How to compliment a guy and make him fall for you!
Learning how to give compliments to a guy is a wonderful way to build the connection between you, but you have to make sure you’re saying the right things to him. There are so many instances in which I see people trying to communicate how they feel about a guy and inadvertently end up pushing him away. It’s frustrating and confusing, but the good news is that it’s also easily avoidable!
Because I see this happening so often in my coaching session, I want to write an article on how to compliment a guy and get the reaction from him that you’re hoping for! I worked with a woman recently that made me realize how important it is to say the right thing because one false move, especially at the beginning of a relationship can undermine everything. I don’t that to happen for you and fortunately, it won’t!
You now have access to 5 tips on how to compliment a guy, but also my entire website which is full of articles and products designed specifically to help people develop strong and meaningful relationships. You can also watch my videos on YouTube that I’ve created to target specific questions and provide you with concrete solutions. And now we can explore the best ways to compliment a man to make him fall head over heels for you!
How to compliment a man in the best way
I know it comes as no surprise to you that words are very powerful, so knowing how to compliment a guy can be a powerful tool for you. The thing is, you have to make sure that you’re saying the right things to a guy if you want to get the result you’re hoping for.
I was working with one of my clients in France, Louise, who had told me about her experience with a guy that she had been dating for about three months. Things were going so well and he would do everything in his power to make her feel like the most adored woman on the face of the earth! It was blatantly clear that he had very strong feelings for her and then one day he said, “I am in love with you.”
She was overwhelmed with joy and responded, “I love you, too.”
But then something interesting happened. Instead of taking her in his arms, he suddenly became tense and over the course of the following days, he became more and more distant until he ended the relationship. Yes, he broke up with her!
She was left completely confused and hurt, but also frustrated. She came to me to figure out what exactly happened here and what she could do to fix it. So this brings me to my point, which is the power of words. Guys aren’t the best communicators, and knowing how to navigate words and compliments with them will be a huge asset. The solution comes in the form of mirroring, but I will expand on that in a moment.
First, I want to explain that understanding how to compliment your man depends on understanding male psychology. There is no one solution that works in every single situation; it’s more about understanding the concept of complimenting a man in a way that makes him respond positively.
There are certain elements that men respond positively to, and there are other elements that men respond negatively to. I have been working as a love and relationship coach since 2007 so you can imagine how many situations like this I have come across. Let’s take a look at the biggest do’s and don’ts when it comes to complimenting a man so that you can set yourself up for long term success!
The 5 best ways to compliment a man
When you want to know how to compliment a guy, remember that your words need to carry weight for him! Another person that I worked with recently told me that she’s been seeing this guy for a few months now, she’s told him that she loves him, that she wants to be with him and that she sees her future with him. The problem is that he doesn’t seem to be responding to her words very much. She told me, “It’s so strange because I’m saying all the things to him that I would love to hear from my partner. What do I do?”
This brings me to my first point.
When you compliment your man, it shouldn’t be about your feelings
You can tell this guy that you love him and that you miss him all you want, but believe me when I say that this is not going to give you the results you want. Why? Simply because these types of words aren’t going to touch him on a deep enough level.
The truth is that men need to have their egos fed so when you want to compliment a guy, think about what you can say to him to make him feel special. For example, you can tell him that he’s handsome and that you think he has gorgeous eyes. When he feels that you can really see him, he will feel special and he will truly believe your words.
You can say, “What I really love about you is your generosity. You’re so selfless and I love being around someone like that.” You can tell him you love the way he dresses, he always chooses the best shirts and knows how to make everything look good.
Be specific, be honest, and that way, you will tell him things that make him feel good, and what’s more, these might be things that he’s never heard before! This makes you stand out from the crowd even more.
Best compliments to give a man: Talk about his virtues
One of the best compliments you can give a guy is, “You’re so intelligent, I really love spending time with you because I am always learning new things. I don’t see the time pass and it’s always so fun to hang out with you.”
If you want to make sure that you’re complimenting a guy that will get a positive response from him, back your compliment up with an explanation! This is exactly how you can build a strong connection, and this is how you can give him your attention without being needy, clingy, without giving too much and without revealing too much of your emotions too soon.
It’s important to understand how men work. We love compliments about ourselves, but when you give us a compliment, you can make it stronger simply by adding, “because.” By doing so, you make your compliment carry much more weight and have a stronger impact. It’s such a simple thing, but 99% of women don’t do it because they prefer to talk about their feelings and their love. Sadly, this isn’t what men want. They respond to compliments about concrete things that are backed up with a solid explanation.
So compliment him on his work, his looks, his style, and tell him WHY you like it!
I want to give you the tools to help you steer clear of common mistakes, and this is one of the biggest ones!
Be playful when complimenting a guy
Don’t be afraid to use your smile and be playful with this guy. A good little trick is to touch his arm, smirk, and say, “Wow, you look great.”
You can do this to a guy you just met that you find interesting, you can do it to your coworker that you like… You can do this with anyone!
Men really appreciate a woman who is playful but also confident and positive. Sprinkle a bit of flirtation into your compliments and you’ll notice that you’ll spark his interest and he’ll want to get closer to you! Trust me, this is very magnetic and its power should not be underestimated!
Compliments to give a guy: make him feel unique
Another great compliment to give a guy is to tell him that you’ve never met anyone like him and then tell him why.
“I’ve never met someone who takes care of their partner like this. You always know how to make me feel like the most special girl in the world.” You can laugh and add, “Not even my dad was this good at making my mom happy!”
Focus on laughing and creating chemistry with him, and be positive. Think about what makes him special in your eyes and don’t be afraid to let him know. If you aren’t sure of how to express these things to a guy, think about mirroring him. This is the concept I referred to at the beginning of this article.
Mirroring is very simple and it keeps you safe from saying something that would make him feel uncomfortable, like in Louise’s story. So all that means is that if he tells you he’s in love you with you, instead of saying you love him, tell him that you’re in love with him, too. If he says he really likes you, you don’t say you love him; you say you really like him too. This can apply to a simple conversation as well. If he says, “Hi,” you respond with “Hi” as well. If he says he missed you, you tell him you missed him too. This keeps you safe from winding up in a situation where one simple thing that you said “wrong” messes up your budding relationship.
The best compliments for a guy are those that are specific
The more precise you can be in your compliments, the better. When you combine that with saying things that make him feel special and boost his ego, even better! I encourage you to steer clear of talking about how much you love him and focus on what you love about him!
Never underestimate the power of words and remember that you can use them in your favor!
Men like to have their ego stroked, it’s true, so when you want to compliment them, think about that. What can you say to him that would make him feel pride in who he is and what he brings to the table?
You don’t want to give him compliments that he’s already heard before. You want to be unique and stand out in his mind. So remember to be playful and positive, and you’ll see that the connection between you will begin to grow.
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I sincerely wish you the best,