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How to seduce a man and make him really fall for you!

by | July 2nd 2018 | 16 comments

Have you just met a man that you really like? Are you feeling all kinds of butterflies when you think about him? Would you like to make him fall for you? What are the best tips on how to seduce a man and get in control of your love life? What’s the best way to make him develop serious feelings for you while always being yourself around him?

Hello everyone and welcome to my site. I am Alex Cormont, an expert in love and relationships since 2007. I’ve worked with thousands and thousands of women in their quest for happiness in love, so I’ve been able to identify the main problems that present themselves in love and seduction, especially when it comes to attracting the man you like! Let’s get straight to the heart of the matter with 6 rules on how to seduce a man that I will develop throughout this article, but don’t just stop there. I have much more to share with you!

How to seduce a man?

1. Don’t be too needy or too attached
2. Reveal yourself little by little
3. You must make him see you as something vital in his life
4. Make him miss you by alternating between great moments spent together and a bit of distance
5. Focus on happiness before commitment
6. Don’t place him on a pedestal

I often evoke rule #6 because I often see that you have a very easy time seducing someone that doesn’t interest you and makes the effort to approach you. In this situation, we could even say that you remain completely natural and are not really trying to make him find you attractive!

Unfortunately, when it comes to seducing a man you like very much, a man with whom you’d like to build something, a man that might be a bit resistant or not equally interested… Well, panic sets in. You start to act in a way that is the opposite of how you should be acting, and the man that had been hesitant up until now tends to pull further away!

Rest assured, I’ve taken the time to create this special article dedicated to how to seduce a man, and it will provide you with the best coaching tips that I share with the women who trust me and come to me for help with getting back in control of their love lives.

In this article you will discover:
– The various issues that most women encounter
– How you can get his attention without playing a role and ensuring that you act like yourself
– And I will provide you with concrete solutions for making a man want to establish a committed relationship with you and fall in love with you for good! If you’re looking for a serious relationship, make sure you pay close attention!

Please don’t hesitate to post your questions in the comments section below, and it would be my pleasure to reply and point you towards the best solution possible. Pay close attention to what you’re about to read because your love life is about to get revolutionized!

Seducing a man: Why is it so hard to find love today?

This is more of an observation that I reflect on during my coaching sessions. You get the impression that everything is so complicated and that it’s going to be so hard to find the right guy. In reality, you are not totally wrong! It is not easy to meet your soul mate and live happily ever after in complete peace and harmony… We live in a consumer society where everything happens at light speed and if you want to seduce a man you like, you have to correspond to everything he wants in a woman. If you vary the way you meet people, it’s even possible to have multiple dates with different guys in one week.

That said, even if we must admit that things aren’t perfect, you have to keep in mind the fact that you can meet someone at any time, anywhere. Technology has revolutionized love not only with dating sites and dating apps, but also just with the use of cellphones. When I began trying to seduce my very first girlfriends, I had to call their house phones if I wanted to talk to them… I can tell you that when the dads would answer the phone, I was quickly thrown off! So, by digging a little deeper and solving the issues my coachees have been facing, I’ve been able to identify some of the mental blocks that men have today. As soon as you understand these elements, you possess the key to seduction… You’ll be surprised to see that their past is often the main source of complications and expectations.

These are the main reasons that explain why it’s so difficult to find love. By understanding and analyzing them, you’ll be able to figure out how to play your cards right. You’ll finally be able to say, “I am going to meet the guy that’s right for me” and succeed in doing so! But before this happens, you’ve got to master all of the steps that I’m about to share with you.

When your past relationships condition the way you behave today

If you analyse your love life up until today, you’ll often see that your past actually conditions all of your actions. I often say that as adults, we are reflections of our childhood and experiences. The most poignant example to think about is that your experiences with past boyfriends can be repeated again with other men… But always remember: Each person is entirely unique, and in order to seduce a man, you have to keep this in mind.

In Love, there are two types of past experiences that will have a considerable influence and will determine the way you act, as well as the way that the men you might meet may act. In order to fully understand your reactions and men’s mental blocks, especially those that have a tendency to pull away when you start using the word “relationship,” I invite you to study the role that your past and their pasts play.
Your personal past and childhood influence the present!

No one can deny that a person’s childhood and relationship with their parents are determining factors in the way we behave as adults, and that it directly affects our self confidence… Which by the way is an essential element of seduction and healthy relationships.

