How To Tell If A Guy Is Interested And If He Wants To Be With You!
As you begin to develop feelings for someone, it’s perfectly natural that you would want to know whether or not his feelings for you are the same! I know that this is especially true for those of you who have suffered from heartache in the past. You might not want to invest unless you’re sure that the feeling is mutual.
Sometimes you start to have doubts and you catch yourself wondering if it’s a lost cause. Don’t worry, I have written this article today on how to tell if a guy is interested so that you can get a better idea of what he’s feeling for you!
I know it’s tricky sometimes because men and women have different ways of communicating their feelings. Sometimes he seems very attached and sometimes he seems very distant, so you’ve been trying to analyze his behavior on your own or with your friends. This hasn’t proven to be effective, so I will guide you through this article and show you a different approach to love and male psychology!
How to know if a guy is interested
When it comes to figuring out whether or not a man is interested in you, it’s always a good idea to look at his actions. After ten years of experience as a coach in love and relationships, I can say that I’ve noticed that generally speaking, women are more at ease with communication whereas men are better defined by actions. Just because the man who’s caught your attention hasn’t said anything concrete in regards to his feelings for you, it doesn’t necessarily mean that he doesn’t have any!
At this stage in your relationship, paying attention to his actions is going to be far more telling! I could go into an analysis of how and why many men do not express their feelings but in the interest of time, let’s dive right into the good stuff and go over the signs of a guy interested in you!
If a guy is interested in you he puts you first!
A man that has feelings for you put you first and invites you into his life. If he often proposes going out or spending time together, you can be sure that he feels something for you. A man doesn’t give a large amount of his time to a woman that he isn’t attracted to and doesn’t want to get to know better. The same goes for women who are in seduction mode with a guy that they’re interested in.
Does he change his plans so that he can spend the evening with you, or invite you to join his plans? If so, it’s looking good!
Sign he is interested: Jealousy
If he gets upset or if you pick up on a certain reaction in him when you talk about another guy, his ego is coming into play, but pride isn’t the only thing going on here. A man that isn’t attached to a woman isn’t going to have this type of reaction.
When he’s into you, he’s not going to like the threat of you being interested in someone else. Truth be told, this is often subconscious, but it’s clear as day to someone on the outside looking in!
Just be careful to not provoke him on purpose because this could result in a negative effect on the relationship.
He’s into you if he goes out of his way to make you happy!
This is especially true if he generally behaves this way with people he’s close to. It will, of course, depend on his means and what he can do, but if he’s doing things that he knows will make you feel good, I think it’s safe to say that he could be feeling something for you (especially if this happens all the time!)
He likes you if he only has eyes for you
If you go out and you notice that he isn’t noticing any other girls and he’s 100% focused on you, it means that you have all of his attention. If you make him nervous, you can take it as a sign that he likes you. He can be a bit awkward because you have an effect on him. Not only is this a sign that he has feelings for you, it’s very flattering!
The physical signs that a man is interested in you
Science has proven multiple times that the behavior of someone in love can be observed in the form of telltale, physical signs. First of all, when a man is interested, his pupils dilate. This is a recurring sign of desire. So, if while you’re having a conversation with him you’re able to analyze his eyes, you’ll be able to tell what he’s feeling.
Similarly, when his eyes are locked on you, it’s a sign of attraction. He can’t take his eyes off you? Well, that’s good news!
Just keep in mind that sometimes when a guy has difficulty looking you in the eye, it means that your presence has an effect on him and this can also be seen as a sign of attraction. He doesn’t want you to know how much he likes you, but timidity often gives his true feelings away!
I’m sure you know that his body language can also be a clear indicator of whether or not he likes you. If when you’re on a date he sits facing you with both shoulders, with his hand in his field of vision, then you have a positive answer to your question!
Next, a man who likes you wants to be close to you, so he reduces the physical space between you. He wants to be closer, more intimate. You can see this when he tries to touch you or caress your skin when you’re together.
At a party, a man who’s interested will move to a different room when you do, and he’s the one who will ask you to dance with him. Simply put, a man who’s interested in going to close up space between you.
His body language isn’t the only thing to pay attention to when you want to know how to tell if he is interested… If he’s into you, he isn’t going to let the conversation fizzle out. He wants to be able to keep talking to you and spending time with you. He will ask you all kinds of questions about yourself because he wants to know more.
How to see if a guy is interested in you and not just playing games
Like I said at the very beginning of this article, a past heartbreak might be making you feel suspicious of his sincerity. It’s true, some men are just out there to play the game, but not everyone is going to do the same thing that the person who hurt you did. Let’s take a look at some signs to help you discern whether he’s really interested and wants to pursue something more serious, or if he’s just out to get his kicks.
Perhaps your way of communicating your feelings is quite different from his and you would expect him to flat out tell you that he cares, just like you would do. The thing is, he might not communicate his emotions in this way. It becomes frustrating when you are clear and reassuring and he doesn’t quite do the same thing!
In truth, each man has his own way of acting and his own way of sharing what he feels. So there is no general phrase that he could tell you because there are as many ways to communicate feelings as there are men on this planet! Of course, if he tells you he loves you it’s a good sign, but be careful with manipulators and keep in mind that just the words alone are not enough.
Beyond words that unveil his love, his behavior will tell you how he feels about you.
A good way to tell if he is interested is to pay attention to how much time we want to spend with you. If he isn’t really feeling anything more than just lust for you, chances are he isn’t going to leave your bed before you wake up in the morning.
If on the other hand he is attached, he will do everything in his power to show you how much he is open to something serious.
Do the signs a guy is interested in you always have to be obvious?
Though this is less and less the case, men are “supposed to” take seduction into their own hands and know how to avoid revealing their feelings too early on because it could cause a bump in the road. This has gotten in the minds of many men in our society, and this can damage the beginning of a relationship as they will remain defensive. It becomes hard to be direct and reveal their true feelings.
The easiest thing would just be for him to clearly state his feelings for you, but this isn’t often the case. Truth be told, when a man is too direct, women often flee! This is common in our society and all it takes is one bad experience for a man to learn his lesson and change his approach.
As a result, he will rarely be direct, but he will still be able to send you subtle signals. It’s up to you to be receptive to these signals, and this is when you can make him understand that you’re going to need more concrete actions in order to be sure of how he feels.
You can always take matters into your own hands and explain to him that you’d like to be reassured about his intentions. If he sticks to his guns and insists on being silent then I suggest being cautious. But if he makes the effort and he reveals his feelings to you little by little, you can consider this to be a good sign!
As this article comes to a close, I wanted to share three more clues that can help you when you’re wondering if he’s interested in you or not!
If this guy looks at you with passion in his eyes (and not just when you’re in bed) then you it’s safe to say that he’s very attached.
If on top of that he’s trying to make you happy with little gifts or gestures, and his goal seems to always be to make you smile, to satisfy you, and to meet your needs, then why even ask if he likes you? He clearly does!
And last but not least, pay attention to how he replies to your messages. If a guy is really into you, it is hard for him to resist talking to you, so he won’t waste opportunities to talk to you.
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