Why He Won’t Commit And What You Can Do To Make Him Want To Invest!
Why he won’t commit and what you can do to make him want to invest! The relationship expert reveals everything you need to know
Have you met someone that you like and want to make him fall head over heels for you? Are you currently in a relationship and would like to know why he won’t commit and what you could do to change his behavior? What is the best attitude to adopt when you want to get in control of the situation and of your emotions?
Ladies, I am here to let you know that there are precise solutions for seducing a man and it’s up to you to start using these tools and techniques as soon as possible. More often than not, you do recognize the situation you’re in and you know what kinds of actions you should be carrying out, but the little voice inside your head is saying, “You love him so you’re going to give in… Just let it happen!”
And yet, the worst mistake you could make would be to not remain in control of your emotions when you’re faced with a man that isn’t sure about committing to a relationship and a future with you. As a general rule, people in your situation tend to get frustrated or to think that there is maybe something wrong within themselves. The problem actually lies elsewhere, so if you want to change his mind you’ll have to approach the situation in a new way.
I’m sorry to say, well, write… That if you think that trying to make him listen to reason while you’re having a nice time together in hopes of getting what you want from him is going to work, you aren’t on the right track. Sentimental relationships don’t work like that, especially if he’s got a fear of commitment…
I don’t really like to use this term, but there is a way to seduce a man using something called “power play.” If you are too lovey-dovey, too needy, or if you allow yourself to be taken for granted, you will hand all the power over to the man that you want to fall for you. The opposite of these types of actions is what is going to get the desired result!
So what solutions are there for fighting against this phenomenon? What do you do when you’re dealing with a guy that is on the fence about committing? What sacrifices must be made? Read this article carefully and don’t hesitate to leave me a comment, and I would be happy to personally respond to you!
Why a man won’t commit
There are so many possible reasons at to why he won’t commit, but the two most common ones I hear in my coaching sessions are: “I’ve suffered too much in the past and I’m not ready to invest in a relationship,” which basically means that he’s allowing his past experiences to keep him from making a good decision today. The second one is, “I don’t know what I want,” and yet he can still be jealous when you’re hanging out with a guy friend, but doesn’t give you the option to be in a real relationship.
I know, it doesn’t seem like it makes any sense when you’re in the thick of it, but in reality, they’re actually is an explanation behind all of this.
Instead of putting things into perspective you have a tendency to pay too much attention to what this man says and not enough attention to his actions. If you ask ten people, they will all say that you’ve got a manipulator on your hands. We don’t need to go into the analysis of pathological narcissism, but you are dealing with someone whose words don’t match up with their actions.
So what do you do under these circumstances?
First off, you should ignore the things he says simply because a man will never deliver a user’s manual when it comes to winning over his heart! Reality is quite the opposite, and yet you continue to do the same things, which is why there is such a gap in understanding between men and women! In fact, the man in question (even if this is happening subconsciously) will do everything to make you fall in love with him without truly investing in the relationship himself.
So when you’re wondering why he won’t commit, I simply recommend that you stop putting him on a pedestal. Stop showing him too much interest. The more you use the “Chase me and I’ll run” technique the more he’ll closer he will become.
Why he won’t commit until he fears to lose you
I know that what I just explained is hard to understand, but in order to seduce a man who is afraid to commit, you have to step into the role of a femme fatale. A man simply can’t fall in love with a woman that’s already intensely in love with him right at the earliest stages of the relationship.
Truth be told, only has eyes for him is pretty much like digging your own grave. It’s true that with time, men appreciate being the center of your universe, but when you’re still in the “power play” phase of seduction, this type of behavior is premature.
You don’t have a rational man that wants to invest in the relationship and experience something magical, so you have to be careful that you don’t place yourself on a lower plane than him. If you don’t you risk losing all of the control during the seduction phase. This remains true for relationships that have been active for months as I am referring to seduction in the general sense.
I am sharing these explanations with you so that you may fully understand that the answer to “will he ever commit” is this: He will commit at soon as he starts to fear to lose you. Unfortunately, this doesn’t place you in the “normal” process of seduction and you will have to continually work to keep your feelings under control until he adopts a positive and respectful attitude. In truth, everything is a question of knowing how to adapt your state of mind.
He won’t commit: is it even possible to seduce him?
If you follow my advice, you’ll be perfectly capable of seducing men who won’t commit and making them want to invest. Unfortunately, if like the majority of women you think that you need to prove how much you love him, you end up feeling insecure and you won’t be able to get in control of the situation. Don’t latch on to a guy that hasn’t shown that he’s worthy of you, because then he won’t make the necessary changes. Don’t wait until it’s too late before you take action and make the right choices.
One last thing: Keep in mind that fear of commitment is only present if the man in question doesn’t think that he’s in love or that he’s happy being with you. If he didn’t think that he could find something better elsewhere, he wouldn’t hesitate a second.
The explanation that I see the most often is this: The more disinterested he appears to be, the more you want to reassure him. And yet, you should be doing the exact opposite. You’re not going to make him jump over the mental walls of his indecision by showing him that you’re head over heels in love with him…
Boyfriend won’t commit: Here is your #1 goal!
