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Is he attracted to me: Here’s how to know for SURE!

by | August 31st 2020 | 1 comment

As exciting it is to have someone that you’re interested in, it can also be nerve-wracking when you don’t know if he feels the same way. As I’m sure you’ve noticed, men aren’t great at expressing their feelings and you have found yourself wondering if he’s into you. Fortunately, there are some telltale signs that you can keep an eye out for if you’re wondering, “Is he attracted to me.” I am going to share 5 of the biggest ones with you and then give you some tips to help you dig deeper (without being obvious about it, don’t worry).

In some situations, a guy is just shy and it makes it even harder for you to figure out whether he really likes you or not, and in other situations, you might be confused about how things are developing with the guy you started to too. Whatever the case may be for you, I have got you covered!

Once you understand male psychology, it becomes easy to figure out whether or not he is attracted to you. The tips and tools you’re about to learn will serve you in any relationship that develops between you and someone you like, so let’s get started, ladies!

Is he attracted to me: Getting to the bottom of it

It’s true that every person is unique, but I have been a love and relationship coach since 2007 and I have worked with over 30,000 people. Throughout my career as a coach, I have been able to identify the patterns in human behavior and I can tell you what happens exactly when a man is attracted to someone. So if you were looking for “signs he is attracted to me,” you have come to the right place.

There are five signs I have for you, all of which are equally important. The very first one has to do with how eager this man is to get to know you better. The best way to understand him is to pay attention to how many questions he asks you. Is he curious about what you did over the weekend, the things you like, your passions, your relationship with your family, etc.? If he’s interested in learning more about you, it’s one of the biggest signs he is attracted to you. This is true even if this guy has been your friend for a really long time, or if you two have been colleagues for a while now. If he’s got lots of questions for you, it means that he is attracted and his interest is piqued.did i scare him away

The next thing I want you to keep an eye out for when you’re thinking, “I think he’s attracted to me” but aren’t 100% sure has to do with actions. The thing is, men are always looking for signs and that is why body language is so important. You’ve got to make sure that you don’t shy away from making eye contact with him, smile at him, and do small actions like saying hello to him. If you can do this, and if he’s attracted to you, he will immediately understand that this is a sign and come to you and reciprocate. If he doesn’t react, it either means that he’s scared or that he is uninterested. I know it’s uncomfortable to read, but in the majority of the cases, if he picks up on your signals and doesn’t react, it’s because he’s not interested… yet! I have an in-depth article on how to make a man want you that you can read here, so again, there are always solutions available to you.

It’s a great sign if a guy is reacting because it means that he understood your signal and is interested. And this brings me to the next point which is also extremely important…

The biggest signs he is attracted to you

The third indicator that I want to go over with you has to do with how active he is in finding ways to get closer to you. When a man is attracted to you, he will try to see you. There is no other option, ladies. It’s not about how often he texts you or calls you… When a man is interested in you he will do everything he can to make sure that he can see you in person.

I know that men’s behavior can be confusing and not always clear, but that is why I am making all of these articles and videos. That is why I have my seminars and books. I want to help you understand the male mind so that you can use this knowledge to grant yourself access to true happiness in love. So remember, we need to ensure that he’s being proactive. If he’s asking you questions, if he’s coming to you, and if he makes an effort to see you, then he is attracted!

Make sure that you’re confident and that you’re being yourself. If he feels that you have doubts about yourself or are lacking self-confidence, he will begin to lose interest. Remember, human beings are attracted to people who are loving the lives they live and are confident in who they are.

