My Husband Doesn’t Want To Have Sex With Me… What do I do?!
One might think that a man would never in his right mind turn down sex and that his libido reigns over all else – especially when he is with a woman who clearly desires him. Nevertheless, many couples experience something very different, and issues that persist can put their relationship in danger. When a woman is thinking, “My husband doesn’t want to have sex with me,” the problem isn’t solely sexual. Quite the contrary, it’s often related to a much deeper issue. To fix this, you’ll need precise methods. Though there are always solutions, you have to choose the right one for your specific situation.
Ladies, I know how disturbing his lack of desire is, and I know that you’re having a hard time navigating this situation and accepting advice from a man no less. Truth be told, hearing a man’s perspective is one of the absolute best ways to help you figure out what’s going on here and understand your partner’s decisions. It’s crucial that you fully understand male psychology and think like a man so that you can get a clear picture of what’s going on here. You have to forget what you think you know and start fresh so that you can set the best actions into motion right away!
Why doesn’t my husband want to have sex with me anymore? How can I make him want me sexually? What do I need to make sure I don’t do in order to save my relationship and rekindle the flame? Not only do you need to choose the right actions when you want to spark that desire in your husband again, but you also have to understand men and use actions that are going to catch them off guard! If he starts to see the situation differently, the desire is going to be switched back on…
My husband doesn’t want to sex with me: Why?
Every relationship undergoes issues in the bedroom after they’ve been together for years and years. Whenever sex is the subject and these become recurring issues, it means that there is a real problem in the relationship – but this can always be explained. There are multiple explanations that can help you to understand why the man you love has started acting like this.
Before I tell you what you need to do when you’re thinking “My husband doesn’t want to have sex with me,” we need to take a look at why he doesn’t want sex because this can reveal and underlying issue that your relationship might be experiencing.
My husband doesn’t want sex because I’ve physically changed
As time goes on, your schedules get filled up, you have kids, you spend all day long at work… So it makes sense that you might put sex and seduction on the back burner a bit. This is the same for both of you. This means that you both begin to take each other for granted and you don’t really feel like you need to seduce your partner anymore. This is hard on a lot of men because men are visual creatures and need visual stimulation.
Nevertheless, instead of saying it out loud prefer to put some space between you to show you that they’re no longer attracted, simply because they want to get a reaction from you. They want you to do something about it! In this type of situation, you have to ask yourself how to satisfy a man.
Husband never wants to have sex because he’s going through something
It’s not just about the physical attraction that can explain why your partner has pulled away. When it comes to making love and making your husband happy, you have to have the desire and not think about anything else. That said, I have coached many couples that have had this issue but it came from external circumstances.
Even though the wife kept saying, “He doesn’t want me sexually,” nothing had changed about the way the husband felt about her. A man that is experiencing problems related to his family or work can make him pull away and put some space between you while he deals with it.
This phenomenon happens to women as well. Any person that is not feeling good can experience issues related to the bedroom. Ideally, you should support him and make him understand that spending some quality time wrapped up in the sheets together can help him to momentarily forget about all the heavy things that are going on around him. In this type of situation, you are going to have to act the way you would with a man who is suffering from depression.
When your husband doesn’t want sex because he’s having issues with his libido
When you’re saying, “My husband never wants sex with me,” sometimes he can’t help it. Many men suffer from premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction. As a result, he can’t perform the way he wants to and he ends up feeling so frustrated that he might not even want to try anymore. He doesn’t want to disappoint you OR himself. It’s an attitude that is often present in men that have issues with their libidos.
It is not that he’s experiencing a lack of desire; he’s afraid of not being a good enough lover. The fear of disappointment can stamp out excitement. Endurance and being able to make a woman reach orgasm are very important to men.
Of course, when we are being faced with this, we tend to take it personally even when it’s not the case. It’s simply a physical inability to do something, and it’s not coming from a desire to hurt you. It’s crucial that you avoid making a mistake that many women make…
The error to avoid making when my husband doesn’t want me sexually anymore!
When you keep saying “My husband does not have sex with me” and you’re feeling frustrated and confused you tend to do something that I, of course, can understand – you put pressure on him or you imagine the worst: He’s being unfaithful. Of course, when you keep thinking that your husband doesn’t want to have sex with you, your mind starts to go over worst-case scenarios and this can make you panic. You’ll question him and what’s more, it blinds you to real issues that you might be having.
By convincing yourself that he’s cheating, you refuse to see the real issues and the tensions that exist in the relationship that are directly related to your unresolved problems and have nothing to do with other women. In this type of situation, proper communication in the relationship is of utmost importance and if there is another woman, you have to make sure you are certain of it.
It’s perfectly normal to ask yourself “Why my husband doesn’t want to make love” and experience all kinds of negative thoughts, but you must remember that there are all kinds of explanations and issues within the relationship is usually the root cause!
Husband doesn’t want sex anymore: 3 Tips for reawakening his desire for you!
There is no more logical response than asking yourself all kinds of questions when your husband isn’t being intimate with you. Nevertheless, from now you have to focus on action instead of an interrogation.
If the issue is stemming from attraction and your husband is having trouble finding you as attractive as before, you’ve got to start taking care of yourself again. This important for you as well because you have to feel good in your body and feel as confident as possible.
Make sure that you never neglect yourself and make sure that you’re proud of what you bring to the table so that you can introduce something new into the mix. The better you feel in your own body, the easier it will be to rekindle the flame and give and take sexual pleasure.
When you have a husband not wanting to be intimate, the most important thing is not going to be jumping on him wearing nothing but lingerie. You have to reintroduce joy and complicity in the relationship so that you can whet his sexual appetite. The goal isn’t to just hop in bed one time and then fall back into the same problematic routine three weeks after. You have to progressively rekindle the flame for good.
Concentrate on pleasure so that you can really give your relationship a breath of fresh air and a tangible boost. Spend more time together having fun and being affectionate before you get in bed. Don’t forget the importance of foreplay because this is what can awaken real desire.
You can also practice activities together so that you can stir his urge for you! You can even try things like sexual yoga that will grant you access to a world of pleasure!
Wishing you all the best,
Your coach for knowing what to do when your husband doesn’t want to be intimate anymore