Does he like me? Here are the real signs!

by | December 23rd 2018 | 6 comments

You’re wondering, does he like me and you’re looking for proof or signs. It’s not your pride that’s behind this desire; you just need to know if you should actually invest in this relationship or keep some emotional distance.

You can’t remain stuck in your doubts if they aren’t allowing you to really move forward in this relationship. Instead of asking yourself every day, “How do I know if he likes me,” whenever you see or hear from him, why not focus on becoming so irresistible that you don’t even need to ask this question anymore?

It’s also important to trust yourself to not always question everything. This is why, as you will see in this article, confidence is going to be the crucial elements to finding the answer to your question, and to move forward.

Why is it important to know if he likes me?

If you’ve been following my philosophy since the beginning, and even if you haven’t had a chance to discover it yet through my articles, books, and conferences, you will quickly learn that I don’t like to use clichés in order to analyse men and women’s behavior in love. Nevertheless, one of the most common questions asked by women of all ages and different emotional backgrounds is this: “How can I know if he really likes me?”

This question can arise in the very beginning of a relationship when it hasn’t become “serious” yet, but it can also show up years into the relationship. In truth, it’s not rare to see women ask this question even after fifteen years of being someone. You just have to replace “really” with “still.”

For some people, this is a real doubt and a real lack of confidence that gives rise to negative actions. I’ve already seen some women who were asking this questions do things that put their relationship in danger.

For most people, however, this is a positive thing because it serves as a way to pinpoint things that need to be improved. It’s not that you doubt your partner’s feelings for you; it’s more that you just want to become irresistible and make him as happy as you can.

How to know if he likes you: Is this is the right question to be asking?

If the question does he like me pops up throughout your entire relationship, it’s important to understand that you are experiencing a problem with self confidence. When you’re in a relationship with a sincere person, you should be able to trust, and to believe in your potential without always needing proof.

If your man is spending time with you, telling you things that make you feel good, and is building a serious relationship or even a family with you, you don’t need to keep wondering whether or not he has feelings for you.

In order to have a solid relationship, self confidence, and I can’t stress this enough, is the most important thing! It is crucial that you don’t devalue yourself. Of course you can meet people or you might already be in a relationship, but if you don’t make sure you that you have solid self confidence, you won’t be able to have a fully satisfying relationship. Instead of asking yourself if he likes you, become a real femme fatale!

But I know you want to be reassured and this is the objective of this article, I will reveal to you the main signs on how to know if a man appreciates you!

Does he like me: How to tell?

How can you tell if a man is attracted to you? I will guide you with these ultra-effective tips that are going to help you to get a better understanding of the man you’ve got your eye on.

Signs to help you figure out if he likes you

You’re looking for a way to understand and know the signs that indicate whether or not he likes you, and whether or not he’s succumbed to your charm. Keep in mind that a man that is attached, even if he’s a bit macho, will act in a certain way and will do things that might be unusual for him.

Before you met you were perfect strangers so it’s normal that he may have had certain habits at one point, and certain gestures that could have frustrated you. But when a man changes and adapts to you, you can take the as a sign that you’ve have an impact on him. Simply put, if he’s made changes for you, it means he cares.

One of the most visible signs he likes you is jealousy. If a guy gets upset or if you pick up on a certain reaction in him when you talk about another guy, his ego is coming into play, but pride isn’t the only thing going on here. A man that isn’t attached to a woman isn’t going to have this type of reaction. Just be careful to not provoke him on purpose because this could result in a negative effect on the relationship.

When you’re wondering about how to tell if he likes you, you have to take a look at his invitations. If he often proposes going out or spending time together, you can be sure that he feels something for you. A man doesn’t give a large amount of his time to a woman that he isn’t attracted to and doesn’t want to get to know better. The same goes for women who are in seduction mode with a guy that they’re interested in.

For those of you who are already in a relationship, there is another way to assure yourself that your partner still feels the same way about you, so you don’t have to spend all your time wondering “Does he like me like that still?” I am talking about intimacy. If you make love once every two months, it means that there’s an issue that could be related to the desire that he feels for you…

Sexuality is a good way to gauge how attracted he is to you, but it shouldn’t be the only indicator that you factor in. Instead of googling “Does he like you quizzes,” the best way to know if he still likes you is to set up a coaching session so that we can design a strategy appropriate to your situation…not only to know if there is still mutual attraction, but to know how to re-seduce him!