You must accept your past, work on any mental blocks you may have, and live in peace and harmony with all of your experiences so that you can make your way towards a happy and healthy love life.

If you feel that your relationships are suffering today because you lack self confidence or because you didn’t receive enough love as a child, I’d like you to know that there are many exercises and products on this page that can help guide you step by step. It is primarily through taking action that you[re going to get back in control of your love life and daily life. Don’t you want to do a little more now to ensure that you can be as happy as can be?
I am a field coach and I come across these issues on a daily basis. That is why I know how important these actions are in order to get you closer to your goals.

Don’t forget to inverse the analysis process because you also have to put yourself in his shoes. Study his mental blocks and the problems he may have faced when he was a child or adolescent. This is often the absolute best way to understand many of the most important aspects of a relationship. For example:
– His expectations
– What he likes
– His needs
– His ambiguities (Like the famous, “I want to be in a relationship but not yet.”)

This aspect is essential but you should not be too needy or be at his beck and call. Your wants and needs are just as important! This is why it’s so important to find the perfect balance both when it comes to having relationships and seducing men.

The romantic past: How to get over past disappointments in love

Your past experiences in love are undoubtedly going to play a role in how you act today, and the same goes for men that you meet. If you take a look in your “heart-shaped rear view mirror,” you’ll notice that there are only breakups, conflicts, tensions, and just a few relationships that all still ended up in separations…

Even if you’ve already experienced beautiful love stories, the freshest memory is still the failure of these relationships as they all ended the same way. Even if the decision to separate was yours, it was simply because you were no longer happy and you began to suffer in the relationship.
It is now obligatory to move on from your past experiences in love, let go of both positive and negative elements of it, and focus solely on the present moment. I meet many women who are trying to recreate the same exact relationship they had with their ex, and this is completely impossible. Don’t try to force something impossible into existence. There are two possibilities under these circumstances: Either you try to get your ex back, or you mourn the relationship and move on so that you can give an actual chance to another man.

The same goes for any man you meet that is still holding on to his past because he had just divorced or is still in love with his ex. I suggest you abort the mission! As long as a person has not let go of his or her past, it’s going to be very challenging to convince them to enter into a committed relationship.

How to entice a man: The problem with having a “false start”

One of the most common situations I work to help people with on a daily basis is something I refer to as “a false start.” It consists of these very intense relationships that only last a few weeks or months, in which the breakup occurs very suddenly (even though there were serious declarations of love). Pain and incomprehension reign because in the end, the man ends the relationship as a result of having understood that you began the relationship too quickly, without really having known one another.

You end up being dumbfounded, because it was often he who went into the relationship full throttle, without even talking about it with you. You were so happy to see a man who was able to commit and be enthusiastic about it, and so you went with it. Unfortunately from one day to the next, he became distant, gave you less attention, and a few days later it was all over.

This is surely something you’ve experienced at some point, so I now encourage you to make the seduction phase last longer than you’re used to. This way, you won’t be overcome by love-related emotions too early on.

These relationships complicate your chances of finding Love because very often it is the men who are at the initiative. They do not hesitate to declare their love for you right off the bat but then they go back on their word a few weeks later. Generally speaking, this happens because they haven’t moved on from their past, or they genuinely thought they were in love and then realized that it was not the case. Bear in mind that something that builds up too quickly can burn out just as fast. It’s up to you to keep an eye on how things are developing and don’t hesitate to apply the breaks if it’s going too fast. Just be careful to properly set things up or your partner might end up becoming disenchanted.

This is why I want you to get in control of seduction and be proactive about seducing a guy! Don’t hesitate to show what you want, while taking the time to build something stable.

Here’s how to seduce a guy

After focusing on the modern issues with dating and seduction, I felt it was important to follow it up with my coaching philosophy so that you would have a different approach to meeting and seducing guys.

As a love and relationship coach, I enjoy going deeper in my work and refining my analyses so that I can draw connections between the different situations that I encounter. I’ve come to one conclusion: Seducing a man today consists of being yourself and acting naturally so that you can showcase your strengths, accept any flaws, learn how to reveal yourself little by little, all while looking for the way to combine both of your goals for the future.

