How To Understand Men: What Guys Really Want!
I wish I could tell you how many times women have come to me asking about how to understand men. It has happened thousands of times, and no, I am not exaggerating! They want to know how to get into the mind of the guy they’re interested in. They want to know how to make him fall for them, what he truly wants, and how to get him to stick around. It’s no surprise that men are sometimes really hard to understand. They can be hot and cold, they come on strong and then they pull away and let’s be honest, sometimes it seems like they have no idea what they want!
I get how frustrating that can be for you. You’re just trying to understand the situation so that you can establish a meaningful relationship with this guy, but he’s so hard to read! Fortunately, you’re in the right place. I have been a love and relationship coach for twelve years now and I have worked with so many women who are in the same exact situation as you are right now. I’ve been able to provide them with advice and concrete solutions to help them understand men and to develop incredible relationships with them.
In today’s article, I want to go over male psychology with you so that you can set yourself up for success in love, whether it’s in general, or with the guy that you’ve got your eye on right now!
The power of understanding men
The moment you get into a man’s mind, a world of possibilities opens up to you. It can seem like a daunting task, but I wanted to write this article for you to show you that it’s not as complicated as you might think!
I understand that you may have been burned in the past and you feel frustrated and overwhelmed with men’s behavior, but certain tricks can help you to get into his mind and not only understand why he does what he does, but also understand what he wants!
And when you understand these two things, you become unstoppable.
I have worked with so many women who have come to me saying, “Alex, I just don’t get it. I try to do everything right to get a guy to fall for me and then he just ends up vanishing into thin air, or telling me that ‘It’s not me, it’s him.’ How do people get into relationships anymore? What am I doing wrong?”
I want you to know that I pride myself in helping people find true love and strengthening their relationships every single day. In fact, I’ve dedicated my entire life to it! So I can confidently say that I can help you understand men and position yourself in a way that makes you irresistible to them.
It doesn’t matter if you’ve made mistakes before! Starting now, you can get in control of your love life by gaining some valuable insight into how a man’s mind works, what men want, and how you can make a man fall for you!
Male psychology: The key to getting into a man’s head
I know it’s tough because you seem to always be confronted with the same pattern. At first, the guy is very into you, he’s calling you, he’s texting you, he’s flirting with you and you can see that he’s very interested in you. He falls for you and starts telling you about how he feels, how he’s blown away by how amazing you are, he’s taking you on dates, and everything seems to be going well until he suddenly drops off the face of the earth.
This usually happens about two or three weeks into the dating process and you’re left hurt and confused. Where did he go? Did you do something wrong? Is there someone else…?
I understand how hard it might feel to be happy in love today, especially if this keeps happening to you. You want to understand men. It can really wear you down, but that’s going to change starting today. You now have the solution to change your love life right here!
How to understand men: Changing the dynamic
What I’m about to explain to you might sound extremely simple, but I trust me when I say that the solution is not that complicated.
We need to switch the focus to YOU. There are certainly differences between men and women, but there are also some very clear similarities. For example, when you think about a relationship, what comes to mind?
You want to be with someone special, you don’t want your relationship to feel mundane or lackluster. You want things to be fun and exciting, you want to feel those butterflies in your stomach, you want to share common interests and have fun with your partner. You want a relationship in which your partner is happy, right? You don’t want to be with someone who’s always complaining, who’s always sad, or worse still, someone who constantly shrugs and responds with, “As you want” all the time, right?
You want something that makes you feel alive, excited, happy and fulfilled… And the truth is that men want exactly the same thing.
If you really want to understand a man, just remember that men are like you! They want a special relationship, they want there to be a powerful sense of attraction, they want lots of positivity, they want to be with someone who inspires them!
So if you really want to be happy in love and develop a wonderful relationship, you have to be yourself. You have to be the BEST version of yourself! You’re probably thinking, “Alex I know that already,” but then why is it that you stop being yourself when you start falling for a man?
Why do you focus on what HE wants and how to make him happy instead of what YOU want?
What men want: The Dream Life
In order to understand men, we need to think in terms of what would make you happiest. Yes, YOU! Not him. Would you be more attracted to someone who is perpetually focused on you and has nothing going on in their own lives, or someone who is living an incredible life that inspires you to want to be a part of? Someone who is magnetic because they’re confident, they have a sense of pride in what they do and how they live their life, someone who is confident, who is charismatic, and who can inspire you to want to be the best version of yourself.
Wouldn’t you be more attracted to a person who lives an inspiring life than someone who’s only thoughts revolve around you? Sure it might be nice for a week or two but then you’d get bored. Women who understand men know that it wouldn’t feel gratifying or exciting. It wouldn’t be inspiring and it would be too easy for you to take that person for granted because they’re just always there at your beck and call.
