How to deal with jealousy: How to get it out of your relationship forever!
Learning how to deal with jealousy is one of the most common issues that people have in their romantic relationships. I have been working with men and women in one one one coaching and through conferences since 2007, so I have been able to work with all kinds of people who have struggled with jealousy, whether it was their own or their significant other’s.
I want to write this article for you today so that I can address three key points. Out of all the questions I receive regarding how to deal with jealousy, these three are the most common: How to deal with a jealous partner, how to stop being jealous, and what to do if your partner is constantly trying to make you jealous. By the end of this article, you will know exactly what you need to do in order to overcome jealousy in your relationship once and for all!
I know how much it can damage the bond you have with the one you love, but I want you to rest assured and know that the jealousy can end now! From now on, you and the person you love can experience peace in love and let your relationship naturally grow and become stronger. It will no longer be threatened by jealousy and negative emotions. To learn the best tricks available that will change your love life forever, keep reading!
How to deal with jealousy from your significant other
It’s not easy to deal with a jealous person, that’s for sure. But learning how to deal with jealousy in a relationship can actually protect you two from breaking up. If someone is extremely jealous, their behavior can give rise to serious problems in the relationship that end up undermining its foundation.
So if you’re reading this article right now, you might have gotten involved with a person who seems to be jealous all the time, they’re quite insecure, and it seems that they’re always terrified of losing you. The problem, of course, is that this will damage your sense of happiness in this relationship.
After having coached people all around the world, I can tell you that certain themes arise on a regular basis. If your partner is struggling with jealousy, it means that they are also struggling with a lack of self-confidence. Sometimes it comes from problems in a previous relationship. For example, perhaps your significant other was cheated on in the past and now it’s very hard for him or her to trust people, or at least to not assume the worst. It could also be that your partner is jealous because they’re so afraid of losing you. Maybe they have never felt so many emotions for a person and it makes them terrified of losing you to someone else.
Fortunately, there is a solution. The best part is that in addition to getting rid of the jealousy your partner feels, this is actually something that can really improve your overall relationship together!
So I know that you’ve been trying to boost your partner’s ego by telling them that they’re amazing, that they’re so beautiful or so handsome, and that you’d never want to be with anyone else, but none it has seemed to work. Or perhaps it works for a week but then the jealousy comes back, just as strong as before.
If you really want to know how to deal with extreme jealousy in a relationship and how to enhance your relationship, you will need to try a different approach. When a person is jealous in a relationship, they are afraid to lose what they have, and my mission as a love coach is to tell you that from now on, your mission is to make this person more involved in the development of the relationship.
The best way to deal with a jealous person is to tell them to surprise you, encourage them to organize new things for you to do, and try together. Tell them that the next time you go out, it’s up to them to come up with something new and exciting.
That way, instead of fixating on their fear of losing you, the fact that they might feel like they aren’t good enough for you, or their lack of confidence, they’ll be actively working on making your relationship even more fulfilling. They’ll be making the relationship you have better.
They’ll be thinking about how they can make it more fun, more exciting, more gratifying… It’s a win-win, right? So the absolute best way to deal with feelings of jealousy and insecurity is to get your partner more involved in the relationship. Encourage them to try new activities, inspire them to fight to attract you, and you, too, have to fight to attract them! This will reintroduce the excitement and the fun that can make your bond even more unshakable. This is how you can transform their fear into happiness.
I understand how hard and frustrating it can be, but the solutions are in your hands. Your relationship isn’t doomed to endless jealousy. If you’re feeling overwhelmed by the situation, you can always reach out to me or watch the videos I’ve created on YouTube to help you coach yourself through any issue you encounter in love.
Now, what can we do if you’re the one who is struggling with feeling jealous in your relationship?
How to deal with jealousy that you can’t seem to get rid of
As I was saying in the previous section, if you’re jealous, it means that you’re dealing with a lack of self-confidence. Essentially, you are not loving yourself enough and you’re placing your significant other on a pedestal.
Now, it doesn’t mean that all of this is your fault! It just means that there are some things that we can do to change the situation. If you’ve been wondering “How to deal with my jealousy issues,” I want you to know that there are three tools that I share with my clients who come to me asking the same thing. Most of them feel like they aren’t enough for their partner and that he or she would potentially cheat on them or leave them for another person. If this is what you’re feeling too, I can guarantee you that you CAN change this. You are enough for this person and in fact, you should be enough for anyone because you are so special.