We all want to find happiness, especially through a fulfilling relationship, but sometimes the communication between men and women makes this more challenging than it should be. As a result, if you fixate on the words of this man who doesn’t necessarily share the same vision as you, you risk making a false interpretation of his desires, especially because he will sometimes be inconsistent.
In truth, men can hesitate for a long time! This can be seen in their behavior, but it can also be seen in their words. When a man won’t commit, and as a general rule, you have to pay attention to his attitude but also to the words he uses.
You, therefore, need to stay focus on the most important thing: the happiness and wellbeing that you can give him. Doing so will ensure that you focus on the present moment, and this, in turn, will encourage him to invest in the relationship a little more each day. This step by step approach is essential in order to keep him from getting scared off, thinking “Things are moving too fast!”
To ensure that you don’t reach this point, it’s crucial to not base your entire happiness off of your relationship. You’ve got to maintain a balanced life in which you find joy, with or without a partner. Letting a relationship or another person define you are going to damage the relationship!
Communication in love happens through actions, and you can gauge his interest on what the little things he does every day. Many women expect their partners to act as they would, and things move too quickly (especially if they had been single for a while and don’t want to waste time). Once again, don’t rush. You have to take things to step by step if you want to reach this level of happiness and satisfaction in your relationship. Things aren’t perfect right off the bat, so the goal is to progressively move forward while factoring in what your partner needs, and maintaining your own personal life (friends, work, hobbies…)
By the way, if he won’t commit and you want him to change his mind, make sure that your personal life is not empty, and that you have other things going on. This is the difference between an interesting woman and a woman that is too eager to please.
He loves me but won’t commit: The tip for not placing too much pressure on him
In love, there is often little hesitation, especially when you know what you feel and you’re ready to take the leap. You know that relationships are never simple, but with some work, you can easily find happiness. When you feel something for someone, you think it’s enough for you to fully invest. You feel that you’ve found someone interesting and you’d like to build a solid relationship.
However, this is where you will make the fatal mistake of reacting based on your own ease and confidence in the future. As I explained above, there are some areas in which men are resistant! They tend to be doubtful and you’re not going to reach your goal by provoking him. A man won’t enter into a relationship until he feels the desire, and it has to come from within himself.
So now I’d like you to start acting in a different way. If you’re thinking, “He won’t commit, what do I do…” I recommend that you take your time, and continue working on a seduction phase that will last a few weeks. You can continue to get to know each other before you officially become a relationship!
Even when he doesn’t want to commit, time is not the enemy. I know that some of my coachees tell me, “If he doesn’t say he loves me in two months, then I’m leaving!” Even though I understand why you would feel that way, you have to analyze them and understand that these thoughts have led you to your current situation. This is a negative type of thought process. Giving your partner an ultimatum in the hopes of getting more from him is not a very good idea. I’m not saying that it never ever works, but it is a very dangerous game.
It’s important to accept that a man might have trouble diving into a relationship because he doesn’t want to go too fast. But this doesn’t mean that he’s not into you or that he wants to waste your time. He just might have a little mental block and the most effective thing to do is to pinpoint its root and clear it away as soon as possible. If you’ve gone over it multiple times and you still can’t seem to get ahead, don’t hesitate to reach out and we can get to the bottom of it together in a coaching session. To know more about how to set up an appointment, it’s right this way.
Show yourself in the best light if he won’t commit but won’t let go
I am in no way, shape, or form, asking you to be perfect because that doesn’t exist! But if you’re seeing signs that he won’t commit and you want to win him over, you’ve to put your best foot forward. By remaining positive and communicating effectively in the way we’ve just studied, the man of your dreams will undoubtedly make his move and become more implicated in the relationship.
Whether it’s through your smile, physical attraction, or an interesting personality, you just have to show him that you understand him and don’t want to place pressure on him. By introducing positivity and sharing special moments together you will encourage him little by little. Just be careful that you’re not expecting something out of Hollywood movie because real life is much different!
You can continually seduce him with a magnetic and natural personality that you will reveal little by little.
There is no reason to play a role or to show him a personality that’s not your own. Don’t try to stick to an “ideal” that you think he wants because you’ll be faced with continual criticism that doesn’t even pertain to you! If you want a man to commit to you, be yourself under any circumstance.
“I like women who are sensitive… but also funny… But also kinda challenging…” Basically, forget what he’s saying here because he doesn’t really even know what he wants. So instead of constantly asking yourself whether or not the image you’re portraying to him is the right one, focus on fighting off the fear of what’s at stake. You can’t be expected to be perfect and I’ve also realized that seduction requires that your own personality shines through and presents an exciting challenge.
Have an amazing day, and I sincerely wish you the best in your love life that this man that up until now seemed unable to commit to a relationship, realizes what you bring to the table. Never forget that you are the prize and from now on, he should do everything in his power to win you over and work for the chance to offer you a serious relationship, without any emotional dependence.
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