How to make sex better and keep the passion alive in your relationship!

Sex is one of the most important elements of a healthy and satisfying relationship. It is not uncommon for couples to fall into a routine after they have been in a relationship for a while, and it’s important to keep things fresh and exciting even after the honeymoon stage has passed. People sometimes forget that a good sex life requires maintenance, and people also often make the mistake of thinking that you have to make huge changes in order for it to become amazing.

I’m going to share some of the best tips on how to make sex better in your relationship starting today! You have to invest in your relationship if you want the passion to stay alive, and there’s no better time than now!

Whether you’ve been together for a month or for ten years, there are plenty of things that you can incorporate into your relationship to make the sparks fly between you, and some of the advice you’re about to find might actually surprise you!

Why knowing how to have better sex is so important

As I wrote above, as time goes on relationships can begin to feel monotonous. Your schedules become busy, you are more and more tired at the end of the day, and intimacy becomes predictable and you sometimes feel like you’re just going through the motions. When did this happen? You used to rip each other’s clothes off every chance you got and it felt like you couldn’t get enough!

And it’s not like you just stopped liking sex… so what happened and more importantly, what can we do about it it?

Intimacy in a relationship is one of the main things that maintains the bond and the connection between two people. As time goes on, things start to feel more comfortable in the relationship (which is great…) but it also leads to a bit of laziness. What I mean by that is once you pass the seduction phase, one of both of you might stop making an effort to seduce your partner.

It’s not because you don’t feel anything for him or her anymore, it’s just because things become less exciting and passionate and more comfortable.

Relationships will inevitably evolve, but it’s important that both of you are able to evolve with it. I have to say, I’m very happy that you’re reading this article because instead of sitting around wondering about what can make sex better without actually doing anything about changing the situation, you’re taking action! You’ve come to the right place if you want to learn the best things that make sex better in relationships.

By the way, the advice that you’re going to learn in this article is appropriate for new relationships as well! It’s always great to be open to learning new things that can add some spice to your relationship! Being proactive like this is going to reinforce your bond and help you to keep the passion alive between you and the person you love.

How to make sex better at any stage of the relationship

Now I know that as you’re thinking, “What can I do to make sex better,” you’re probably thinking about new positions to try or toys to bring into the bedroom with you, but I want to start by telling you THE most important element of a healthy sex life. You need to feel good about your body.

The more attractive and confident you feel, the better the sex will be. Unfortunately the majority of people and especially women have a negative body image, and this often gets carried into the bedroom. If you’re fixating on what you don’t like about your body while you’re being intimate with your partner, you’re going to be distracted and the sex will be lackluster.

To combat this, make sure that you work on your confidence. It can be as simple as hitting the gym and getting those endorphins flowing, or using exercises like writing a list of everything you love about your body, and everything your partner loves about your body. Read this whenever you feel you could benefit from this. Most of the people have amazing sex lives feel good about their bodies, so make sure that you don’t neglect this crucial element!

Similarly, pay attention to what your body is feeling. We are all so distracted with our incredibly busy schedules that we often forget to connect with our bodies. Exercises like swimming or practicing yoga get your heart pumping and they tune your senses. When your senses are more acute you will inevitably start feeling more sensual. We tend to forget that feeling good sensually speaking does not need to be limited to the bedroom. Get a massage, give a massage, try sculpting with clay (I bet that scene from Ghost just popped into your head didn’t it!), go for a run, and we can’t neglect the importance of knowing how to give yourself pleasure.

Don’t hesitate to pleasure yourself because knowing what you like allows you to feel sexier, and it also helps you to guide your partner when they’re pleasuring you!

Another tool that I want to share with you is sharing an adrenaline-pumping activity with your significant other. When your adrenaline is flowing, your sex drive is also activated, so sharing an activity like surfing, rock climbing, sky diving or river rafting with your partner can turn both of you on. I know it might sound a bit wild, but trust me. It’s one of the best tricks to heat things up in the bedroom when you get back home.

When your heart is pounding, your body releases dopamine which is directly linked to sexual desire. So when you’re thinking, “How can I make sex better,” don’t forget to think about what kind of things that you could share with your significant other that would be exhilarating!

Ways to make sex better: Tips maintaining the passion in your relationship

Now it’s time to get to the good stuff! I know you’re looking for specific ways to have better sex, so I’m not going to keep you waiting any longer!

Chances are you’ve been together for a while now and you’ve developed a routine when it comes to being intimate. It might always be in the same place, or the same position, and it’s starting to feel a little bit… dare I say it… boring?

