Stop Chasing Him: Expert Secrets To Attract A Guy!
One lucky guy has captured your attention. You get those butterflies whenever you think about him, and your heart seems to beat faster when you’re around him! You can’t get him out of your head, and you catch yourself daydreaming about kissing him all the time. Needless to say, you’ve got a full blown crush on this guy! So you want to get closer to him. You feel like there is some serious potential between you. Perhaps the guy in question is actually your ex boyfriend, and you’ve been trying to show him that you want to give the relationship another shot!
You’ve been putting yourself out there, showing interest, and you haven’t been afraid to make the first move. Hats off to you! The only problem is that it doesn’t seem to be getting you the results you want… Why is that? In this article, I am going to explain what’s going on here and what you can change to get the results you want. I encourage you to stop chasing him and see what happens, and you will see why in a moment!
It’s scary because you feel like you’re going to miss an opportunity with this person if you stop chasing him, but you are going to see that the more suffocated a person feels, the less they will want to be around you! There is a balance to be found, so let’s dive into what that looks like!
Why chasing a guy gets you further away from your goal
As human beings, we always want to get closer to our goals. We want to feel like we are in control, and we want to be rewarded for our behavior. This is true for both men and women, and it’s a very important element to take into consideration when you want to make someone pursue you, invest in a relationship with you, or show more interest.
I know that right now you’re probably fed up of not getting the results you have been hoping for. Why isn’t he reciprocating? Why isn’t he reaching out to you as much as you would like or as much as he used to? Does it feel like he’s ignoring you…? You might even be so fed up that you’re ready to just stop chasing him and see what happens, and that’s actually great!
You see, we human beings have a very interesting characteristic. In order for us to truly value something, to truly want to hold on to it and cherish it, we have to feel like we were rewarded with it. This means that more often than not, when we value something, we had to work for it.
So think about it this way, are you presenting an interesting challenge to this man? Or are you handing him all of you on a silver platter?
When you chase him, he doesn’t have to do anything. You’re at his beck and call, he knows that he can get something from you whenever he feels like it, and the result is that your value decreases in his eyes. I know that that isn’t pleasant to hear, but I want you to see why it’s so important to stop pursuing him excessively.
Ok, so am I saying that you need to pull out the big guns and start using the no contact rule? Well, all of that is going to depend on your situation. Are you trying to get back with your ex and have you been blowing up his phone day and night? If so, yes, this tool could be useful for you. Are we talking about the guy that you’ve developed serious feelings for? Then no, complete radio silence isn’t the way to go. If you’ve been overdoing it and he has reason to feel suffocated, you just need to take it down a few notches.
In both cases, you need to take your focus off of this guy and put it on yourself…
Stop chasing him and see what happens!
How to stop chasing him and spark his interest
As I was saying, it’s time to stop chasing him and see what happens. But how do you do that? Well, it all starts in the mind. I want you to remind yourself that you do not need to be chasing anyone. If you can be the best version of yourself, you will see that the right for you is going to be attracted to you. If you do this, you’ll no longer be feeling tired of chasing him, you’ll be feeling like you’re living your best life and see that you’ll begin to attract people like moths to a flame!
How does that work, you ask? Well, chasing a guy means that you’re pursuing him and he’s moving in the opposite direction. So we need to have you stop moving towards him and have him change directions so that he begins to move towards you.
The way to do this is to take all the energy you’ve been pouring into chasing him - all the time you spend thinking about what to send him to get his attention, what to say to him the next time you see him, how you should dress, how you should act, and how to make him chase you again - and start thinking about the things that bring joy to your life. Which ones of your friends make you the happiest? Hang out with them more often. What are some places you’ve been meaning to check out? Go there with these friends! What activities look fun that you’ve never tried? Now is the time! Are you interested in any night courses, meet ups, or weekend getaways? Start planning!
I want you to make your life look more appealing to someone than it has ever looked. The goal is to boost your self confidence, and to inspire this guy to want to be a part of your life. Simply put, you want to give him more reasons to want to get closer to you!
I also want you to think about your appearance. What image are you communicating to this guy? If you don’t already, spend time at the gym getting your endorphins flowing while you feel better and better about your body.
Post pictures on social media of all the fun and exciting things you are doing and make sure you show how happy you are! Think about what type of clothing looks the most flattering on you, without needing to be scantily clad around him. You don’t want to look desperate!
You need to become a challenge!
To summarize, just stop chasing him and see what happens!
You don’t need to cut him out or ignore him completely. I am saying that you don’t need to go out of your way all the time to initiation conversations, propose seeing each other, and do everything in your power to ensure that he knows you like him.
You don’t need to be readily available at his beck and call, and if he proposes doing something together, you shouldn’t cancel your preexisting plans in order to see him. You can suggest another day! You’ve got your own thing going on and your world does not revolve around him.
If he feels like he’s the only thing you care about, he’s going to lose interest. There is no challenge, there is nothing to work towards. Think of yourself as a prize!
I know that this sounds a lot like power play, but there needs to be give and take in any relationship. You can’t be the only one giving while he’s just getting whatever he wants, WHILE getting bored of it! If you’d like more information on how to get a man to pursue you, I encourage you to click HERE!
Wishing you all the best in life and love,
Your coach for knowing how to stop chasing a guy,