Sex Moves: How To Make Sex Hotter Than Ever!
Sometimes you just want to try something with your partner to spice up your sex life. Maybe things have become a little monotonous, or maybe the sex is still killer but you want to make sure you don’t fall into a predictable routine once you get in bed together! Perhaps you’re just looking for some amazing sex moves that are sure to impress. Whatever the case may be for you, you’ve come to the right place! In this article, I’m going to explore the best sex positions and techniques for both men and women.
When you think about sex positions I’m sure the usual ones come to mind like missionary, doggy style, or cowgirl. While these are all great, there are so many other positions that you can try if you want to keep things interesting! Let’s take a look at the best sex positions for him and for her and you’ll be find something that you can surprise your partner with tonight!
Why new sex moves are important in longterm relationships
After you’ve been in a relationship with the same person for a while, it’s not unusual for your sex life to begin to feel a bit stale. It might seem like you’re always doing the same positions and you begin to crave it less than before.
As you know, sex is one of the most important elements of a stable and long-lasting relationship because it strengthens the bond between you and it keeps the flame alive.
When things start to feel boring in the relationship, one of two things can happen. The first option is that the couple is alright with the fact that they feel more like companions but the second option is that one or both partners decide that they don’t want to live like roommates and start to crave something else. If this happens, the couple either separates or ends up having to work together to change things.
The good news is that there are so many sex moves that you can try starting tonight and what’s more, the moment you start making an effort, you’ll start seeing positive results!
Don’t worry – you don’t have to be a super flexible acrobat and you don’t need to introduce wild sex contraptions in your bedroom (unless you want to of course!)
The most important thing to keep in mind is knowing your body. The more things you try, the better idea you will have of what works for you. So while some of the positions I’m about to explain are definitely out of the ordinary, it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t factor in your favorite positions that are guaranteed to make you orgasm!
Sometimes keeping it simple is the best option for truly amazing sex, but spicing things up can lead to lots of fun in the bedroom, which in turn makes you want to spend more time in the sheets together! Having truly satisfying sex doesn’t always require you to bend your body in ways that you didn’t know you could. Sometimes all it takes is a slight modification to something you already know works for you.
I often see people trying crazy things in order to spice things up but they end up becoming distracted from the sex itself because. In trying so hard to do something unusual or complicated, they are no longer in the heat of the moment and get frustrated! Always remember to focus on what feels good while being open to having fun with your partner!
Good sex: Before you hit the bedroom
Before we dive into the nitty-gritty, I wanted to take a moment to talk about an important element of a healthy sex life that unfortunately often gets overlooked. Fixing this simple thing could make a huge difference when it comes to getting hot and heavy with your significant other!
If you’re familiar with my philosophy, you know what I’m going to say…
Yep, you guessed it. I’m about to talk about self-confidence again! But don’t worry, I’ll keep it short and sweet because I know you want to hear about those sex moves 🙂
Taking care of yourself both physically and mentally will do wonders for your sex life. If you’re not feeling confident about your body, you’re not going to enjoy being naked as much. You aren’t going to feel as sexy and you might not even feel that comfortable being naked in front of your partner.
But if you love your body and feel sexy, your partner is going to see that as well and will be attracted to you like a moth to a flame. Being confident in bed consists of feeling good about yourself and about your “performance!” So, if you feel like your self-confidence could use a boost, hit the gym and get those endorphins flowing, get yourself some new clothes that make you feel great, and remind yourself of how attractive you are!
As for the top sex moves that you’re looking for, let’s jump right in.
Sex moves The best ones for both men and women that you should try out today!
Well, I know the title suggests that you try out these sex moves today but unless you have the stamina of an Olympic athlete, it’s cool if you just choose one or two for tonight and test out the other ones that look interesting to you over time!
Remember to have fun with these. The absolute worst thing you can do, especially if you feel like your relationship is in a sexual rut, is to put pressure on yourselves. If you try something and it doesn’t work, you’ve got to know how to laugh it off. It’s not the end of the world and you can continue being intimate! You can try another one! Or two.. or three… or as many as you want!
