Why is he ignoring me?

by | October 11th 2018 | Understanding men | 2 comments

Are you in a relationship with a man that’s been ignoring you and hasn’t been paying you much attention? Would you like to understand why he isn’t more involved in your relationship? Why your boyfriend is so distant? I’m going to show you how get to a place where instead of asking yourself, “Why is he ignoring me,” you’ll be thinking “He’s head over heels in love with me!”

Relationships, especially the first few months, are rarely simple. You have to adapt your needs to your man’s needs when all you really want is to be sure that he wants a serious relationship. Find out how you can turn things around! You’re going to be able to make him completely addicted to you, even if he has a tendency to pull away!

I want to thank Emy for giving me the idea for this article that combines seduction techniques and how to make your boyfriend want to stay.

Why is he ignoring me?

Wondering, “Why is he ignoring me” is perfectly normal because you can’t find a solution until you understand the issue.

It should be noted that human beings (and especially men) are lazy. That means that he’ll never do anything he doesn’t feel obliged to do. What does this have to do with your situation? It’s quite simple actually - a man isn’t going to reach out if he knows that you’ll do it first!

In order for you to stop thinking “He ignores me,” you’ll have to make him feel uncertain about how you feel about him, if you like him if you’re going to contact him, or what you might be up to at the moment.

From this moment on, you will have won because you’ll be on his mind when he used to not even bother sending you a reply! I know that putting distance between you sounds scary but it’s the most effective way to build yourself back up and make him think about you more! You will no longer have to rack your brain with “Why does he ignore me?!” because he’ll begin making the effort to improve your relationship.

What it means if your boyfriend ignores you: He might be feeling suffocated

During the transition phase between the honeymoon stage and the “real life” stage, it can be hard to strike a proper balance between your personal life and your relationship. At the beginning of a relationship, it’s not uncommon for two people to spend all their time together, and when it comes time to get back to their everyday responsibilities, it’s often harder for one partner than for the other. The result is one person feeling suffocated by the other.

Have you maybe been a little bit too present in your ex’s life lately? Have they had the opportunity to have any alone time, or time just with their friends? Sometimes men can get so overwhelmed with this type of thing that they don’t know how to come up for air. Instead, they just completely ignore a girl while they take a moment to breathe.

Solution: If you’re in this situation it means that your communication skills need a little work. If your partner needs a little more space, he should be able to tell you, and you should be receptive. Balance is very important in relationships, and both people need to openly talk about what they need from one another in order to feel satisfied. You can’t read your partner’s mind and they can’t read yours.

My bf is ignoring me because he’s upset about something

A more obvious reason behind why your boyfriend could be <strong>ignoring you</strong> is that maybe he’s just plain angry. You two just had a nasty fight and he’s having trouble letting it go and moving on. Or perhaps he’s found out about something that you’ve hidden from him (past or present,) and he’s really upset. He could also be taking a moment to gather his thoughts before he starts to talk about it with you.  

Solution: First of all, give him a little space. When you know <strong>my boyfriend is mad at me</strong>, let him cool down while you prepare what you’re going to say. If there’s something that you need to apologize for, organize how you’re going to present it to him. If you’re worried about how it’s all going to come out, you can write him a letter.

Maybe it was a misunderstanding. Regardless of why exactly he’s mad, you two will have to talk. After you’ve given him some time and space, send him a text that says, “I know you’re upset. Let me know when you’re ready to talk about it and I’ll be here.” Don’t push him, and let him come to you.

I think he likes me but he ignores me... I don’t get it!

Men (just like women) sometimes get freaked out when things move too fast, especially in the early stages of a relationship. If things have started picking up the pace and you’re shocked because you’re wondering, “why is he ignoring me", it could be that he simply got scared.

It’s not the end of the world but it should be noted that this type of behavior is very unhealthy in relationships. If something is bothering one of the partners, they should feel comfortable enough to honestly talk about it with each other.

Another possibility is that his own feelings have caught him off guard. He could be realizing that he really likes you so maybe he’s trying to not get carried away. This is often seen in men that have experienced serious heartbreak in the past. When you look at it this way, it’s not always as bad as you think <strong>if he ignores you</strong>, but as I said, this shouldn’t be a recurring thing.

Solution: Again, give him some space right now. He will most likely reach out to you. Leave him alone for a while and switch your focus to staying busy and working on your projects. I know it’s hard to keep your mind off it, but don’t panic. Everything becomes clear eventually.