Be careful, I do not mean that you should try to found a full fledged, committed relationship immediately. I mean you have to be aware of the fact that there is nothing more powerful than two people that accept one another and become stronger as a result. This is also why physical attraction cannot be the only reason for getting into a relationship with someone…

How to seduce men: Becoming a seductress

In 2009 I coached a woman who asked me something that really stuck with me. Without wasting any time, she quickly asked, “How can I become a seductress?” She wanted to know what to do to seduce a man because she felt like all the guys she liked never made the first move.
It is a reality in today’s day and age. I encounter more and more women who want to learn how to be more in control of seduction and not leave the success of their love life up to other people.

Do you also feel this desire to be in control of who makes the first move? Do you want to put all the odds in your favor?
There are tools that exists that can help you to be naturally seductive while making a man see you as the grand prize! In this section, I’m going to present to you the method I used to help Brigitte reach her full potential in terms of seduction without changing anything about her personality. She remained herself, but even better!

Using charm to seduce men

In order to be seductive you have to be charming. It’s a difficult thing to define, but it’s what can make a person like you in the blink of an eye. Charm is what makes you attractive, what can get his attention, and what makes a good impression.

In order to develop your personal charm, you have to become more self confident. This is the key, because it helps you to stand up straight, have a natural and magnetic smile, speak in a seductive tone of voice, and be confident in your ability to seduce.

Charm can’t really be defined (in my opinion) but it’s something that you pick up on right away. A man will have no trouble recognizing the fact that you’re aware of your strengths and potential, and that is exactly what he is going to like. It’s crucial that you exude good energy.

If you don’t feel like you’re charming, it means that you need to work on how you see yourself. You’ve got to invest time and energy into making yourself feel seductive and attractive when you look in the mirror and develop the way you communicate, so that you can feel joy on a daily basis and open up to being more social. Every single human being has something to offer as a result of their past experiences, knowledge, and abilities, and if you become aware of what you bring to the table you can completely revolutionize your love life!

The attitude to have if you want to catch a guy’s attention

The advantage that you have, ladies, is that we live in a society largely influenced by traditions and habits. What’s more, in France, where I am from, it’s always up to the man to make the first move… contrary to cultures like those in Scandinavian countries or in Quebec. There, seduction isn’t only up to men.

You therefore have an advantage when it comes to enticing men… You don’t always have to be the first to take the initiative. That said, this doesn’t mean that you can’t do anything to send a signal to the man you’ve got your eye on.

To put it simply, I am referring to the notion of “body language,” which I refer to as Indirect Seduction. When you’re with a man that you like or a man that’s caught your eye at a party, you’re going to have to adopt the attitude of a seductress and use the two most powerful weapons that a seductress possesses: You look in your eye and your smile. The two go hand in hand!

When I meet women who say, “Alex I was looking over at him for ten minutes and he still didn’t dare come talk to me,” I am caught off guard because my advice is being distorted… So I say, “Right but if you weren’t smiling and if you were just slouching in your chair not daring to look him straight in the eye… Men typically won’t get the message you’re trying to send!”

When you want to know the best way to seduce a man and make him want to make the first move, which I know is not easy, you just need to have a generally seductive and open attitude.

This is the moment to use eye contact and a beautiful yet discrete smile (and not for ten minutes straight). It will put you on the right path. Ideally, you should let him catch you glance over at him, and then a few seconds later, look back a little bit more directly with a subtle smile. If you get no reaction, repeat this action one or two times a little more deliberately.

How to seduce him: Flirt with him to make him fall for you!

Flirtation is an essential element of seduction, and I wanted to go over it with you because I see that a lot of people have the tendency to shy away from it. They’re afraid of not being good enough at it, not finding the right guy, and they’re afraid of meeting a stranger or finding that this person is not interested.
And yet, flirting is an excellent tool for getting to know a person by using humor and lightening the situation.

The main goal is to entice men by being quick-witted. As you can imagine, your self confidence is going to play a big role here and will help build your ability to seduce while establishing a connection with the man you’ve just met.

As you enter into the realm of flirtation, you’ve got to show that you don’t take yourself too seriously, and that you’re interested in the guy you’re talking to by making some heartfelt remarks and observations. Don’t hesitate to invite him into your world by sharing your taste in music, your hobbies, your favorite food…

Why should the ideas for the first dates come solely from the guy? And why go to the same old, cliché places like a “Café, restaurant, movie theater…?” These places have become boring and obsolete so it’s time to spice things up. You are going to want to show him who you are during the first date, and the best way to do this is with activities that you really like! In my book, The Code of Love, I share the story of a woman who had failed miserably with her first date, but was then able to make up for it amazingly well. You can do the same!

