Is he in love? 3 ways to know for SURE!
One of the most common questions that people ask me in my one on one coaching sessions is, “Is he in love? Is there a way to find out?” It can be so hard to figure out how a guy is feeling about you because we as men do not receive proper education in expressing our emotions in our society. As a result, it becomes really challenging for you, ladies, to read a guy and figure out if he is in love with you or not.
That is why I’m writing this article for you today. As a man, I can give you some insight on how the male mind works, and as a love and relationship coach that has been working with both men and women since 2007, I can tell you what signs you need to be on the lookout for if you want concrete answers. Figuring out how to know if he loves you isn’t as complicated as it might seem, as long as you know what to keep an eye out for!
Fortunately, by the time you get to the end of this article, you’re going to know where this guy stands! There are concrete signs he is in love that you can look for, and even if you don’t see these signs with the guy you currently have in mind, don’t panic. Knowing how to recognize these signs will serve you in your future romantic endeavors and you will be setting yourself up for great success in love!
How do you know he loves you: Actions vs Words
I wish I could put a number on how many people have come to me asking if the man they have been seeing is actually in love, or if he’s just selling dreams. It breaks my heart to see how many men just say that women want to hear and then disappear into thin air once they finally have sex with her.
Maybe this has happened to you? You start dating this amazing guy, he’s got everything you’ve been looking for, he’s charming, he’s handsome, and he tells you things that create a surge of joy. He says he’s falling for you, that he’s never met anyone like you, that he wants to get married and have kids with you… even if it’s only been two weeks since you started dating.
More often than not, this type of situation ends in a breakup. But why?
Sadly, it’s because you were focusing on the guy’s words. If you really want to know if he loves you or not, you’ve got to focus on this man’s actions.
Dating is hard these days, especially with social media and our society’s bad habit of consumerism. I see people going through relationships at an alarming rate, always looking for something shiny and new. So I know how badly you would like to find a real connection with someone.
I also know how often you find yourself in a situation in which you find that connection, but then the guy ends up being unsure about his feelings, what he wants, whether or not he wats to be in a relationship… But what I can tell you is that if you want to know if this guy is serious about you if you want to know how to pinpoint the signs he’s falling in love, then you have to remember that men are attracted to the challenge.
They want to be with a woman who is self-confident, who lives a life that she loves, and who is proud of what she brings to the table. When we see a woman who is fulfilled and happy in her life, we think, “Wow, I can learn something from her and she can really enrich my life!”
This means that you have to be the prize. You have to maintain the challenge and always focus on his efforts instead of his words. A man who is serious will be involved in the process. A man who wants a real relationship will always take action. He’ll text you, he’ll call you, he’ll organize dates. You need a man who makes an effort and proves through his actions that he is serious about you.
But remember, even the most serious man in the world needs a woman who can make an effort too. If you’re seeing signs he loves you deeply, don’t take that as an invitation to get lazy in the relationship. This happens way too often and it undermines even the most wonderful relationships. Make sure you invite him into your world! How does he act when you’re doing activities that YOU like together? Is he enthusiastic? Does he ask questions so that he can learn more? If he interested in you and why you like this particular activity?
How does this guy act when you’re with your friends?
Simple things like this can really help you to analyze whether or not he’s serious. If he goes out of his comfort zone for you and is positive about it, it means that he’s serious about you, and if you see that he is, don’t stop! Continue to cultivate a life that makes you happy and that he would find inspiring. This is the key to strengthening your relationship and making him fall head over heels for you and making sure that things stay that way.
How to know if he loves you: The 3 biggest signs
As I’ve started explaining, the biggest thing to pay attention to is this man’s actions. When it comes to love and relationships, words are not enough. This guy might talk about his feelings all day ad all night, but if he doesn’t match his words with concrete actions, they lose their weight and can actually become manipulative.
I say this because I have seen so many men drag a woman along simply by saying the words they know she wants to hear, just so that he can keep her close… but not too close. This is where we see issues that arise with commitment, players, and games. None of which are things that I want for you. You deserve true happiness in love.
That said, here are the three biggest signs a man loves you that you should keep an eye out for if you want to know how this man really feels about you.
Does he really love me: What do his actions say?
If you really want to know if a man is in love, you have to look at what he does for you, and especially what he does for you without you having to ask.
Is he trying his best when you really need him? Does he go out of his way when you need him to be involved in the relationship? How about if you need his help with something? If he goes out of his way to do these things for you, it means he loves you.
I’m going to keep hammering this in, ladies. Never listen to simple words! Men can manipulate words, but his actions will show you the truth about what he feels for you. Ignore the fact that he’s giving you gifts or if he’s picking up the tab at the bar. Is he there for you when you need him? Does he help you solve your problems? This is how men express their feelings. As I started to say in the introduction to this article about figuring out if he is in love, men aren’t great at expressing their feelings through words. We’re not great at being vulnerable. We don’t talk about our feelings, we don’t cry, and we don’t talk about love because it isn’t “manly.”
So even if this guy isn’t saying lovey-dovey things to you all the time but you recognize that he’s doing things that show you that you’re important in his life, it means that he’s got serious feelings for you.
How do I tell if he loves me: Attention to detail
One of the biggest indicators that he’s in love with you is when he pays attention to the details. A man in love will want to understand you and make you feel happy, which is what you deserve.
Let’s say for example that he knows you just adore Italian food, so he makes a reservation at the best Italian restaurant he knows so that he can take you. This is a man who is paying attention to details and basically, this is a man who is in love.
If you are wondering, “How can I figure out if he loves me,” just pay attention to what he goes out of his way to do, to make you feel good. A man will show you his love through his actions and through the ways that he tries to make you genuinely happy.
By the way, don’t forget to show him that you notice his actions and everything that he does for you. If you don’t, it could make him feel unappreciated which can lead to him giving up on making an effort for you. Human beings are motivated by the reward, so don’t forget to show him that his behavior yields a positive result. This will inspire him to do more of the same.
Does he really love me: Future plans
When a man loves you, he will include you in his dreams and in his projects. If he wants to travel the world and talks about including you, you’re looking at a huge sign that he’s in love with you. This means that you’re a big part of his life and this only happens when a man is in love.
Again, when you realize a man is in love with you, you still have to continue living your own life and making sure that it is everything you’ve always wanted it to be. Don’t lose track of your own passions and goals just because the relationship is going well. By continuing to live a fulfilling and exciting life, you will continue to feed the flame that he feels for you.
Being in love is an emotional state in a moment so we need to ensure that we maintain the love, and that we maintain the connection between you.
If a man really loves you he will show you through his actions
As you’ve come to understand, ladies, actions speak louder than words here. Don’t worry if your guy doesn’t tell you he loves you outright if he’s doing the things that show you how much he cares. And on the flip side, don’t believe empty words about love that are coming out of a guy’s mouth if he’s not matching them with actions.
To summarize, pay attention to whether or not he’s there for you, pays attention to the details, and if he goes out of his way to do things that help you and make you happy. If you’re seeing the positive signs that this man loves you, continue to make an effort as well. Create a life that you’re proud of and invite him into it.
The healthiest relationships are those in which two people cultivate themselves, share, and inspire each other to become the best versions of themselves.
For more information on how to understand male psychology and approach the situation so that you get the results you want more than anything, I encourage you to download my eBook. In it, you will find tips, tools, and exercises that will help you to get the guy you want and develop an incredible relationship with him that withstands the test of time.
I want all of you to experience true happiness in love, and if you’d like to reach out to me for one on one help with your specific situation, all you have to do is click here.
I’ll see you soon for another article!
Ciao ciao les amies
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