I’ve compiled some of the best sex moves from some of the top online magazines right here for you!
There are a few things that turn both partners that should not be neglected. Always remember to keep things interesting by devoting ample time to foreplay, trying sex in different places, be open to trying out toys, and switching up the tempo when you’re making love. Try new things like having sex in front of a mirror or filming yourselves (if you’re comfortable with it!) Remember to have fun and to be open to talking about the things that really turn you on!
Great sex moves that are going to drive her wild!
In this article on Women’s Heath’s website (http://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/sex-positions-guide/slide/3), they’ve given the name “Flatiron” to a position that is as easy as it is effective! She lays on her stomach with her hips slightly raised and legs straight, and he lays on her back as he enters her. This angle allows the guy to penetrate deeper and the tight fit makes him feel larger!
Another great one to try is hooking her legs over your shoulders. The angle of this sex position (that they’ve aptly entitled the “G-Whizz”) gives you direct access to her G spot!
I’m sure you know the cowgirl position, where she is on top and she rides you, but you can make this position even better for her by supporting her weight by holding her thighs and lifting your pelvis up to meet her as she moves. Another common sex position that you’ve probably tried before is “doggy-style”, but try it with her arms and head (and chest if she’s super flexible) resting on the bed. It makes the position more intense because you can go even deeper.
“Corkscrew” is the name they’ve given to the position when she lays on her side on the edge of the bed with her legs closed, and you enter from behind. The closed legs make for a tighter fit!
Try sitting on the edge of the bed and have her sit in your lap while you both face forward. She can ride you and your hands can explore the front of her body and pleasure her as she does.
“Magic Mountain” consists of you sitting with your legs bent, and her doing the same facing you. Get close enough so that your knees can go between hers to enter her, and the angle will be sure to excite both of you, especially because you can look in each other’s eyes.
“Seashell” has her on her back with her legs bent so that her knees are next to her ears. She can pleasure herself with her hands while you penetrate her. You can go deep. Seeing her touch herself can really turn you on, and seeing getting a good view of you can drive her wild too!
Another great sex move that is guaranteed to turn her on is having her kneel over your mouth while you orally stimulate her. She can move her hips and set the rhythm as well!
Men’s Health (http://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/45-sex-positions-guys-should-know/slide/1) has some great suggestions as well, like “the cat.” This is a regular missionary style with a twist. Instead of laying directly on top of her, angle your body higher up and closer to one side of hers. Have her tilt her pelvis up and you’ll be able to stimulate her clitoris while you penetrate her.
New sex moves that he will love!
Here’s another amazing sex position that comes from Men’s Health magazine. They’ve named it “The Waterfall,” and it is guaranteed to drive him wild with desire for you. Have him lean back off the edge of the bed with his shoulders and head on the ground. His hips should be on the edge of the bed, and you straddle him cowgirl style. The rush of blood to his head and member plus the view you’re giving him will be enough to give you both an earth-shattering orgasm.
I know I mentioned the famous cowgirl above, but this is one of the men’s favorite positions! When you’re on top of him, guide his hands to where you want them to be and show him what you like. If you to get even more stimulation out of this, you can also try it while you’re laying down on top of him and create a rocking motion that will rub your clitoris against his pubic bone.
“The Hot Seat” is what they’ve dubbed the position where he’s sitting on the edge of the bed and you lower yourself down into his lap (you both are facing forward). Think of this like the doggy style but with you in control. What’s more, you have access to his perineum and you can reach down and stimulate it and he can move his hands over the front of your body.
Another great idea to try is doing this position while sitting on a washing machine. They’ve dubbed this the “Spin Cycle,” because you put the machine on the highest setting and climb aboard! The vibration will feel amazing for both of you what it’s a great way to have some fun at home using things that you might not have thought to try before!