When he reaches out, calmly tell him that you recognize that things were moving fast and you see the importance of taking things slow. Tell him that you two share something special, so you want to be gentle with it as well. Show him that he can feel comfortable with you, and invite him to be more open with his concerns in the future so that you two can come up with solutions. 

Is he actually ignoring me or is it all in my head?

Before we begin talking about how to make him stop ignoring you, we need to take a moment to figure out whether or not you and your partner are actually experiencing a crisis in your relationship. Sometimes, after a big fight, a person will need some time to organize their thoughts and calm down before coming back. This doesn’t necessarily mean that he’s ignoring you or that he doesn’t want to be with you.

Unfortunately, I see many people make the mistake of confusing a simple argument with a real crisis in the relationship. Every couple is going to experience challenges and difficult periods during which things feel a bit rockier than usual, but there is a difference between this and him wanting to end the relationship. Don’t automatically assume the worst!

Sometimes I notice people convincing themselves of the worst and changing their behavior as a result. This makes things feel even tenser, and yourwhy is he ignoring me partner will definitely pick up on it.

Other times, I see that some people need so much attention from their partners that they register a bit of distance as a crisis. They panic and think, “He ignores me now!

Even if two days have passed since he last reached out to you, and this is uncharacteristic behavior for him, don’t be alarmed. It, of course, all depends on your relationship and the situation, but generally speaking, the guy will always come back and reach out.

Why is he ignoring me...Does he not like me?

Unfortunately, sometimes people misread one another. One of the reasons behind <strong>men ignoring women</strong> is that they’re just not that into them.

Maybe you two work together and you’ve started to give them clues about your feelings for them. Maybe you’ve gone on a date or two and he’s not really feeling it. Think about how it was when you two were together.

Did he show you signs of being really, genuinely interested, or was he just nice? For example, at the end of your evening together, did he suggest seeing each other again soon? Did he message you after the date? If you’re realizing that he hasn’t really done anything to make you think he wants to pursue things, this might be his way of backing out.

It’s not a very gallant way to show a girl that he’s doesn’t feel the same way, or to call things off, but he’s trying to get a point across without actually having the say it. I know this can be a nasty blow to your ego, but if you’re thinking that you’re in this type of situation, there are two routes you could take...

Solution:

  • <strong>You ignored me</strong> because you’re not into me, and that’s fine because I don’t want a guy that behaves like that anyway.” You know what you deserve and what you bring to the table, so if this guy can’t recognize that, then forget him and move on!
  • If you’re determined to seduce this guy (by the way I have an entire article written about how to seduce a guy that you can read here: How to Attract a Man then what you’re going to do right now is disappear completely. Start using the <strong>no contact rule</strong> to make him curious. Post pictures on social media of you looking your best, having all kinds of fun.

He’ll start to wonder, “Wait... Why isn’t she talking to me anymore...?” and before you know it, he’ll be contacting you! Men like a challenge, but remember, the goal has to be attainable!

My guy ignores me: What should I do?

Regardless of the reasons behind the distance he’s putting between you right now, you have to take action immediately. The moment you pick up on something, you’ve got to start working on changing it. The less time you lose, the faster you’ll be able to fix this.

Many women think that time is their ally and that if they just pretend that nothing is wrong, their partner will come back once the “crisis” has passed. However, just waiting around isn’t going to improve things. In fact, you might even experience the opposite of what you want and see him pull further and further away. If you want to know more about this phenomenon, I invite you to read my ebook, Love Coach Confessions !

You have to get started right away on improving the situation between you, but while you do so, I want you to keep certain things in mind

When a man ignores you, being clingy is the worst thing you could do!

There is no point in asking him to text you more because it wouldn’t come naturally, and you’d end up with the same problems you’re having now!

In an effort to get a response from him, you might even try to provoke a little fight to spice things up, but we already know how that’s going to end. You’re just going to say things that you don’t mean and you’ll end up feeling guilty. In the end, you’re going to be the one apologizing. The result will be that he never changes his ways and what’s more, he’ll put more distance between you.

You have to avoid crises and conflicts and work on personal development that will provide long term solutions to this problem.

He’s ignoring me, but now I’m going to focus on me!

Chase me and I’ll run” is the only proverb that can be applied to ALL romantic relationships.

In order to put an end to the times when he ignores you, I encourage you to begin taking time for yourself starting today, maintain your social life, and focus on your job so that you can put a little bit of space between you. It will undoubtedly catch his attention!