Ladies, you too can propose things that will intrigue him and let him enjoy the present moment. You aren’t going to have to torture yourself, wondering if he likes you. He’ll be having a great time, knowing that he’s having fun getting to know a unique woman!

Flirtation is a wonderful tool for surprising men, because too few women use it. It would really be a deadly weapon that allows you to get any man you want, without being needy at all. Sounds pretty perfect right?!

Ways to seduce a man and fight his fear of commitment

In the first section of this article, I shared the importance of a person’s emotional past when it came to investing in a new relationship. Being in a relationship is scary because it can bring all kinds of past disappointments and disillusionments to mind.

This is where the fear of commitment comes from in men. He doesn’t want to be hurt again, he’s afraid to become attached, and he doesn’t want to get wrapped up in something that could end like his past relationships ended.

On the other hand, we find that some men are actually just afraid of not being head ove heels in love. I know that this might surprise you, but some men are looking for those famous butterflies, and they want to find someone with whom they want to spend all their time. If they’re not passionately in love, they might begin to have doubts, which is exactly when the fear of commitment settles in.

In this special article on how to seduce a man, I’ve made the decision to give you more resources as I know how much a person can suffer in these types of situations. There is nothing worse than feeling distraught and not understanding the situation, and that is precisely why you’re looking for answers for your questions… You are no longer on your own now – You’ve got a professional specialized in human relationships by your side!

Why doesn’t a guy who says he’s happy commit to you?

You’ve met a guy that has everything you’re looking for! You’ve found a gem but there’s just one problem… He doesn’t want to be in a relationship, or at least it doesn’t look like he does.

However, he tells you how happy he is with you, that he thinks you’re really special, that you’re the perfect woman, and sometimes he might even say, “I’ve never felt anything like this for someone before.”

Unfortunately, this doesn’t seem to be enough to make him want to actually get in a relationship with you. This would be mind boggling for anyone…
Ladies, the first rule in seducing men is to never listen to what they say. I know that’s hard to do because you really like it when he talks about how he feels about you, but you have to admit that sometimes this situation plays tricks on you. So instead of listening to his words, you have to pay attention to his actions.

As a result of my experience as a coach, I’ve come to realize that there are two types of seduction. The first is based on the emotional aspect, as you want to begin a relationship with this man, and the second aspect consists of “power play” between you (even though I really dislike using this term…)
It’s all about the theory of “Chase me and I’ll run,” in which your role will be to put some distance between you so that you can make him fall for you. As soon as this happens, he will want to be with you. From this point on, there will be no more idle words; things will begin to fall into place! Generally speaking, this period lasts from one to six months. Anything longer than that becomes tiresome for both people involved.

That said, if you’re trying to rationalize the situation, talk to him about it, reassure him because he says he’s been hurt in the past, while hoping that this will make him want to invest, well, you risk being sorely disappointed.

A woman who is TOO much in love becomes less attractive!

I say this sentence to all women who contact me for help because the man they want doesn’t want to commit but has no hesitation when it comes to sleeping together:

A man will NEVER fall in love if he sees that you’re excessively into him
You’re going to look for reassurance that, “He definitely loves me in all of these words and gestures.” By doing so, you’re becoming needy. It will be hard for him to become truly attached because you’ve revealed everything you feel for him in one single motion.
In certain situations, you should not place too much focus on the “emotional” analysis in order to know if he really loves you. Instead, you should focus more on the “power play” between you.

Once again, the “Chase me and I’ll run” technique should be employed if you want to make this indecisive man decide to finally give this relationship a real shot. Keep this step in mind so that you can get rid of any bad habits. As human beings we are attracted to the idea of revealing our feelings, but this doesn’t seem to have yielded positive results for you yet.

I should also mention that there are varying degrees of revealing what you feel. Sometimes it’s fine to share a bit, but the problem arises when you disclose too much. If you reveal it all immediately, what effort would he still have to make in order to woo you? It’s simple, none at all! The result is that he gets to just lean back and doesn’t have to do anything to make things change.

