Is he attracted to me: Here’s how to know for SURE!
As exciting it is to have someone that you’re interested in, it can also be nerve-wracking when you don’t know if he feels the same way. As I’m sure you’ve noticed, men aren’t great at expressing their feelings and you have found yourself wondering if he’s into you. Fortunately, there are some telltale signs that you can keep an eye out for if you’re wondering, “Is he attracted to me.” I am going to share 5 of the biggest ones with you and then give you some tips to help you dig deeper (without being obvious about it, don’t worry).
In some situations, a guy is just shy and it makes it even harder for you to figure out whether he really likes you or not, and in other situations, you might be confused about how things are developing with the guy you started to too. Whatever the case may be for you, I have got you covered!
Once you understand male psychology, it becomes easy to figure out whether or not he is attracted to you. The tips and tools you’re about to learn will serve you in any relationship that develops between you and someone you like, so let’s get started, ladies!
Is he attracted to me: Getting to the bottom of it
It’s true that every person is unique, but I have been a love and relationship coach since 2007 and I have worked with over 30,000 people. Throughout my career as a coach, I have been able to identify the patterns in human behavior and I can tell you what happens exactly when a man is attracted to someone. So if you were looking for “signs he is attracted to me,” you have come to the right place.
There are five signs I have for you, all of which are equally important. The very first one has to do with how eager this man is to get to know you better. The best way to understand him is to pay attention to how many questions he asks you. Is he curious about what you did over the weekend, the things you like, your passions, your relationship with your family, etc.? If he’s interested in learning more about you, it’s one of the biggest signs he is attracted to you. This is true even if this guy has been your friend for a really long time, or if you two have been colleagues for a while now. If he’s got lots of questions for you, it means that he is attracted and his interest is piqued.
The next thing I want you to keep an eye out for when you’re thinking, “I think he’s attracted to me” but aren’t 100% sure has to do with actions. The thing is, men are always looking for signs and that is why body language is so important. You’ve got to make sure that you don’t shy away from making eye contact with him, smile at him, and do small actions like saying hello to him. If you can do this, and if he’s attracted to you, he will immediately understand that this is a sign and come to you and reciprocate. If he doesn’t react, it either means that he’s scared or that he is uninterested. I know it’s uncomfortable to read, but in the majority of the cases, if he picks up on your signals and doesn’t react, it’s because he’s not interested… yet! I have an in-depth article on how to make a man want you that you can read here, so again, there are always solutions available to you.
It’s a great sign if a guy is reacting because it means that he understood your signal and is interested. And this brings me to the next point which is also extremely important…
The biggest signs he is attracted to you
The third indicator that I want to go over with you has to do with how active he is in finding ways to get closer to you. When a man is attracted to you, he will try to see you. There is no other option, ladies. It’s not about how often he texts you or calls you… When a man is interested in you he will do everything he can to make sure that he can see you in person.
I know that men’s behavior can be confusing and not always clear, but that is why I am making all of these articles and videos. That is why I have my seminars and books. I want to help you understand the male mind so that you can use this knowledge to grant yourself access to true happiness in love. So remember, we need to ensure that he’s being proactive. If he’s asking you questions, if he’s coming to you, and if he makes an effort to see you, then he is attracted!
Make sure that you’re confident and that you’re being yourself. If he feels that you have doubts about yourself or are lacking self-confidence, he will begin to lose interest. Remember, human beings are attracted to people who are loving the lives they live and are confident in who they are.
In addition to all of this, if you want to know more about the attraction signs men show, remember that a man who is attracted to you will pay attention to details. Have you ever met someone and you just don’t remember anything about them? You don’t remember their name, you don’t remember what they do for a living, you don’t remember most of what they said? Well, that happens when you don’t care… It’s human, it happens to everyone, but if this guy is remembering everything you tell him, he’s attracted!
If he’s paying attention, if he’s understanding and remembering the things you share, then it means he’s attracted. Does he recall your birthday? Does he ask about how it was seeing your mom over the weekend? Does he remember that you had an important meeting at work? If you’re unsure and you’re still asking, “Is he attracted to me,” then start to share details like this and see if he remembers them.
The fifth tip I have for you when you want to learn how to know when a guy is attracted to you also has to do with his actions but in a different way. So, a man will often try to please you but it doesn’t necessarily mean that he’s attracted to you. I know that sounds a little confusing. You see, there is a difference between a man that is slightly interested and a man that is genuinely attracted to you.
Let me explain. If a guy just brings you flowers, it doesn’t mean that much. Sure, it’s nice, but it’s generic. It’s easy. Everyone likes flowers and he didn’t need to think too hard about it. Now, if this man is going out of his way to surprise you based on the things he’s learned that you specifically like, then we are getting somewhere! When a man does this, it means that he’s more than attracted – he’s ready to rise to the challenge and make you understand that he thinks you’re special.
I have coached so many women who have told me, “Alex, he was sending me flowers and everything and then he disappeared. I don’t get it, was he not attracted to me?” The problem here is that the guy was kind of interested, but not interested enough. He could have made more of an effort but he didn’t try his best. It’s easy for a man to do something generically nice for you, but surprising you requires a whole different level of effort.
How to tell if a man is attracted to you and be 100% sure
My friends, it all boils down to his actions. If a man is involved, if he’s reaching out to you and figuring out ways to see you and surprise you, we are on the right track and he is attracted. Look at what he’s doing to learn about you and to be able to spend more time with you. I know that in some cases, you might feel that the connection is there but you aren’t quite sure because this guy seems to be a bit shy.
Is there any way to tell if he is attracted to you in this kind of situation? In many cases the women I coach don’t pay attention to their body language or don’t think about their smile, eye contact, or the way they compliment this guy. They are often worried about seeming too eager, but there is a way to strike a proper balance here. If you’re dealing with a shy guy, sometimes you have to open the door to him to show him that he can make a move.
We need to open the attraction process and start to flirt. Sometimes the first step is to help a shy guy organize a date with you. You can say, “Oh it would be so fun to go do something this weekend! What are your plans?” Then you will see how he reacts. If he says something like, “Oh yea, we could go to the beach,” then he’s open to letting something develop with you and chances are that he’s attracted. You are opening the door to allow him to make the first step, and if he does, then it’s a good sign. A man who is attracted to you will react to this.
In any case, you HAVE to be confident! Maybe you’ve been dating a guy and you aren’t sure of how he feels about you. To get a clearer picture, you have to pay attention to his actions. Men will always express more through their actions than through their words. There are many details to each situation and I am here to help you. If you would like more personalized advice, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me by clicking here. I can analyze your situation and tell you exactly what’s going on and how to make sure that this man is not only attracted to you but invested in what is developing between you! I also encourage you to download my free eBook so that you can learn everything about how a man’s mind works and how to create the relationship that you have always dreamed of.
You are in control of more than you might realize and you can get the guy you want.
I sincerely wish you all the best in life and love.
Ciao ciao les amies!
Your French relationship coach,
Unfortunately I have already done everything wrong. I know for sure he is no longer intersted. He is always nice and kind but he asks me nothing or remembers anything.
I do all of that….
Thank you so much for your advice.
I will stop calling, texting.
And if he does initiate…I will wait to reply or maybe not at all.