Cheating Husband? Here’s what to do!
Have you just found out you have a cheating husband? I know you’re heartbroken and angry, and must be wondering how to handle the situation. What solutions are there for saving a relationship after such a betrayal? Infidelity is one of the biggest challenges people face in our society, and it is not easy to know how to bounce back. Today, you are a victim of something that you never imagined would happen, and you can’t imagine how your husband could do such a thing.
Despite what happened, you don’t want to lose him and you want to save your marriage. Many people who come to me with this problem tell me that they blew up when they found out, and they told their husbands exactly how they felt about the situation. This needs to happen when you find out that your husband has been cheating on you because you shouldn’t keep your emotions bottled up. All this would do is make it worse when they finally surface later on (because trust me, they will). Now it’s time to ask yourself some serious questions and figure out what was causing problems in your relationship. This way, you will know how to respond to both of your needs and find inner peace. Yes, I am encouraging you to understand how your husband could have cheated. It’s important to know why this happened if you want to find solutions. Please don’t hesitate to share your story or any questions you may have in the comments section below. It would be my pleasure to respond to you all.
Is there hope of saving the relationship when a husband cheats?
I’m sure that this is one of the first questions that comes to mind. I have been fortunate enough to work with over 10,000 people and help them restore their relationships or bounce back from challenging experiences. It’s important to understand that in order for a couple to bounce back, there are two options. A. Your husband decides to fight for the relationship and shares his reasons for being unfaithful to you. Very often in this situation, he will explain that he didn’t feel like he was getting enough love and attention from you and he lost confidence in himself. B. the other option is that feelings developed with the other woman and he will try to escape in order to be with her. Under these circumstances, it is crucial that you avoid trying to talk about it excessively, and exhibit any needy or clingy behavior.
Show him that you understand why he cheated (without asking him questions!) He will understand that he’s about to lose an extraordinary woman. Showing that you understand the other person in the relationship and that you can meet their needs is one of the most powerful tools for bouncing back after infidelity. A man will always take action the moment he understands that he’s about to lose something precious… someone that can truly make him happy, you! Even if your husband is cheating, he won’t be able to stand the idea of you moving on and being happy without him. In either case, it is possible to get back in control and save your relationship, even if your husband has been cheating for a while. Just recently I worked with a woman who told me very clearly that her husband had been cheating on her for years, and she wanted to know if there was still hope. There are two ways to proceed… You can begin to communicate again or not, but either way, you have to show him that he’s just lost an incredible woman. Last but not least, now is not the time to talk about your feelings, the past, or the memories you’ve shared.
Right now, your husband wants to think about the future and how to bring positivity back into the situation. Similarly, there is no sense in talking about or comparing yourself to the other woman. This would just spark more jealousy and damage your self-confidence, which by the way is exactly what you need to bounce back from the situation.
Husband cheated and you can’t forgive it, but you love him…
Many men realize what a huge mistake they made after they cheated, and say that they’re still in love with their wives. Though you know that he cheated you still love him, but you’re finding it hard to forgive his actions. Under these circumstances, I would suggest putting a little bit of space between you and putting him to the task of making you happy again. In order to bounce back from infidelity, he has to earn your trust and prove that he can invest in this relationship and reignite the flame.
The most important thing is to show him that his cheating doesn’t change the fact that you believe in your relationship and that you want to enjoy being together. The more you focus on your desire to be happy the more he’s going to want to work for your forgiveness. Focusing on long-term plans together is one of the best ways to get past this painful situation. If you can pinpoint which changes need to be made and you uphold your values, you will be able to get a reaction from your husband.
To do so, you need to become very confident in your ability to seduce him even after infidelity, and not allow it to break you down. I know that that is easier said than done when you’re suffering as a result of being cheated on by the man you love, but it’s very important.
When husbands cheat, you have to control your emotions
When you find out that your husband has been cheating, it is perfectly normal to feel awful and feel a wave of negative emotions. And yet, I recommend daily exercises and activities geared towards personal development, as well as motivational phrases to the women I coach. The goal is to get back in control of these emotions and rebuild their self-confidence quickly. Your self-esteem plays a crucial role in saving your relationship and in your ability to move past this experience.
It directly affects your ability to grab life by the horns and once again view life in a positive light. Building yourself back up is also a way to show your husband who cheated that you are not going to sit around feeling sorry for yourself. You are not at war against him but you are going to do everything in your power to become a femme fatale and breathe life back into your relationship. Now is the time to fill up your schedule with things that bring you joy and become independent once again. With time you can start doing new activities with your husband, but for now, you need to be doing these things for yourself! If you want to go even further you can always reach out to me for one-on-one guidance. I really wish you the best in life and love, and don’t let the discovery of a cheating husband knock you down. Remain strong and don’t forget to do what it takes to get back in control of your life and your emotions.
Good luck with everything! Best wishes,
Your coach for knowing how to handle infidelity in marriage
Alex Cormont
Waoh! That’s wonderful Alex I need more of this advice. This is what I’m going through right now. I’m just confused and I really need your help
Thanks for all Mr Alex. Please I’m own situation is confusing ooh. I’m dating a married man for over six years now. And in the early relationship I noticed he is a cheat. I have been telling him to stop it and he won’t accept that he is seeing a another woman. One day he lied to me that his was in the garage to fixed his car when he was with one lady he is dating at her place. Since I knew everything that relationship, I decided to disppoved him by going to the woman’s place. When I arrived there, I cough him right handed. He was so asheam Mr Alex. He could not believe I could find out. We were in a serious crises for some time he pleaded and also see some of his family relatives, some of our friends and my own relatives to solved the problem and I finally let go. He promised to change and after some few months I discovered he was still together with that lady. I decided to put an end to that relationship. He never wanted it that way he says he can’t accept to loose me because of that lady. He went again and mobilised the same people to solve the problem but this time around he avoid informing my relatives because he was ashamed. He promised that he will never do that again and that he wants to take me for his second wife. He promised to completely changed. I finally accepted to take him back. Fews months later again I noticed that he is still together with that lady. Alex this time around I have told him that I don’t want him any longer. It’s too much. He has mobilised people including my own relatives to solved the problem to no avail. We are in a serious situation. He has been coming to me beg for forgiveness, calling and texting me to no avail. I don’t mostly pick his calls no answer his texts. At times I might reply him very late and he is very angry about that attitude. At times im force to pick his calls or reply to some of his texts because there are many things that we are treating together. Alex one funnest thing is that he is so close to me . We are always together. We have a project that we carried out together. You can imagine that upon all this he still have time to go out with other women. Alex I really need your help to guide me. I have been trying to book for couching through your website and It’s not going through because I don’t have any of your PayPal account. I’m from Cameroon. I don’t know if there is possibility to pay you through Western Union or money gram. Please reply me my WhatsApp number is 0237677876888
We just got married last year , just yesterday I caught an SMS talking with ex baby mama, so I confronted him and he was angry with me, He was reacting and He didn’t want to be honest and tell. Me the truth so, I was very angry we talked to an extent that he told me He doesn’t want me anymore and he is tired of me I talk too much 😭😭 but he didn’t go anywhere He is still here. So lot has bin happened