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How to use reverse psychology with the guy you want!

by | September 1st 2020 | 7 comments

I know that there is a guy that you have set your sights on and you want to know how to make him fall for you. You want to know how to make this man fall in love and how to get him to commit to you. You have also come to find out that there is something called reverse psychology that can be extremely effective in making a guy fall for you. I am glad you are here because I am writing today’s article on how to use reserve psychology and make this guy fall for you.

I am not going to teach you mind games, and I want to be very clear about that. I am going to teach you the art of understanding how a man’s mind works so that you can approach the situation in a productive way, and therefore get unprecedented results. You are going to learn how to apply reserve psychology and finally get the relationship you want and deserve. The concept of it is actually quite simple, and by the time you reach the end of this article, you’re going to know how to get this guy’s attention and make him start to gravitate towards you.

These are techniques that I have explored and perfected throughout my career as a love and relationship coach, and I have made it my life’s mission to give you all the tools you need to be happy in love. So without further ado, let’s jump in!

Understanding how to use reverse psychology

I cannot express how important this concept is. When you can become aware of and understand emotional triggers, you can create the relationship that you have always dreamed of. And no, I am not exaggerating! I have been a relationship professional since 2007 and have coached over 30,000 people all across the globe, so I can confidently tell you what works and what doesn’t.

Ladies, if there is one thing that you take from this article, let it be this. Every single thing begins with you! Everything! Using reverse psychology to get a man is actually more effective when you use it on yourself. I know, plot twist! But let me explain. When you can change what is happening in your mind, everything changes. In the majority of cases, I see a repetitive pattern. You meet a guy and you place him on a pedestal. You view him as the one you want, and the more feelings develop, the more the more the stakes develop. When there are stakes, you start to feel vulnerable and it becomes easier to make mistakes that end up pushing this guy further away.

So the very first tip I have for you is to train yourself to switch your mindset. The human mind is an incredibly powerful thing and reverse psychology, or inverse psychology is wonderfully effective. From this moment on, each time you ask yourself “What can I do to make this man fall for me,” replace that thought with, “I want this man to fight for me.” This way, you will naturally begin to change your approach, your attitude, and your behavior. Instead of keeping him on the pedestal, you put yourself on that pedestal. Remind yourself that there is only room for one person up there and it should be you. When you begin to interact with him with this new mindset, you avoid doing things that make you look needy, you don’t seek validation from him, and you don’t do the things that end up pushing him away. I’ll expand more on this later.

By changing your mindset, you are reversing the situation. It is no longer you chasing him; it’s he who will begin to chase you. Interestingly enough, this even works in situations in which a guy hasn’t developed feelings for you yet. He will start thinking, “Oh wow, I really like talking to her. I wanna see her more… Am I attracted to her?” Sometimes men don’t realize that they’re attracted to you until you do something to spark it, and using reverse psychology like this to do so is the best way to do this. So don’t underestimate the power of your approach. You can even approach him with a challenge and some flirtation by saying something like, “You look at me differently… Do you have a thing for me?” So if you want to know how to apply reverse psychology, trust me when I say that saying things like this to a man get him to start thinking about you in a different way.

Reverse psychology: using the explanation tool

Another technique that has proven to be very effective for my clients is called the explanation technique. Tell him that you’d love to go do something with him because you like the way he is, you think he’s hilarious, and you feel like you’d have a lot of fun together. When you do this, you make him think about what’s developing between you and you bring his attention to the positive energy. “I would love to go and try out that hiking trail with you because I always have fun with you.” He then thinks about how fun it actually would be. It’s not a game, it’s just logical. You can then bring flirt into the mix by challenging him. Tell him that you’d love to go go-karting with him because you’re sure that you could kick his butt.

Remember, men are motivated by challenges, and human beings are attracted to what they don’t already have. If you tell him that you’d love to do something with him and that you’re sure that you would win, you will spark a very specific part of his brain that is closely linked to attraction. Once he starts to see you as an exciting challenge, his interest in you will grow. Using emotional and psychological triggers is one of the main elements of the art of reverse psychology.playing with my emotions

Think about activities that get your adrenaline going. The more of this that you can share, the more exciting it is, and the easier it is to bond with this guy. The chemicals that your brain releases when you’re releasing adrenaline actually makes you bond with the person you’re sharing the moment with. Imagine how this can impact the attraction process… By the way, I have not seen any women out of the 30,000 people I coached go out of their way to suggest go-karting to a man before I recommended it. That means that this guy probably hasn’t experienced this either, and that means that by doing so, you will stand out from the crowd.