Does he like you? Look for these physical signs…

Science has proven multiple times that the behavior of someone in love can be observed in the form of telltale, physical signs. First of all, when a man is interested, his pupils dilate. This is a recurring sign of desire. So, if while you’re having a conversation with him you’re able to analyze his eyes, you’ll be able to tell what he’s feeling.

Similarly, when his eyes are locked on you, it’s a sign of attraction. He can’t take his eyes off you? Well that’s good news! Just keep in mind that sometimes when a guy has difficulty looking you in the eye, it means that your presence has an effect on him and this can also be seen as a sign of attraction. He doesn’t want you to know how much he likes you, but this timidity often gives his true feelings away!

I’m sure you know that his body language can also be a clear indicator of whether or not he likes you. If when you’re on a date he sits facing you with both shoulders, with his hand in his field of vision, then you have a positive answer to your question!

Next, a man who likes you wants to be close to you, so he reduces the physical space between you. He wants to be closer, more intimate. You can see this when he tries to touch you or caress your skin when you’re together. This is actually a technique that is used to attract you

At a party, a man who’s interested will move to a different room when you do, and he’s the one who will ask you to dance with him. Simply put, a man who’s interested is going to close up the space between you.

Is he into me? Pay attention to his behavior

That said, as with any respectful relationship, fortunately the physical aspect isn’t the only thing that’s important!

There are “signs to know if he likes me” that are based on a person’s behavior. First of all, a man that’s interested in you isn’t going to stop talking, because he’s scared of letting the conversation die down and lose his opportunity to continue to talk to you. He takes his time with the conversation. He asks you all kinds of questions about yourself, and this is one of the biggest signs that he’s interested.

Moreover, when you go out, he only has eyes for you and he couldn’t care less about the other women around. The proof is in his eyes. If you make him nervous, you can take it as a sign that he likes you. He can be a bit awkward because you have an effect on him. Not only is this a sign that he has feelings for you, it’s very flattering!

On the other hand, there are some signs that could trick you or throw you off. Some men like to play games, or play the bad boy by not really giving you their full attention. You feel like he’s being bored to death, but in reality, he’s just hiding how he actually feels so that he seems more confident and in control.

It’s hard to analyze his behavior. In any case, we can’t always depend on the signs that the other person is sharing with us. You also have to take action so that you don’t pass up a opportunity to have a beautiful love story. So if you like a guy and you feel like he feels something for you as well, go for it! No one is going to do it for you. If it doesn’t work out, you’ll be disappointed but at least you’ll have a clear answer.

What are signs that he’s not into you?

I couldn’t write this article without providing some signs to keep an eye out for that indicate that he’s just not that into you (yet!).

Even if you recognize some of these signs, there is no need to panic. By knowing how to put your best foot forward, flirt, and boost your self confidence, you will be able to catch his eye and make him see you in a new light! Each person is different, so these rules aren’t automatically going to apply to everyone.

I just want to provide you with some pointers to help you decipher what he’s feeling (or not feeling) for you! Like I mentioned above, the best way to know for sure what’s going on is to set up a coaching session with me. I can ask you questions that help me to get an understanding of your specific situation and the man in question, and then I can offer you insight and point you in the right direction.

So, as I wrote, a man that’s very into you is going to make the effort to talk to you and be close to you. That means that if he’s avoiding you or very reserved in conversation it could mean one of two things…

You either make him feel shy and awkward because you’ve got him under your spell, or he just doesn’t feel the same way. The key for figuring out which one it is is going to come from his body language when you’re around him.

If he makes no effort whatsoever to talk to you or be around you, it could be a negative sign. Now if he tends to stay close to you when you’re at a party, or if you often catch him looking at you, it is possible that he likes you but is too shy to make a real move. Generally speaking, if a guy wants something, he’ll go for it. So maybe he’s shy at first, but if he’s into you, sooner or later, you’ll know about it.

If he makes excuses to not see you, it’s not looking so good. A man knows that he can’t get what he wants by staying away.

Similarly, as obvious as this might sound, if he tells you he doesn’t like you like that, it’s true. You’d be surprised at the amount of people I’ve spoken to that don’t believe these words when they hear them. As a general rule, men tend to be straightforward and say what they mean.

Another thing to pay attention to is whether or not HE’S paying attention! When a guy likes you, he remembers details about you, even if you had just told him something in passing. Of course not everyone is able to remember absolutely everything, but if you notice that he doesn’t seem to remember anything you tell him, or that he’s not really listening to you when you’re having a conversation, well, he might not be that into you…
When a man is interested in a woman, he wants to know everything about her. He might even ask you too many questions!