If you still get no reaction from him, it’s time to have a serious conversation face to face to cross the T’s and dot the I’s!

How to make him commit to the relationship!

There are so many tips that I can give you about making a man commit in a relationship. The problem you’ve probably faced is not getting the real tips needed that a lot of people don’t often talk about. Below I am going to tell you the truth about what makes a woman stand out to get a man to commit.

Men are hunters, and they need a challenge

Naturally, men want to feel as though they had to work for something in order to get you. They want to know that what they have required work. Mentally this shows self-respect for yourself when you have this then this man can respect you. What a lot of women do is they give men relationship benefits without the title of a relationship. That’s not what you want to do.

You have to stop thinking that the more you give, the more you will receive

Remember, you want to see what this man can offer you as well. You don't need to convince him to be with you, but he needs to earn your worth as well. Now, I am not saying don’t put in any effort and not do nice things, but what I am saying is to let things happen slowly and let the attraction phase progress. Think of this like a tennis match he gives then you give. How can you help him in his life to relieve stress and what is important to him? These are great questions to ask yourself to understand how much you know this man.

I want you to be confident and to use the "push and pull technique": He has to do the first step

Remember what I discussed previously about the tennis match. Even though you want to show up for this man you also want to make sure he is showing up for you too. So, when he is asking to see you and make plans with you, then it’s time that you choose the right days and times to do this. Show this man that you have other things going on in your life, and it’s not all about him. What I don’t want you to do is be resistant and play games, but I want this man to see how valuable your time is so the both of you can appreciate the time that you spend together more and more every day. So many women tend to drop what they’re doing to see this man and always be available for him.

I know it's hard, but it's the only one way to change the situation

I know when you are interested in a man and you have a connection it’s hard to stick to these ways of putting yourself first. But remember the most healthy relationships come from individuals who value themselves first, and I believe this is important in order for you to cultivate a healthy relationship and be happy with each other and get that relationship you've always wanted.

When a guy ignores you, be careful to avoid becoming emotionally dependent!

I meet very many women on a daily basis in private coaching sessions, and I help them to avoid becoming emotionally dependent on their partners and remain in control of their emotions and relationships. When your man is distant, you tend to lose confidence and like clockwork, you stop being emotionally independent. This is the worst thing that could happen which is exactly why I recommend that you begin focusing on yourself starting today. You can get back in control of your life and will be in charge of your own personal well-being.

The more satisfying your personal life will be, the easier it will be to avoid emotional dependency and the more your partner will want to go out of his way to seduce you. You’ll see, things can once again become as exciting as they were in the very beginning stages of your relationship!

A word of caution: be careful with men that like to play too many games. A little bit of teasing is quite good in a relationship, but if it’s taken too far it can be very unhealthy. For example, think about making someone sweat by not replying to their text right away vs. making someone sweat by not showing up for a date.  

If you’ve deemed this guy worthy of a little fun and games, give him a taste of his own medicine. Go ahead and start pulling (and put him on the receiving end of the lack of contact.) Take control of the situation and before you know it, he’ll be messaging you!

Be careful not to take it too far though... cutting contact should only be done for a certain amount of time. If you do it for too long, and the guy doesn’t reach you either, then things can get awkward and confusing. If you’re trying this method and he’s still not getting in touch with you, reach out with something lighthearted, like a funny picture you saw for example. Avoid talking about “us” at this point, because it can quickly make him feel pressured. If you’re out of touch at this point, it should be done in order to tease a bit; not to go from zero communication to a serious conversation about your future.

If you’re using the no contact rule on an ex in hopes of getting back together, this same rule applies. What’s more, it’s going to be a deciding factor in whether or not you succeed! Putting pressure on ex by talking about the relationship and the breakup and everything that you’re feeling right after a period of zero contact can damage your attempt at getting back together. Why? Simply because it’s too much too soon. You want him to feel comfortable around you when you get back in touch.

If the guy in question is actually your ex and you want to know what you can do to make him want you back, all you have to do is reach out to me and I can guide you from A to Z!

Wishing you all the best in life and love,

Your coach for making your boyfriend stop ignoring you,
Alex Cormont

2 Comments

  1. Rebecca

    Hi Alex- I downloaded your ebook and it’s incredible! Especially when I was trying to figure out why is he ignoring me. The guy I was dating ignored me for a couple weeks and I focused on your ebook. We are dating again. Thank you!

    Reply
    • Alex Cormont

      Thank you Rebecca, I am glad to be your relationship expert!

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