How to make a man chase you: the 3 most POWERFUL tips!
Someone special has caught your eye. Perhaps you’ve even started dating and you’re realizing that you really, really like this guy! There’s only one hiccup though, you’re worried that you’re the one putting in all the effort. I have been working with people since 2007 on how to grant themselves access to true happiness in love, and one of the keys to success is learning how to make a man chase you. The balance of power is thrown off when you’re the one making all the effort, so it’s very important to learn how to make him want to pursue you. You have to be the prize that he’s working towards attaining.
That is why I wanted to write this article today. It’s such a common phenomenon and it’s one of the biggest things that undermine budding relationships. I don’t want that to happen to you so I’m going to go over how to understand male psychology so that you can get this man to chase you – and not the other way around.
Gone are the days when you bend over backward trying to get this guy to give you attention and make him want to invest more time and energy into this relationship. You are about to learn the keys for making a guy place you on a pedestal and pursue YOU!
How to get him to chase you using male psychology
After all these years as a coach, I’ve understood some critical things about how people work. In addition to my research in the field, I’ve taken many training courses that have led me to one conclusion that can serve you for the rest of your life.
Every single man out there wants a woman who is different. They want someone unique, someone that they’d be proud of having by their side and the question we need to answer is therefore:
How can you be different from everyone else and ensure that this guy is going to want to chase you?
This is the foundation of everything we will be going over together in this article. If you want to get a man to chase you, you need to show him that you are unlike the rest.
And you know what? It’s all about learning to trust yourself. When you know exactly who you are, what you bring to the table, and what kind of relationship you want to experience, it becomes easy to become a “high-value woman.”
You will be confident in yourself, but also your approach. When he asks you what you want to do tonight, you won’t respond with, “Whatever you want.” When he asks you if you’d like to do something this weekend, you won’t reply, “Sure, as you want!” From this moment on, you’re going to showcase your personality and invite him into your world. You’re doing interesting things, you know what kind of activities you enjoy and what types of things you’d like to try, so if this man wants to date you, he’s going to have to make an effort and chase you!
If you can show him that you’re different, he’ll realize that he needs to fight for you and think about what he can do for you that’s different, too.
So, ladies, let’s look at the best way to get a guy to chase you!
How to make a man chase you: the 3 techniques
As you’ve understood, we’re going to need to showcase your personality if we want this guy to chase you. This is something that I repeat all the time because I see so many people who lose track of themselves and their personal lives when they get involved with a man that they like. Sadly, this is exactly what makes it easy for him to take you for granted and lose interest.
So many women have told me that they just don’t get it. Things were going so well with the guy they were dating. He was so invested, he was introducing her to his friends, he was making plans and telling her everything she wanted to hear until one day he just disappeared.
Why does this happen?
Well, he says that he doesn’t feel the same way about her, he doesn’t want to commit to a relationship right now… Even though he was the one pursuing her at the beginning. It’s so frustrating and it’s so easy to get discouraged.
Ladies, when a guy meets you, he’s always going to place you on a pedestal. He’s going to think, “Wow, she’s so amazing, I really want her in my life, so I’m going to do whatever I can to make her fall for me!” He’ll try everything he can think of to try and attract you, but as human beings, we don’t value what we “own.” The moment he feels that he’s successfully seduced you (because that’s what your actions show him), he’ll get bored. This is often when you pick up on the fact that something is wrong so you inadvertently start to act needy or clingy. This, of course, pushes him even farther away.
The moment he starts taking you for granted, you’re in trouble! The solution is to ALWAYS be the challenge! And trust me, that isn’t as scary as it may sound…
How to make a guy chase you: Never make the first move
I know how tempting it is to reach out to him when you want some attention, but if he isn’t chasing you, you must stop contacting him first. That means no texts, no calls, no emails, and no proposing dates. You want him to come to you!
Sure, if he contacts you, you can respond, but HE has to make the first move.
Something to keep in mind when you want to make them chase you is that human beings operate by habit. This means that they’ll develop a pattern and repeat it unless they learn a new one. Interestingly enough, we can use this to our advantage because you can essentially teach him a new pattern.
