be in touch with you. He will call and text you, and will try to make plans to see you on a regular basis.
To have a serious relationship with someone, you need to make sure that he’s making an effort and is interested in you. He should be able to make time for you and go out of his way to see you!
2/ Signs he wants to get serious with you: You aren’t the one making the first move all the time
If you’re wondering, “Does he want to take things further,” pay attention to whether or not you are always the one sending the first text, calling him up, or suggesting hanging out face to face. A guy who’s interested in you will at least meet you halfway, if not more! If this guy gives more than he takes, it’s a pretty good sign that he is getting serious.
3/ Signs he is serious about you: He handles being out of his comfort zone well
In order for things to start becoming serious, you have to invite this guy into your universe. This means that he’ll meet your friends and your family, and you can include him in your favorite activities. So pay attention to how he acts when he’s around people that are important to you. Is he distant and uninterested or actively getting to know them?
If you invite him to join you to see an exhibit of your favorite artist or to go for a hike up your favorite trail, does he seem interested (even if he’s just asking you questions to learn more about you and why you love it) or does it seem like he’s bored out of his mind and is counting the seconds until he can leave?
A man who’s serious about you will be fascinated with you and the things that make you happy in your life… If he is being challenged to come out of his comfort zone and he’s reacting positively, he’s definitely interested!
4/ How to know if he wants something serious: He opens up to you
Generally speaking, guys don’t like to feel vulnerable which means that they don’t open up to just anyone. On top of that, sometimes guys will try to remain a closed book simply because they don’t want the girl they’re seeing to get attached… So if you’ve been wondering, “Is he serious about me,” take a look at how much he shares with you. If he tells you things about his personal life, his aspirations, his family, and maybe even things that he hasn’t told anyone else, you can be sure that you mean something to him and he’s letting you into his world.
5/ If he’s talking about being exclusive, he’s serious
This one is a no-brainer. If this guy is telling you that he would like for you two to be exclusive and you know he isn’t seeing anybody else, he’s serious about you. The one thing to keep in mind here is that you’ve got to be careful to pay attention to a person’s actions vs his words. If you are dating a serious guy, then he isn’t messing around with anyone else behind your back, especially when he’s told you that the wants to be exclusive!
6/ How to know if he is serious about you: He deletes his dating profiles
This one falls in line with my previous point, but one of the biggest signs a man wants to be with you, and no one but you, is when he deletes his dating apps. These days, dating apps connect you to thousands of people and it would be so easy for him to keep scoping out the other fish in the sea, but if you know that he has deleted them, then he’s serious about you.
7/ He wants a serious relationship if he’s talking about the future with you
If a guy can see you in his future and is telling you about it, he’s serious. He’s connecting your lives and is introducing you to his friends and loved ones, and he’s thinking about you in the long term. When you see that this guy is able to involve you in his personal life in a way that seems like he wants to keep you around and get closer, we are right on track towards a serious relationship!
Making plans with you is fantastic, just remember that his actions still need to match his words. If this is the case, then you’re golden.
Keeping an eye out for the signs a guy wants to be your boyfriend
Another thing I wanted to go over with you is how he is when it comes to sleeping together. A lot of clients come to me because they feel like they’ve gotten stuck in the friends with benefits and they’re trying to figure out how to turn things into something more serious.
It’s true that it’s tough to get out of this dreaded zone but nothing is impossible when it comes to love.
So first things first, one of the biggest signs he wants something serious is that your relationship doesn’t seem to be founded on nothing but sex. This isn’t just some friends with benefits type thing and you can see that your connection is slowly growing.
Now, if you aren’t sure, I encourage you to pay attention to how he behaves when sex is off the table. Does he ask you out without expecting sex? Ideally, he wants to spend time with you and doesn’t expect sex, doesn’t make a move, and still wants to continue seeing you.
If he does make a move and you decline because you feel it’s a little too early, does he respect your decision and continue to want to see you, or does he drop off the face of the earth?
Again, if you’re wondering, “Does he want to take things further with me,” make sure that his words
match his actions. Even if he says what you want to hear but then he disappears, you need to be careful. Men can sometimes trick you and tell you everything you want to hear, only to disappear two weeks later. If you were focusing too much on his words and not paying attention to his actions, this can leave you feeling completely shocked and confused.
If a man wants to be in a serious relationship with you, he needs to SHOW you with his actions and his efforts!
So what can you do if you feel like you’re stuck in a friends with benefits situation or a no-strings attached situation with the person that you want to be with exclusively?
What to do when you aren’t seeing the signs he’s serious about you…
If you’re getting the feeling that this is turning into a friends with benefits or a friend-zone situation and you want more, you’re going go to have to change some things. Men love a challenge, and if he is getting everything too easily he may have lost the incentive to pursue a serious relationship with you.
The thing is, if you have been starting to get to know one another and you’re already giving him all the elements of being in a relationship (your time, your energy, sex, etc), what incentive does he have to make the effort to establish a serious relationship? Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?
If you want him to be serious about you, there are three things you can start doing.
He has to know that your time is precious!
First, make sure he understands that your time is precious. If you want him to be serious about you, make sure you aren’t always bending over backwards to accommodate him. He has to make an effort as well, and it’s important that you give him the opportunity to make an effort! A lot of my clients worry that if they don’t make the first move, the guy will fade into the distance and then disappear. But if he doesn’t have the chance to miss you or to feel like he has to make an effort to see you and get to know you better, he will start to lose interest.
Remember, men like the challenge and if everything is handed to them on a silver platter, they won’t do anything to pursue you.
Having sex with him is NOT a solution…
Next, you can stop having sex with him or have less sex with him. Let him know that you know what you want and you know what you deserve. Like I said above, if he takes it well and continues to pursue you, he’s serious about you.
And lastly, enjoy your time together outside of the bedroom!
You have to create memories!
Generally speaking, when two people are friends with benefits, they have usually figured out a routine that they pretty much stick to. This will become monotonous and will not be very inspiring to this guy. Instead, try switching things up and go out and have fun together. Try new things and go to new places. Prioritize enjoying spending time together outside of the bedroom!
As always, I am always here to help so if you want to know how to make him fall for you or how to turn your friends with benefits situation into a real relationship, don’t hesitate to get in touch with me here! You can also leave any questions you might have in the comments section below.
Wishing you all the best,
Your coach when you’re looking for signs he wants something serious