In addition to all of this, if you want to know more about the attraction signs men show, remember that a man who is attracted to you will pay attention to details. Have you ever met someone and you just don’t remember anything about them? You don’t remember their name, you don’t remember what they do for a living, you don’t remember most of what they said? Well, that happens when you don’t care… It’s human, it happens to everyone, but if this guy is remembering everything you tell him, he’s attracted!In other cases, and this is a less pleasant thought, it can actually be because the guy has lost a bit of interest. That said, even if you’re currently thinking, “He stopped texting me and I’m not sure what to do,” there are plenty of options. There are no magic solutions, but I have three techniques that will help you turn things around and make this guy want to spend way more time with you! What to do when someone doesn’t reply to your texts: The 3 solutions Right about now you might be wondering, “Should I call him” but we are going to need to focus on YOU and your actions. You may also be wondering if you should be playing games to get his attention but the answer is no. Games are never a good idea because they could undermine the foundation of this relationship and you can end up getting very hurt. If you play games, it becomes much easier for him to take you for granted, lose interest and not pay attention to the things that you are doing. Instead, we need to inspire him to want to get closer to you. But how? He doesn’t respond to my texts: Getting busy One of the things that I talk about the most frequently with my clients is the importance of understanding the human mind and how we operate. Remember that we, as human beings, are attracted to the things that we feel that we do not possess, and we take for granted the things that we feel we do possess. When we apply this concept to relationships, it is easy to see why it’s so important to be independent and give people space (and the opportunity to miss you)! It’s easy to get carried away when a relationship begins and dedicate all our time and energy to it. Unfortunately, this is also often when the other person starts to become more distant. They realize that you’re no longer an exciting challenge and it becomes dangerously easy for them to take you for granted. So the first solution when he doesn’t text back is to fill up your schedule and get busy. If he isn’t texting you back, it means he isn’t valuing you, so you have to show him how amazing your life is. It’s not a game, but you can show that your life is fun. If you make it seem inaccessible simply by not reaching out to him all the time, you’ll whet his appetite and grab his attention. Enjoy your time with your friends and family, focus on your passions and your hobbies, and work towards your personal and professional goals. It will be great for you if you can do this. You won’t have the time to think about why he’s not texting you, you won’t be glancing at your phone, and you’ll be changing your habits. This will set you up for longterm success in love, my friends. What to do when he doesn’t text you back: Make your life exciting Remember what I was saying about how people value what they think they don’t have? Well, a lot of the women who come to me asking about what to do when a guy doesn’t text them back aren’t showcasing how exciting their lives actually are. They place all their focus on the guy and trying to get him to talk to them, and in doing so, they wind up inadvertently making the guy feel like he’s the center of the universe. Sadly, after a while this gets boring and he can lose interest. Maybe your life isn’t as amazing and inspiring as you want it to be right now, or maybe it is and you just haven’t been making an effort to communicate that to this guy, but now is the time to make some changes. We want him to look at you and think “Wow, she’s incredible… I want to know more about her and all the interesting things she does.” A man is going to pursue a woman that he thinks he can’t have! So when you talk to this guy the next time, make sure you let him in on the fun and exciting things you’ve been doing. Pay attention to your tone of voice. Show him how happy you are in your life. Tell him that today was the most amazing day because you did something wild like skydiving for the first time. These types of emotions are great because they’re very magnetic. You can share things through pictures as well, and we need to change the communication between you. If you can send him voice notes, pictures or even talk to him on the phone, you’ll have a much easier time conveying your positive energy. I know you don't want to make the first step, but changing the way you two are communicating is a great way to get his attention. How to get a guy to text you: Focus on real life As I was saying above, some people are just terrible texters. I have some friends that are basically impossible to talk to via text but are actually quite fun when you’re with them. If your guy isn’t great at texting, I encourage you to make the moments you spend together in real life extra special. The key to making a guy want to commit to you is to make them associate you with fun, positivity and a great time. The more special the time you spend together feels, the more time he will want to spend with you. You’ll see, it’s like clockwork. Instead of focusing on talking to each other via text message and messenger, think outside of the box and figure out what new places you could check out for dates. Focus on doing things you’ve never done before, and going places you’ve never gone before. Make things feel fresh and he’ll gravitate towards you. Even if you see that he’s online and he’s not talking to you, don’t sweat it. It’s ok if he’s not messaging you constantly. It’s also OK if he takes his time before responding to you. If you feel that he’s genuinely uninterested, then I encourage you to reach out to me so that we can create a tailor-made action plan to make him crave your attention. We can create new reactions, help you to be cool and zen. That way, you can easily show this guy that you are different. To work with me, just click here! Navigating a guy’s perspective on texting I know that we men can be confusing in our actions sometimes. But that’s just it. We’re all about action. So texting isn’t always the easiest way to communicate. We want to have experiences, so I encourage you to really focus on making your life rich with exciting and attractive experiences, and I encourage you to make every moment you spend with this guy special. Take your time and don’t put too much pressure on yourself. The more confident you are in yourself, and the more fulfilled you’re feeling in your own life, the easier it will be to attract this man. Don’t let him play with your emotions or make you doubt yourself. Just work on being the best version of yourself and live the life of your dreams. This is how you’ll attract a man like a moth to a flame and make him crave your attention. Switch up the platform you use to communicate with this guy and allow your personality to shine through! Remember, we want to achieve what we are attracted to and we feel we don’t have. So think of yourself as the main prize. If you can adopt this mindset, you’ll see a huge change in the situation! As always, I am here to help you with whatever you need. Sincerely, Your coach when you want to know why he doesn’t text back