First of all, switch up the routine. If things are stressing you out in your life, your sex life is going to be affected as well, so carve out some You Time.
Next, think of new places to go with your partner. A new restaurant, a new lookout, a new beach, and have a date there. Though you probably can’t do this every weekend, surprise your partner with a night reserved in a hotel room. When you switch up the scenery, it’s easier to feel in the mood.

If you aren’t used to doing do, don’t be afraid to take the initiative, and don’t hesitate to tell your significant other what you like! We often underestimate the power of words when it comes to turning your partner on! When you’re intimate, tell him or her what you want and let them know that you’re enjoying it.

Don’t be afraid to talk dirty. Start off subtly, telling your partner how it feels. Once things heat up, and if it feels right, you can begin to tell him or her what you want more of and what you want them to do. It’s encouraging for your partner (as well as very exciting), and it will make them want to do more. Just be careful with crossing lines or saying something that your partner could find disrespectful.

And let’s not forget the power of props. For example, blindfold your significant other, and let their senses take over. You can play with a feather, strawberries, or even massage to heighten the anticipation.

Speaking of massages, they are one of the best ways to make sex better. Massaging tense muscles and allowing your hands to wander not only will relax your partner and tune their senses, it can lead to a powerful orgasm. Just be careful not to make your partner so relaxed while you’re massaging him or her that they end up falling asleep!

Another tip for having better sex is talking about your fantasies. Perhaps you’ve never done this before because it just hasn’t ever come up, or you’ve been embarrassed. Talking about steamy situations with your partner can get their imagination going, and this is good for building up that anticipation again. One of the oldest tricks in the book is dressing up for role play. Perhaps it doesn’t sound like your kind of thing, but sometimes all you have to do is test it out and you could be quite surprised!

Keep in mind that anticipation and sexual tension are going to be the keys for better sex. If you think about it, that’s exactly what you felt at the beginning of your relationship, and nothing is stopping you from reintroducing it! Of course you’ll have to come up with new techniques for doing so because your relationship has evolved, but that’s all part of the fun!

Remember to have fun with this. Sometimes I see people putting too much pressure on themselves to get better at sex, and they react badly when it doesn’t go the way they planned. Putting pressure on yourselves is one of the biggest No-No’s when it comes to having a satisfying and fulfilling sex life. Just remember sex should be fun and not a source of stress!

How to have good sex: Turning him on

Men are visual creatures, so when you are thinking about how to turn him on, think about how you can stimulate him before you even touch. You can build anticipation earlier in the day while he’s at work by sending him a sexy photo of yourself or a text message that lets him know that you’re planning on doing to him when you meet at home tonight…

When you’re on a date, wear something that makes you feel sexy and confident, and you can whisper in his ear that you’re wearing something special underneath and it’s for his eyes only.

When you’re finally in bed together, I think it’s safe to say that pretty much all men love oral sex. If you’d like to learn more on how to pleasure him, I suggest you read this book by Michael Webb right away!

Similarly, if you want to know everything about how to turn a guy on, I encourage you to read this special article right away.

Men have fewer erogenous zones that women, so you know where to focus, but you have another tool in your arsenal. Men are very stimulated by seeing their partner pleasure themselves, so don’t be afraid to show him what you do when you’re alone. He’ll be weak with desire for you and what’s more, he’ll see what you like and will therefore be able to do the same things to you when it’s his turn!

Make sex better: How to turn her on

Lucky for you I have a mega article on how to bring a woman to orgasm, so I suggest checking it out if you want to know the best tricks!

If you want to know how to make sex better between you, focus on worshiping her body. Show her and tell her everything that you love about it, and don’t neglect any of her erogenous zones. Women have more than men, so kiss and touch her inner thighs, her lower back, her neck, her stomach…

Don’t hesitate to ask her what she likes best. Talking about it openly can turn both of you on and improve things in the bedroom!

Another thing to try is bringing toys into the bedroom. You can try a cock ring, which works by slowing the blood to your erection making you harder for longer.

Both of you should be able to talk openly about what you like best. Communicate what you love and what you’d like more of. You’re a team and sex is fun, so work together to make it as amazing as it can be! Taking the time to talk and plan new adventures will pay off very quickly, and investing in this aspect of your relationship will always be important.

If you put energy into your relationship, you’ll get energy back from it, so hats off to you for setting out to spice up your sex life with the one you love! I’d love to hear your suggestions, so don’t hesitate to leave your comment below. What do you do when you want to turn up the heat with the person you love?

What do you love that your partner does for you when he or she wants to turn you on?

I wish you all of the best and remember, if you feel that you need one-on-one help in your relationship, you can always reach out to me personally right here!

Sincerely,

Your coach for knowing how to have better sex,

Alexandre Cormont