So the first thing to do is to release negative emotions…
How to deal with jealousy in a healthy way: Physical exercise
It’s going to be impossible to stop being jealous if you’re full of negative emotions, so I suggest going running! The more you sweat and the more you increase your heart rate, the better. When you sweat, you release tension, you release negative emotions, and you release endorphins which are going to make you feel happier. On top of that, you’ll clear your mind and tire yourself out.
When your energy returns, more often than not, it’s going to be positive energy.
You can do other forms of physical exercise to deal with jealousy – just make sure that it’s something that really makes you sweat.
How to deal with jealousy in a relationship and insecurity: Becoming the 2.0 version of yourself
The next thing I encourage you to implement in your daily schedule is this: Do not leave your house without taking a moment to look into the mirror and think, “Wow. I look great today!”
And don’t just say it, I want you to really feel it. Make an effort to feel good about yourself. Pay attention to how you present yourself and do things that boost your sense of self-confidence. If you want to, update your wardrobe or your hairstyle. Physical activity will help with this as well. Just make sure that you never, ever leave the house without feeling pleased with how you’re presenting yourself to the world.
In addition to this, define some affirmations that you are going to repeat to yourself either every morning or every evening. For example, repeat this three times:
“I am special, I am attractive, I am worthy and good things are coming to me.”
The more you repeat it, the more your brain will register it and it will start to feel natural to you.
Relationship jealousy: 5 activities
Jealousy surges up in a relationship when there is not enough happiness. So, ask yourself how you can make this relationship better? How can you make your personal life better? How can you enjoy the present moment more?
Write down 5 ideas and implement one of them each week for the next 5 weeks. This is how you can change your love life. In just 5 weeks you will stop being jealous by releasing your negative emotions, by building positive emotions and actions, and by creating the type of relationship that you want and deserve.
I know it might seem challenging or too good to be true, but try these three things out and you’ll start to see concrete changes, trust me!
My partner tries to make me jealous: What do I do?
This is another common issue that I deal with on a regular basis. I was working with someone recently who told me that her boyfriend was constantly trying to make her jealous. He would post pictures of himself on Instagram with other girls, he would flirt with other girls in bars, and she just didn’t know what to do. Interestingly enough, most of the people I coach around the world are scared to speak up and tell their partner that they are not OK with this type of behavior.
They wind up wondering why they’re doing all these things, why they don’t show more respect, and what they actually want. This is pretty much the biggest mistake they could make.
Think about it this way. Every time you ask yourself why your partner is trying to make you jealous, you place them on a pedestal and this is the opposite of what we want. As human beings, if we don’t understand something we create a whole mess of questions around it in our minds. When this happens, we tend to fixate on it, and then we don’t grow. In love, that means that you place this person on a pedestal and you basically allow them to play with your emotions. It happens subconsciously but in order to combat it, you need to set boundaries, and there are three ways to do this.
1. Ask your partner why he or she is doing this?
Ask them why they’re trying to make you jealous all the time because they need to be aware of their actions but more importantly, they need to change.
This is crucial because their behavior is destructive and it’s going to tear your relationship apart.
2. Take a step back
When you take a step back and put some distance between you, it can serve as a wakeup call that makes your partner change their behavior.
Remember that the best way to change a situation is to not fan the flames. In other words, if a person if trying to get a reaction from you by making you jealous and you don’t react, what are they going to have to do? Well, they’re going to have to change their approach.
They’ll need to change their behavior, the way they treat you, and the way they’re trying to attract you.
Putting space between you will make him or her respect you more.
3. In addition, stand your ground
Once you have asked why your partner is doing this and you have put space between you, it’s going to be very important to stand your ground if he or she does it again. You have to enforce boundaries. Express that you are not like other people and you will not allow yourself to be played with like that.
Unfortunately, people need boundaries because we’re like kids. If there are no boundaries, we’ll do all kinds of things and wind up in trouble.
So if you can set boundaries and prove that you are special, then your partner will respect you and actively work on attracting you in a way that makes you happy. The question isn’t what you can do, it’s what you truly want from this relationship!
As always, I am here to help you every step of the way so please don’t hesitate to read my other articles on this blog, check out my YouTube Channel, or reach out to me so that we can work together.
I know that this is a challenging period, but it doesn’t have to be like this. Work on implementing all the tips I gave you in this article and your love life will transform.
I sincerely wish you all the best,
Your French relationship expert