So this is what we need to remember when it comes to how to understand a man!
Men want to feel inspired, they want to know that their partner is unique. A man wants to fight for his partner, he wants her to be an exciting challenge; not someone who hands everything to him on a silver platter.
It’s actually in their nature. Men are hunters and they want to pursue you. If it’s too easy or if it isn’t inspiring enough, they get bored and they will start to pull away and distance themselves. Similarly, if they feel that their independence is being threatened by something that doesn’t stimulate or motivate them, they’re going to pull away.
And that’s why I’m writing all these articles and filming all these videos for you. I want to show you how important it is that you focus on becoming the absolute best version of yourself because not only will that transform your life, it will allow you to attract any guy you want like a moth to a flame!
Understanding men: The key!
Understanding what men want and how men think is all about realizing that men are like you. They want to feel that what they have is special, they want to have something that they cherish, and all of that comes from maintaining balance, excitement, a sense of confidence, and living your life in a way that would make a man feel motivated to pursue you.
So what does this mean for you? You just need to change some patterns and prioritize being yourself! I know it sounds too easy to be true, but trust me on this.
If you can start to become proud of who you are and what you bring to the table, you’re going to change your approach and it will get a guy’s attention. He’ll see that you’re confident, you live a fulfilling life, you pursue your personal and professional goals, you take care of yourself, and you are fun to be around.
Trust me when I say that he’s going to want to make an effort to get closer to you. What’s more, when he realizes that he is not the center of your universe, he’s going to try even harder to get your attention. Like I said above, it’s all just basic human nature.
So ladies, from here on out, I want you to look at yourself as the prize that he needs to work hard to get. You are the exciting challenge and he’s going to crave your attention. Starting now, no more making the first move, no more bending over backward to try and please him, and no more being someone else just to try to impress him. Let him see the absolute best version of yourself and you’ll see that some very exciting things will start to happen.
If you want to know how to understand men, just put yourself in their shoes and think of what kind of partner would inspire you. And by the same token, think about what kind of partner would make you lose interest over time!
I know that each situation is unique and you might have some more questions related to your guy, and you can reach out to me by clicking here.
I would love to work with you and help you understand the guy you want, and make him fall for you!
It might seem like a daunting task, but it’s not as hard as you might think to get into his mind and understand how to make him want to commit.
I sincerely wish you all the best,
Your coach for understanding how men think
Meet a guy. We talked about a week. A week later we went out. We went to a night club. I drove him home. We hit it off. He kept kissing me. Told me I couldn’t stay because of his daughter. Ssid I’d have to meet her first and hed have to get to know me better. He kept telling me how much he liked me. Plus he didnt want to have sex when we were drunk. He didn’t want to do it that way. But the whole time time he kept telling me that he really really liked me. He said he wanted to go slow cuz he didn’t want things to go sideways. So is he really interested or what? What do I do
Thank you so much for writing this article. You open up my mind a bit. I fell in love with a man who is in a relationship with someone else. The problem is he doesn’t want to use protection with me saying”sex is not that enjoyable with a condom on and he wants to feel the real me wants to commit to me in a way. That there is no deeper bond when you have sex with a condom on. Is it true???
Hi Mclacia, thank you for your support. To answer your question, the bond between two people does not have anything to do with condoms, it has to do with value, respect, and commitment.
Wishing you the best,
I’ve been dating a man who is 57, I’m 51 yrs, we’ve been dating 11 months now, and he’s mentioned going slower. We live 2 hrs apart, and see each other on average 2-3 times a week. With the change in our schedules we saw each other 6 days in a row with a few arguments. But lastnight he told me 3 days a weeks was enough for him and that he wanted to take things slower. I felt very hurt as I thought we were moving forward. He also said he didn’t want to consider living together for at least 2-3 yrs in a relationship. His main focus is his cycling, boxing, jujitsu. We have been exclusive 9 months. So this morning I left his place in a hurry to get home and get ready for work. He has not called me this morning and we did not leave things in a good place lastnight. He has made comments on how very different we are. What do I do here? I’m frustrated with this Peter Pan Syndrome and it does feel like a power play, like he’s always calling the shots. I should feel like the prize, and I don’t.
Hi Jennifer, it sounds like he’s feeling pressure in the relationship. Men don’t do well with pressure, but they love feeling like they have to chase and pursue someone. So it’s important to maintain a bit of space between you so that
1. He doesn’t take you for granted,
2. You don’t bend over backward to please him and
3. He realizes that he’d be a fool to let you slip away.
I think this article might be useful 🙂
Actually am imprests,and I understand now because I use to wonder why a guy could come in my life and at the short time he left. I had a lot of questions in my mind of why but I now know the reason. Thanks you have been helpful
Hi Sharon, I’m so glad to read that. I wish you so much love and happiness