If he’s paying attention, if he’s understanding and remembering the things you share, then it means he’s attracted. Does he recall your birthday? Does he ask about how it was seeing your mom over the weekend? Does he remember that you had an important meeting at work? If you’re unsure and you’re still asking, “Is he attracted to me,” then start to share details like this and see if he remembers them.

The fifth tip I have for you when you want to learn how to know when a guy is attracted to you also has to do with his actions but in a different way. So, a man will often try to please you but it doesn’t necessarily mean that he’s attracted to you. I know that sounds a little confusing. You see, there is a difference between a man that is slightly interested and a man that is genuinely attracted to you.

Let me explain. If a guy just brings you flowers, it doesn’t mean that much. Sure, it’s nice, but it’s generic. It’s easy. Everyone likes flowers and he didn’t need to think too hard about it. Now, if this man is going out of his way to surprise you based on the things he’s learned that you specifically like, then we are getting somewhere! When a man does this, it means that he’s more than attracted – he’s ready to rise to the challenge and make you understand that he thinks you’re special.

I have coached so many women who have told me, “Alex, he was sending me flowers and everything and then he disappeared. I don’t get it, was he not attracted to me?” The problem here is that the guy was kind of interested, but not interested enough. He could have made more of an effort but he didn’t try his best. It’s easy for a man to do something generically nice for you, but surprising you requires a whole different level of effort.

How to tell if a man is attracted to you and be 100% sure

My friends, it all boils down to his actions. If a man is involved, if he’s reaching out to you and figuring out ways to see you and surprise you, we are on the right track and he is attracted. Look at what he’s doing to learn about you and to be able to spend more time with you. I know that in some cases, you might feel that the connection is there but you aren’t quite sure because this guy seems to be a bit shy.

Is there any way to tell if he is attracted to you in this kind of situation? In many cases the women I coach don’t pay attention to their body language or don’t think about their smile, eye contact, or the way they compliment this guy. They are often worried about seeming too eager, but there is a way to strike a proper balance here. If you’re dealing with a shy guy, sometimes you have to open the door to him to show him that he can make a move.

We need to open the attraction process and start to flirt. Sometimes the first step is to help a shy guy organize a date with you. You can say, “Oh it would be so fun to go do something this weekend! What are your plans?” Then you will see how he reacts. If he says something like, “Oh yea, we could go to the beach,” then he’s open to letting something develop with you and chances are that he’s attracted. You are opening the door to allow him to make the first step, and if he does, then it’s a good sign. A man who is attracted to you will react to this.HOW TO MAKE A MAN CHASE YOU

In any case, you HAVE to be confident! Maybe you’ve been dating a guy and you aren’t sure of how he feels about you. To get a clearer picture, you have to pay attention to his actions. Men will always express more through their actions than through their words. There are many details to each situation and I am here to help you. If you would like more personalized advice, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me by clicking here. I can analyze your situation and tell you exactly what’s going on and how to make sure that this man is not only attracted to you but invested in what is developing between you! I also encourage you to download my free eBook so that you can learn everything about how a man’s mind works and how to create the relationship that you have always dreamed of.

You are in control of more than you might realize and you can get the guy you want.

I sincerely wish you all the best in life and love.

Ciao ciao les amies!

Your French relationship coach,

Alex Cormont

1 Comment

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    Unfortunately I have already done everything wrong. I know for sure he is no longer intersted. He is always nice and kind but he asks me nothing or remembers anything.
    I do all of that….
    Thank you so much for your advice.

    I will stop calling, texting.
    And if he does initiate…I will wait to reply or maybe not at all.


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