He sends mixed signals: What do I do?
Ladies, I know how frustrating it is when the guy you’re seeing is sending you mixed signals. His hot and cold behavior makes it feel impossible to gage what the situation is. You find yourself wondering if he really likes you or if this whole thing is just a game to him. As a love and relationship coach, this is a situation that I come across on a daily basis. Fortunately, if you’ve been thinking, “He sends mixed signals and I don’t know what to do anymore,” you’ve come to the right place.
I have powerful tips that I want to share with you that will change your love life and help you build a relationship that makes you truly happy. Do you want to know why he’s giving you mixed signals? If there anything you can do to make him stop being hot and cold and start taking this relationship seriously?
I have good news, my friends. There are things that you can start doing today that will make this guy stop sending you mixed signals and see you in a new light. Gone are the days that guys play with you because you’re about to transform your love life!
Why is he sending mixed signals? 2 reasons
In the beginning, this guy might have been incredibly into you. He was texting you, calling you, making plans with you… But then he started to act colder towards you and make you feel like he’s ignoring you. It feels like there’s no more complicity or chemistry until suddenly he’s back, trying to woo you.
What gives? Why is he sending mixed signals like this?
Well, as frustrating as this may be, there are reasons behind this type of behavior. The first thing I want to share with you is that men know that if we don’t give a woman a concrete answer, we can keep her close. It’s unfair, and it’s basically about keeping someone on hold. As you know, men place a high value on their independence, so they’ll often give mixed signals when they aren’t convinced about the value of being in a relationship. I’ll expand on this in a moment.
It’s actually basic human nature. When a person does not have an answer, or if something doesn’t make sense, they will fixate on the issue. A man can use this to his advantage when he knows that he can keep your focus on him while he does his thing and explores his options.
The other thing to keep in mind is that as human beings, we don’t always know our needs. Let me give you a simple example. My favorite dish is spaghetti carbonara, but I did not know that until I tried it! The day before I have this dish for the first time, I had no idea how much I loved it. What does this have to do with love and mixed signals, you might ask?
Well, a man can send mixed signals when he doesn’t know exactly what he wants from a relationship and hasn’t yet experienced something that opened his eyes to how great his life could be if you were his partner. He will be hot and cold when he doesn’t know if he wants to be in a relationship if he wants to be with you, and if he wants to commit to a relationship.
So, what solutions are available to you when he sends you mixed signals?
He’s sending me mixed signals: What do I do?
First things first, we have to get in control of the situation. When a man is sending you mixed signals, you should never focus on the “Why,” even though I know that’s easier said than done. But it’s the biggest mistake you can make. You searched Google and probably typed in something along the lines of “Why is he giving me mixed signals,” but we need to switch our focus to the “How-to’s.”
I am writing this article to provide you with information on how exactly to make this guy stop giving you mixed signals and start taking this relationship more seriously.
There are two solutions to making him want to get more involved and more committed to this relationship. The first thing, which also happens to be my preferred solution, is distance.
If you’re distant, it’s on him to take action. If you’re not asking him to go out and do something together, then he needs to do it, and we want this guy to fight for you!
Now, when you pull away and become distant, there is one specific thing you need to do in order to make this technique work, and that is to focus on your life. Now is the time to work hard on making your life fulfilling and better than ever before. Go to the gym, get a ton of exercise because this will help you to clear your head and release endorphins. The more zen you are, the less this guy’s hot and cold behavior will bother you. I also recommend mediation to my clients because it can help you to calm and center your mind, which makes it easier to focus on more productive things like your personal and professional goals.
Once you become zen it becomes much easier to think, “I deserve more than this, and I don’t want a guy that plays with me.” If you want this relationship to work, you’re going to have to tell him that you don’t like his behavior and the fact that you’re getting mixed signals.
You can tell him, “Listen, I want a relationship in which I can rely on you and you can rely on me, If not, where are we going?” You’ve got to set boundaries with men. We will push the limit until we understand that it’s not possible.
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I know that you’re probably thinking, “Ugh I have to do all of this just to make him stop acting like this?” Sadly, the answer is yes. But I was reading an article about Mohamed Ali, the boxer, recently and he said something that I think could be applied to this situation. In the interview, he was saying that he would let his opponent endlessly throw punches that he would dodge, until his opponent grew tired and realized that it wasn’t working. So if this guy continues to give you signals and he gets a reaction from you that reassures him that you have strong feelings for him, he’s just going to continue. He’s not going to realize that it’s not working and that he’s going to have to try a different tactic if he wants to get the girl! Now, there is another thing to keep in mind that will play a big role in making him stop giving you mixed signals.
He is sending me mixed signals: Show him you are unique
The second solution to this problem comes in the form of showing this guy that being in a relationship with you would add value to his life. How?
Simply by showing him that you’re living a life that he would be a fool to not want to be a part of! He needs to understand that you’re unique because the moment he does, he’s going to start to fight for you.
So you can become distant and make him realize that his behavior isn’t working, or you can challenge him to step up by inviting him to do new and exciting things, most people just invite the person they’re seeing to go out to the movies or a restaurant, but if he can see that you’ve got all kinds of interesting ideas, that alone will set you apart from the rest. Think about what kinds of activities you’ve always wanted to try and invite him to be a part of them.
In addition to this, make sure that you’re actively working on turning your life into what you’ve always wanted it to be. Make time for your passions and hobbies, your friends, your family, traveling, learning new things… Women that live a truly fulfilling life attract others like moths to a flame.
I also know that women are often attracted to the “player” type; a guy who’s confident and knows how to talk to women. This guy might fit this description and knows how to make you fall for him, but I want you to rest assured that you CAN get in control of this situation. You don’t have to accept his mixed signals.
Players will often send mixed signals so that they can keep a woman just close enough so that they can have sex whenever they feel like it, without having to commit to a relationship. This is the exact opposite of what we want. However, as I said, if you can regain control of the situation then this man will see you differently. he will understand that he cannot play with you. Now, I am not saying that this is your fault but I am saying that if you’re dating someone who’s hot and cold with you, you need to make some changes. You have to value yourself more and make sure you don’t accept his behavior. If not, you’ll always end up with guys that do this and you’ll always be disappointed in love. I have dedicated my life to helping people ensure that they can be truly happy in their love lives, and I want you to be with a man that truly respects you.
So, ladies. When a man is giving you mixed signals, you will either have to put some serious space between you, or show him right off the bat that you’re special. Either way, he needs to understand that he’s not going to get much from you if he’s always being hot and cold. Be careful to never reward negative behavior. Yes, we men can be like kids sometimes 😉
That is why it’s so important to lay a solid foundation and remember that you are in control of more than you might realize.
Let this man know what you aren’t looking for games or for casual sex. That’s for kids; not for you. By raising your standards, you’ll be amazing at how many men will stop sending you mixed signals and become committed to a relationship.
Please don’t hesitate to reach out to me for one on one coaching. Helping people in their love lives is one of my favorite activities on earth, and that’s why I do what I do. In just one hour I can help you transform your love life and make it better than ever before. To work with me, all you have to do is click here.
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I wish you all the success in the world.
Your #1 French relationship expert,
Thank you Sarah!