You’ve probably heard of “Reverse Cowgirl.” You ride him but you’re facing his feet. This is great for you because it gives you full control of the rhythm and the depth of penetration, and he gets an exciting view of your bum. Place a pillow under his head so that he can really enjoy the show!
One of the best (and easiest!) sex moves to try, is to give spooning a sexual twist. This is a great one to try when you’re waking up in the morning and the mood is right. If he’s spooning you, gently rub your bum into his groin to let him know what’s on your mind. Your closed legs give him a snug fit, and feeling his body along the length of yours is a huge turn on as well.
Don’t hesitate to bring props into the mix! Go to a sex store together and look around at what kinds of toys look fun to try out. You could even keep a box of sex toys by your bed… Try playing around with a blindfold. You know, when the eyes are covered, the other senses are heightened…
Redbook magazine (http://www.redbookmag.com/love-sex/sex/a110/sex-moves-men-love/) suggests talking dirty while you’re going down on him. If you haven’t tried talking dirty in bed, it’s OK to take baby steps and feel out how your partner reacts to it when things are getting hot and heavy in bed. Chances are, hearing you tell him what feels good and what you want will turn him on even more than he already is! To take a step further, talk dirty to him while you’re performing oral sex on him…
You can both try some sex games! (http://www.redbookmag.com/love-sex/sex/advice/g693/fun-games-to-play-in-bed/?slide=7)
Have some fun with role play, or restraints! If you’re into it, one of you gets tied to the bed and the other can do whatever they want. The feeling of powerlessness and domination turns some people on like never before. You can bring a feather, an ice cube, or some hot wax (use massage wax so it doesn’t burn!) into the mix. One of the ideas in the link above is “sexy truth or dare.” You can learn quite a bit about your partner’s fantasies and you both can turn up the heat with this one.
Sex positions in bed: What to AVOID!
While writing this article, I thought to myself that it would be important to add a section on various things to avoid doing in the bedroom if you want to have amazing sex and wild orgasms.
Unfortunately, there are so many sex tips available online, but some of them are downright horrifying! From “slapping his testicles” to “sticking a doughnut on his penis,” or “pinch his testicles like you’re milking a cow…” there is a plethora of hilarious tips that I wanted to share with you. Buzzfeed has made a compilation of these seriously funny no-no’s, that you can read here if you want a good belly laugh( https://www.buzzfeed.com/lukelewis/23-truly-terrible-sex-tips?utm_term=.njbBZJKmJ#.bo8jOxXbx).
I wanted to talk more about common mistakes in the bedroom that can damage a person’s sex life more than they might realize.
While communication about what you like in bed is very important, it’s equally important to pay attention to your approach. If your partner does something that you don’t find to be that exciting, or if they do something that you flat out don’t like, instead of saying something like, “I hate it when you…” or, “It’s so weird when you try to…,” formulate your phrase in a more positive way. For example, “Instead of ____, I’d really love it if you _____!” Or if your partner is sensitive and would take it badly, you can guide him or her when you’re being intimate. Keep in mind that you have to know what you like as well, so don’t shy away from pleasuring yourself when the mood strikes!
Similarly, don’t ever criticize your partner’s body, especially when you’re being intimate (or right afterward). Many people are already quite insecure about their bodies, which can create a mental block when it comes to sex. When a person feels self-conscious, this feeling can distract them from the moment or make them want to hide their bodies. Show your partner that you love their body and this will make the sex even better.
As this article comes to a close, I want to bring your attention to one specific bad sex move: being rough with a man’s family jewels! Many of the hilariously bad sex tips that I mentioned above have to do with not being gentle. This goes for women as well, and everyone’s body should be handled with care, but men have some very sensitive areas that do not enjoy serious roughhousing!
What are your favorite positions? Leave your comments below and share which positions you love best with other readers and let’s keep the topic going! Do you have any funny stories of sex moves gone wrong?
Also, if you have any questions for me, don’t hesitate to write it below and I’d be more than happy to personally get back to you.
I wish you all the best and have fun!
Your coach for knowing the best sex moves,