10 Tips on how to prepare for a date – French Relationship Expert
Dating can be quite stressful, especially if you are relatively new to it! How do you act? What do you say? How do you dress? What if you don’t know what to talk about? Where should you go? What time should you meet? Your mind is overflowing with questions you don’t even know how to start preparing for a date! Fortunately, you have found an article written by a love and relationship coach with over 10 years of experience in the field!
I am going to go over how to prepare for a date and share the biggest do’s and don’ts that can ensure your success!
The first date is the scariest one of all because you want to make a great first impression. With the help of this article you are going to have a great time, so let’s dive right in!
Why is going on a date so stressful?
Despite the fact that technology has made it infinitely easier to get dates, it doesn’t change the fact that it can still fill some of us with a powerful cocktail of nerves and butterflies! You can open any dating app and get in touch with interesting people, but the first date itself can make you very nervous.
Why is that?
Well, it’s simply because we all want to make a great first impression. Unfortunately, the fact that it is so easy to get dates with the help of apps like Tinder and Bumble coupled with the fact that we live in a consumerist society means that we typically get one chance to make a good impression. The person can easily find someone else, so if they don’t enjoy your date chances are that you won’t hear from them again.
The result is that dating makes us feel like we have a huge amount of pressure on our shoulders and this can stress a person out.
What many people don’t understand is that preparation for a date is just as important as the date itself. You want to make sure you give yourself the best chance of having a great date by knowing how to prepare for it!
The most important things to do when you’re getting ready for your date!
When you are going on a date with someone you’re very interested in or excited to meet, it’s perfectly normal that you would be feeling a bit nervous about it. The best things to do before the date are activities that make you feel calmer and more confident.
On the day of your date, try to avoid being too busy or stressed out about all the errands you need to take care of. As your date is most likely in the evening, spend your afternoon doing something that you enjoy – even if it’s just reading a book on the couch. Don’t add to the stress by trying to do a million things at once.
1. As you begin getting ready for a date, think about what you will wear.
Both men and women are visual creatures and the way you present yourself is going to have an influence on their first impression of you. More importantly, your outfit should make you feel comfortable and confident. The more uncomfortable you are physically, the more uncomfortable you will feel in your mind.
When it comes to how you present yourself, make sure that you’ve taken a shower, washed your hair, brushed your teeth, and are wearing clean clothes. I know that this sounds very obvious, but I still have to say it. You’d be surprised at the number of people who don’t think about these things when they are going on dates.
People are impressed when they see you have together, so don’t neglect any details like combing your hair and cleaning under your fingernails!
2. Get a workout in before your date!
There is nothing better for giving you a boost of energy and confidence, and relieving stress than a bit of exercise. Working up a sweat and releasing is going to help you release any nervous energy that’s been building up.
Your endorphins will be flowing and you will be in an even better mood. This will help you to be charming as possible, and keep your nerves in check.
3. Double check that the date is still on.
We live busy lives so sometimes we forget about plans, we might double book, or we might assume that something is happening if no one talked about it for a few days. Check in with your dates a few hours before you are supposed to meet, and say something like, “Does still 8 still work for you?”
This shows him or her that you are thinking about the date. that you are considerate and that you are making sure it’s convenient for them.
4. Have some food before you go, especially if you’re going for drinks!
People often go on dates thinking there will be dinner involved and it ends up being drinks and some light snacks. I don’t have to tell you what happens when you start drinking on an empty stomach…
So make sure you’re well-prepared and don’t find yourself starving halfway through the date!
5. Find a way to relax before you go on this date.
It’s normal that you’re feeling nervous before a date, so take a relaxing bath and listen to some relaxing music. If it sounds good, have a glass of wine as well. Just be careful to not overdo it on the drinking before you go meet this person. We don’t want to get into any embarrassing situations!
6. Give yourself a pep talk before you head out.
Remind yourself that you are a fantastic person with lots of qualities and wonderful things that you can offer. If this person doesn’t see that and the date doesn’t go as well as you would have hoped, then it’s not worth it!
Do this and you’ll be in a better mood while taking some of the pressure off of your shoulders.
7. Don’t pretend to be somebody you’re not.
Many people go over how they’re going act, what they’re going to say, and what kind of image they want to present themselves to this new person. There is nothing wrong with that as long as you stay true to yourself! Behaving like somebody else will turn around and bite you later on down the line. Sooner or later the person you’re beginning to date will pick up on the fact that you aren’t being yourself, or you’re going to get tired of having to play a role. Either way, it’s not something that is going to benefit you in the long run.
8. Make sure you’re ready to begin dating.
I mention this one because some people force themselves to dive back into the dating world after a painful breakup, and then and then realize that they weren’t ready.
This reminds me of someone that recently came to me for help with bouncing back after a difficult breakup. Monica had come to me because her boyfriend of five and a half years had recently broken up with her. Friends and family encouraged her to get back out in the dating world and find someone to get her mind off of her ex right away. After a while, she was introduced to a guy that was both handsome and sweet, so she accepted to go out with him.
The date was going pretty well. The conversation was fluid, they were able to make each other laugh, and she realized that she had a few things in common with him… But the moment he tried to put his arm around her, she panicked. She immediately began thinking about her ex and felt like she was going to begin crying if she didn’t get out of there soon.
When she was telling me about this, she asked me why she had such a big reaction when the date was going well. The answer was simple – she simply wasn’t ready yet. She hadn’t taken the time to heal from the breakup and work on feeling better before beginning something new with someone else.
For some people, dating someone else right after a breakup is the one thing that makes them feel better, but it is also often related to issues with emotional dependency.
For other people, time is required before they can dive back into the dating pool.
When it comes to getting ready for date night, the most important thing is to be confident in yourself and go in with an open mind.
You don’t need to try to impress this person all the time, and you don’t need to wonder if you’re good enough for them. Don’t put him or her on a pedestal. In fact, he or she is probably just as nervous as you are right now! So go and have fun with it.
When you’re on the date: What to do when you’re finally there
Once you’re finally on that date and you realize that you’re really into this guy or this girl, you of course want to know if the feeling is mutual. If only we could read minds!!
Fortunately, even if it’s your first date, there are telltale signs that a person is really into you! I am going to outline some of these things right here for you and you’ll be ready for date number two!
There are some obvious signs and some subtle signs, so let’s take a look!
The most obvious thing to pay attention to is going to be body language. Are they intently looking at you when you speak? Are they smiling and facing you? How tactile are they? Do they reach out and touch you on the hand or on the arm at various moments in the conversation? Generally speaking, the more tactile a person is during a date, the more interested they are.
Next up, how flirty are they? When a person is into you, they’ll compliment you and flirt with you. This allows them to test the waters with you as well.
Pay attention to how curious he or she is about your life and the things you like to do. A person who is interested will be curious about who you are as a person!
Look at physical signs like eye contact. A person who isn’t into you is going to avoid your gaze as much as possible. That said, some people are shy and get nervous when they like someone, so they often look away. Trust your gut on this – you’ll be able to perceive how they’re feeling by the way they’re looking at you.
Did you know that we subconsciously mimic a person that we are interested in? Seriously! Pay attention to whether they touch their hair a few moments after you do, or if they do the same things with their arms that you are while you’re talking. You know the saying: imitation is the most sincere form of flattery!
So now that you know all about getting ready for a date, go have some fun!
Wishing you all the best,