What is reverse psychology in relationships and how can I use it?

When you hear about using reverse psychology, you probably associate it with something that is called the push and pull technique. For those of you that are unfamiliar with this tool, it basically consists of pulling away to make a man want you more. Bending over backward to show this man that you have all these feelings for him is actually not a great way to attract him. In fact, what usually ends up happening is that he will pull away. So often I talk to a client who tells me, “Alex, I don’t understand! Things were going so well. He was making all these plans with me, introducing me to his friends, we were going on dates all the time… but now he’s become all cold and distant, saying that he doesn’t feel the same way about me and that he’s not ready for a relationship. And he was the one that was pursuing me at the beginning!”

Again, people are attracted to what they don’t feel like they possess. In the beginning, he put you on a pedestal but now that he’s understood that he’s got you, he’ll stop making an effort and take you for granted. It sucks and it’s a shame that that’s human nature, but that doesn’t mean that we can’t change the dynamic.

This is why, and if you’re familiar with my philosophy then you know this, I am always telling you to have NEW experiences with this guy. If you really want to attract him, it’s not about playing mind games, it’s about getting him to experience new activities and new emotions, and associating you with new, positive feelings.

So, starting now, I want you to stop making the first move. No more texting him and calling him, asking him to go out. Remember, when it comes to reverse psychology for relationships and attraction, you can pull away to make him have to come closer. It is extremely effective because it starts to make him view you as an exciting challenge again. You can respond when he reaches out, but don’t be the one contacting him first. Keep in mind that human beings work through habits and this means that the more he goes out of his way to talk to you and spend time with you, the more of a habit this will become for him. And this is what we want! We want him to keep you up on that pedestal and actively work to woo you.did i scare him away

This is why it’s so important to remain a challenge for him. Don’t talk about love and feelings and emotions… Instead, talk about how exciting your life is. Tell him about all the interesting things you’ve been doing and paint an attractive picture of your life. We want him to look at you and subconsciously think, “Wow, she’s living a life that I want to be a part of. She’s confident, she doesn’t need my validation, so I want to get her attention.” This is how to use reverse psychology in relationships, especially when it’s the very beginning.

Using these reverse psychology examples

Ladies, what it all boils down to is making this guy be the one who chases you and needs you, and not the other way around. If you can apply these tips and tools, you will see that your love life will change forever. You will change your approach and your self-confidence, and you will no longer struggle with not feeling in control of the situation. I know that sometimes we feel insecure and mane not good enough for someone, but that all ends now!

I have also written an entire book on the subject, and I want to give it to you for free. To download my book, all you have to do is click here. In just 60 days you can build the relationship you’ve always wanted. I just want you to have all the tools you need to make the man you want to fall for you and to be able to create the love life of your dreams.

You can also reach out to me or a member of my team for one on one coaching by clicking here, and we can analyze your specific situation to give you a customized action plan. You can get in control of this entire thing and have this guy wrapped around your finger before you know it!

I sincerely wish you all the very best in life and love,

Your #1 French relationship expert

Alex Cormont


  1. Meagan

    I honestly need this book. I am so inlove with this guy and I am scared I will mess things up with him

    • Kay

      Thank you for all your advice!! I need your book please!

  2. Noluthando Sikhosana

    How to make him put me in pidestile again because he put3his friends and he’s cheating on me again and I love him a lot and miss him a lot


    Am in a relationship with this guy for Two years now… Now he is pulling away because he feels I do too much, meaning that am cheasing him, to me i feel he is nw having more interest in his ex
    He talk to me in rude ways no manners at all
    And I truly love him now i don’t knw what to do
    Am hurt deep down please Alex help me out.


    How can I make him fall for me again
    Now that he has lost interest in me
    Is there any hope again???

    • Kim

      I can’t wait to read this book… I thought all was lost but if I actually have a chance I want it

  5. Robyn Ray

    Hi, yes all of this is very true, when reading this it makes perfect sense 👌


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