Remember, be careful with what you allow because you’re basically teaching people how to treat you. So if you can stop making the first move and inspire him to reach out to you and plan things with you, you can start to develop a new pattern. The more he calls and texts you, the more frequently you will be on his mind, and you can train this type of subconscious response in him.
But it all starts with you. Don’t make the first move. Let him chase you! Give him the opportunity to want to do it, and inspire him with the way you’re living your day to day life…
Make him chase you by innovating
We want this guy to look at you and associate you with a feeling of freshness. Again, you want to stand out from the crowd and make him realize that you’re unique! So when you want to make him pursue you or when you want to figure out how to make him keep chasing you, you’re going to have to make sure that you’re doing things in your personal life.
This is the most important thing. And I don’t mean that you have to go out and do all these crazy things every single day, but keep yourself busy with people and activities that bring you joy and when you tell this guy about it, make sure you sell the dream! Think about how to present your life in an exciting way, even if you’re doing relatively normal, day-to-day things.
What do I mean by this? Well, let’s say you went to dinner with your friends on Friday night. When you’re telling the guy you’re seeing about it, there’s a big difference between,
“Yeah, we went to a restaurant on Friday. It was nice.”
“Oh, I had one of the best meals I’ve had in a long time on Friday night! I went to this new Italian place with my friends and it was so much fun. We were joking around with the waiter, we ended up trying these dishes I’ve never had before. I never would even think of stuffing mozzarella with pesto and now my mouth is watering just thinking about it lol. I can’t wait to go back. You have to try it!”
Let him see that you’re doing interesting things and that you’re enjoying your life! If you seem boring to him it’s going to be hard to inspire him to chase you. He’ll just take you for granted and he won’t consider you different from all the rest. Unfortunately, this is what blocks the attraction process.
How to make him chase you: Be a challenge
This goes hand in hand with what I was saying above about making him put you (and keep you) on a pedestal. Don’t talk to him about your feelings and tell him you’re in love. Do NOT ask him questions like, “Do you like me?” Because this will immediately paint you as the needy, clingy girlfriend and he’s going to run away. It puts all the power into his hands and then there is no more balance.
If you want a man to chase you, you have to create something special. You have to know your qualities and be confident in the fact that you are the best version of yourself.
You don’t need this guy’s validation because you know what you bring to the table! This also means that you need to cultivate your sense of self-confidence every single day and this is done by accomplishing things that make you feel proud. This can be physical exercise, working on your personal or professional goals, making time for your friends and hobbies. Just fill up your schedule with things that enrich your life and give you a sense of wellbeing and you’ll see that not only will you stop bending over backward for this guy, but you’re also going to have a much easier time inspiring him to pursue you.
I’ve noticed that a lot of the women I work with don’t talk about their lives with the guy they’re seeing. They’re worried that he’s going to think they’re not interested in HIM. But this isn’t going to happen to you because you’ve already gone out of your way to learn how to make a man chase you. It’s all about following steps and sticking with it. If you want to go further, I encourage you to check out my product that has been specially designed to help you get the guy you want in less than 30 days.
Yes, you read that right. Less than 30 days! Every man is different but there are themes in male psychology that serve as the roadmap for making a guy want to chase you.
Make a guy chase you and develop a meaningful relationship
When it comes to love, I see you giving away too much and repeating patterns that don’t get you the results you want. If you can apply the tips I went over in today’s article, I can guarantee that you will no longer lack self-confidence and you will make this man want to pursue you and keep you by his side.
You will no longer doubt what you have to offer, you’ll no longer worry that he’ll get bored of you or that there might be someone better for him out there. We can change all of these false beliefs and I am here to help.
Reach out to me for one on one coaching by clicking here and it would truly be my pleasure to create a custom action plan for you to make this guy become addicted to you.
So remember, we value what we don’t have so make sure that you don’t do anything that would allow this man to take you for granted, and make sure that you are living the life of your dreams. When you are feeling happy and fulfilled in your own life, AND you’re able to sell him the dream, you’ll attract him like a moth to a flame.
You deserve all the best in love and starting now, you’re going to get exactly that!
Wishing you all the best,
Your coach when you want to know how to make a man chase you,