One of the biggest signs that he doesn’t like you like that is when he talks about other women he’s interested in or his partner… It’s a polite way of communicating that his heart is elsewhere. If he’s a sincere guy, he’s not trying to make you jealous.

I should also mention that sometimes, people can just be very friendly or tactile, and their behavior is sometimes misunderstood. The easiest way to figure out whether or not he likes you or just has a flirtatious personality, all you have to do is look at how he acts around other women. When he treats you differently from the rest, you know that he feels something for you.

How to make the guy you like feel the same way

There are all kinds of ways that you can seduce the guy you have your eye on, even if you’re not sure of his feelings for you, and it all comes down to your self confidence.

I know I keep harping on the importance of self confidence, but it’s the most important element when it comes to attracting a guy that you have your eye on. I just also want to take a moment to remind you that you have to let him come to you as well.

I often talk about the “Chase me and I’ll run” technique, and it basically consists of making yourself so irresistible that he pursues you. These things shouldn’t be one sided, so if you are making an effort and he’s not giving you anything in return, get in touch with me and we can design an effective plan of action.

Make sure that you’re not clingy or overly present. You want to maintain a level of mystery, and you want to be an exciting challenge. I have an entire written on the subject, if you want to know how to really seduce a guy, whether it’s your crush, or your partner of 25 years!

You can use body language, certain kinds of touch, words, eye contact, and visual stimuli to catch his eye. The best thing to do is to use an ensemble of small gestures to get the desired effect. Choosing one huge action usually isn’t the best idea because
1. You don’t want to be obvious
2. One single action alone might only procure a fleeting reaction.

You want to make him feel something for you that lasts, and you want to give him the impetus to pursue you.

The trick is to focus on making your life exactly the way you want it to be. Make him want to know more about you because you’re fascinating. Men are very attracted to women who are in control of their lives, and he’s more likely to make an effort to be a part of your life if he has to work for it a bit. It’s basic human nature – we all appreciate something we had to work for more than something we just got instantly.

If you give spark a desire in him to get closer, and then when he’s closer, continue to maintain a bit of mystery so that you can increase the sexual tension between you.

You don’t need to show a lot of skin or be obvious about your feelings to get his attention. Just be the best version of yourself and you will see, people that are confident and happy with their lives attract others like magnets!

I sincerely wish you all the best in your romantic endeavors, and don’t forget, I am here to guide you every step of the way!

The coach for knowing if he likes you
Alex Cormont


  1. Erika

    I like this article. Especially how to maintain mystery this is so important to understand for your own personal development and to figure out “does he like me”. Thank you Alex!

    • Alex Cormont

      Yes, mystery is really important to not be needy!

    • Emily

      What if my ex is on rebound and he keep asking things about me in his mom? For example am i okey? Have his relatives saw me? How am i?

      My ex dont show any signs! Nor good or not bad. I have been in no contact now 6months

  2. Ellie

    Okay, here is a controversial question. What if a man does the following and he’s MARRIED? How would you read this behavior?

    Gives a lot of compliments (on my shoes, my smile, etc.)
    Stood over me looking down at me before hugging me. (He did this twice and asked if I minded and I said I didn’t)
    Squeezing my shoulder in a supportive way.
    Suggesting I go to the gym alone.
    Sitting close to me and leaning in. Touching my hand.
    Fingering a ring on my hand.
    Telling me a bit about his personal life/family.
    Bragging a bit about finances.
    Saying he enjoys my company .
    Saying I always look nice.
    Pointing at a line of text on a clipboard that was sitting on my lap.

    This is someone I know professionally. I have to admit that I’m attracted to him. I don’t know what he is thinking because he never goes further than what I have described.

    • Alex Cormont

      Hi Ellie,
      I believe he may be subtly flirting with you but if he is married then I would not give this any time or entertain the idea any further. You deserve a man that will be available for you. Wishing you the best and thank you for reading my blog about does he like me.

  3. Sananda Sen

    Alex my guy doesn’t want to commit, he always talks about other girls and marrying a person from his community everytime. I tried to move on from him many times for his behaviour because it’s hurting me like anything. But everytime when I move on he comes back, he calls and disturbs me like hell. Recently, he left my city without telling me that he is permanently leaving. I stopped communicating with him for his behaviour but he kept on disturbing me. Recently he started talking about a marriage proposal and he told me he wants to get married with this girl. I stopped talking with him but again he started sending messages to me. I couldn’t figure out what he wants can you please tell me?


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