I’m going to repeat myself because it’s very important… You can’t attract a man if you reveal all of your feelings to him. It’s counter productive and you’re going to convince him that he’s got you under his thumb. You will no longer present an exciting challenge. Why would he give himself any constraints? It would be easier to live without commitment, because in any case he knows that you’ll be around tonight if he wants to invite you over. If you really want to seduce him, you need to show him that what he thought he knew is totally wrong.

A message to anyone that’s been hurt in the past!

I couldn’t write this article without including a message to all women who have experienced serious heartbreak in the past. Whether you had been with a manipulative narcissist, whether you had a difficult childhood, or if you have been subjected to molestation or rape, please know that I work with many people in your situation and that you are not alone.

I am here to help you get to the other side of this and to rebuild your self confidence, and to help you forget your past so that you can build a bright future. These are never easy situations but we can give it our all. Together, we can get through it and usher the incredible feeling that is Love into your life.
Don’t let a guy be in charge of the joy you feel in your love life, and get rid of bad habits starting today!

You can ask me anything you like in the comments section below, and I would be more than happy to reply and help you be happy in love and meet the right guy!

Best wishes,
Your love and relationship coach for knowing how to seduce a man,
Alex Cormont


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    Hi Alex, I like the “false start” in this article. This really hit home for me. I am a woman who has an open heart and sometimes men take advantage. I need to learn how to seduce a man and make him really fall for you. i will follow these tips. thank you.

    • Alex Cormont

      You need to take your time Amanda and to enjoy the process of letting a man chasing you 🙂

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      Hi Alex,
      Is there a way you can coach me?

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    Thank you for the article. But do you thing is it right to have emotional relationship before marriage? 🌹🌹🌹🌹

    • Alex Cormont

      Hello Aisha, thank you for your comment. I think having an emotional relationship is important to make sure you’re a right fit. Best. Alex

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    Hi Alex, Why do guys put women down on the first few dates? Are they insecure?

    • Alex Cormont

      Hello Nat, they are trying to get the control and to manipulate women…

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    I have been dating a guy, and took things slow in the beginning. I felt like he wanted a relationship but I needed time. After a while I wanted to give more, because I wanted to show him I was interested. He started giving less and less, and now I feel like we have to start over again. I am the one initiating contact, most of the time, but when I do he seems interested. The only problem is that we hardly ever hang out anymore, and he does not initiate much contact. Should I go cold turkey, and wait for him to make a move? I am afraid we won’t speak anymore if I do. In my mind I am too impatient and kind of want to call it quits if he does not step up his game. But at the same time I think this is a pattern of mine. I get attached to guys because they show their interest to me, suddenly they show less, and this makes me confused, and I feel like calling things of right away if it doesn’t get better. Help, what do I do?

    • Alex Cormont

      Hi Anna,
      Thank you for reading my blog, How to seduce a man. Take your time and try to be more patient. Also listen to your intuition.

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    Hey Alex,

    my name is Maria da Conquista and I’m from Brazil.
    I just found you on internet and I Really like your content.
    THanks for helping me to turn into the woman I wanna be.

    Regards from Sao Paulo

    • Alex Cormont

      Hi Conquista,
      Thank you for reading this blog and sharing your comment. I am so glad that my advice is helping you become the woman you aspire to be. So glad to have viewers from Brazil. Have a good day.

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    Hi Alex,

    I’m afraid that I don’t have the ability to make a guy fall head over heels. I’m struggling with this. My boyfriend of 6 years left me because he was not in love. I’m afraid it’ll never happen for me. I’m 40 now.

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      I like your article. Do u do private season? I really need relationship coach l guess 🙂

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    Hi Alex! 🙂 I loved the article! I have been single for a year now and last time I was single there was no tinder, WhatsApp or Instagram. So the relationship between people in general was a bit different. Not that superficial and people were more committed to try because it wasn’t that easy to find someone, I would say.
    I already got a lot of answers on your articles, but have a question for an specific situation! What if you already told him that you really like him, and he changed his behavior after this? Is there something we can do to “solve” it and bring him back to the game? Maybe some distance? Or you think is all over already? 😅 Thank you for your attention and for sharing all this! 🙂

    • Alex Cormont

      Hi Emily,
      Thanks for your comment. It’s hard for me to know without knowing the extent of the relationship. I would encourage a coaching session but I do think that if you answer “yes” to this question. Space and letting him come to you would be the best thing. Do you feel as though you may be more emotionally invested, and does he initiate less than you?
      Coach Alex

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    Let the chase begging and never stop!



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