Why he doesn’t text back and what to do about it!
There is a guy that you’ve got your eye on and something exciting is developing. He’s got everything you’re looking for in a guy, you have so much fun whenever you’re with him, you can feel the chemistry between you and you really want things to become more serious but there’s just one glaring problem. This Prince Charming has a terrible habit of not texting you back.
So what’s going on? Is he not as interested in you as you are in him? Is he stringing you along? Is there someone else? Is this budding relationship doomed if you see that he’s online but he’s not responding to you? Are there any solutions? Well, if these are some of the questions that have been on your mind, you’re in the right place.
In today’s article, I want to go over why he doesn’t text back and then I will be giving you the 3 best solutions. This is such a common issue, so I don’t want you to panic. As annoying and frustrating as it is, there are ways to fix the situation and make this guy want to give you more of his attention. There are certain do’s and don’ts to keep in mind when he doesn’t text back, but don’t worry. By the time you reach the end of this article, you’re going to know exactly how to approach the situation and get the results you want!
He doesn’t respond to my texts: Why?
Jessica emailed me a couple of days ago saying, “Alex, I don’t get it. I met this guy and things (I thought) were going so well between us. We make each other laugh, we have so much fun together and we are so attracted to each other. But he doesn’t call or text for days and sometimes he even leaves me on read. It makes me feel so weird. Do I text him again? Do I wait for him to text me? Is he even interested?”
I know how confusing this all can be, especially these days when we live in a time where virtual conversations are so prevalent. It seems like we’re expected to be readily available and in constant contact with everyone around us via text messages or social media. So of course, when a person is not making themselves available to us (especially when we can see when they were last active and whether or not they’ve gotten our messages), it can be really hard to understand. On top of that, it becomes really easy to take it personally.
So first things first, I want to go over why a guy might not be replying to your text. In some cases, no answer is an answer, but that’s not always true.
In some cases, people are just not “phone people.” What do I mean by that? Well, many of us are glued to our phones and respond the moment a message comes in, but we need to remember that not everyone is like this. We don’t all have the same reflexes and on top of that, many people don’t like feeling like they’re constantly on call. In many of these cases, it’s nothing personal and the guy in question might not have the same phone etiquette as you do.
In other cases, and this is a less pleasant thought, it can actually be because the guy has lost a bit of interest.
That said, even if you’re currently thinking, “He stopped texting me and I’m not sure what to do,” there are plenty of options. There are no magic solutions, but I have three techniques that will help you turn things around and make this guy want to spend way more time with you!
What to do when someone doesn’t reply to your texts: The 3 solutions
Right about now you might be wondering, “Should I call him” but we are going to need to focus on YOU and your actions. You may also be wondering if you should be playing games to get his attention but the answer is no. Games are never a good idea because they could undermine the foundation of this relationship and you can end up getting very hurt.
If you play games, it becomes much easier for him to take you for granted, lose interest and not pay attention to the things that you are doing.
Instead, we need to inspire him to want to get closer to you. But how?
He doesn’t respond to my texts: Getting busy
One of the things that I talk about the most frequently with my clients is the importance of understanding the human mind and how we operate. Remember that we, as human beings, are attracted to the things that we feel that we do not possess, and we take for granted the things that we feel we do possess.
When we apply this concept to relationships, it is easy to see why it’s so important to be independent and give people space (and the opportunity to miss you)! It’s easy to get carried away when a relationship begins and dedicate all our time and energy to it. Unfortunately, this is also often when the other person starts to become more distant. They realize that you’re no longer an exciting challenge and it becomes dangerously easy for them to take you for granted.
So the first solution when he doesn’t text back is to fill up your schedule and get busy. If he isn’t texting you back, it means he isn’t valuing you, so you have to show him how amazing your life is. It’s not a game, but you can show that your life is fun. If you make it seem inaccessible simply by not reaching out to him all the time, you’ll whet his appetite and grab his attention.
Enjoy your time with your friends and family, focus on your passions and your hobbies, and work towards your personal and professional goals. It will be great for you if you can do this. You won’t have the time to think about why he’s not texting you, you won’t be glancing at your phone, and you’ll be changing your habits. This will set you up for longterm success in love, my friends.
What to do when he doesn’t text you back: Make your life exciting
Remember what I was saying about how people value what they think they don’t have? Well, a lot of the women who come to me asking about what to do when a guy doesn’t text them back aren’t showcasing how exciting their lives actually are. They place all their focus on the guy and trying to get him to talk to them, and in doing so, they wind up inadvertently making the guy feel like he’s the center of the universe. Sadly, after a while this gets boring and he can lose interest.
Maybe your life isn’t as amazing and inspiring as you want it to be right now, or maybe it is and you just haven’t been making an effort to communicate that to this guy, but now is the time to make some changes. We want him to look at you and think “Wow, she’s incredible… I want to know more about her and all the interesting things she does.” A man is going to pursue a woman that he thinks he can’t have!
So when you talk to this guy the next time, make sure you let him in on the fun and exciting things you’ve been doing. Pay attention to your tone of voice. Show him how happy you are in your life. Tell him that today was the most amazing day because you did something wild like skydiving for the first time. These types of emotions are great because they’re very magnetic. You can share things through pictures as well, and we need to change the communication between you. If you can send him voice notes, pictures or even talk to him on the phone, you’ll have a much easier time conveying your positive energy.
I know you don’t want to make the first step, but changing the way you two are communicating is a great way to get his attention.
How to get a guy to text you: Focus on real life
As I was saying above, some people are just terrible texters. I have some friends that are basically impossible to talk to via text but are actually quite fun when you’re with them.
If your guy isn’t great at texting, I encourage you to make the moments you spend together in real life extra special. The key to making a guy want to commit to you is to make them associate you with fun, positivity and a great time. The more special the time you spend together feels, the more time he will want to spend with you. You’ll see, it’s like clockwork.
Instead of focusing on talking to each other via text message and messenger, think outside of the box and figure out what new places you could check out for dates. Focus on doing things you’ve never done before, and going places you’ve never gone before. Make things feel fresh and he’ll gravitate towards you.
Even if you see that he’s online and he’s not talking to you, don’t sweat it. It’s ok if he’s not messaging you constantly. It’s also OK if he takes his time before responding to you. If you feel that he’s genuinely uninterested, then I encourage you to reach out to me so that we can create a tailor-made action plan to make him crave your attention. We can create new reactions, help you to be cool and zen. That way, you can easily show this guy that you are different. To work with me, just click here!
Navigating a guy’s perspective on texting
I know that we men can be confusing in our actions sometimes. But that’s just it. We’re all about action. So texting isn’t always the easiest way to communicate. We want to have experiences, so I encourage you to really focus on making your life rich with exciting and attractive experiences, and I encourage you to make every moment you spend with this guy special.
Take your time and don’t put too much pressure on yourself. The more confident you are in yourself, and the more fulfilled you’re feeling in your own life, the easier it will be to attract this man. Don’t let him play with your emotions or make you doubt yourself.
Just work on being the best version of yourself and live the life of your dreams. This is how you’ll attract a man like a moth to a flame and make him crave your attention. Switch up the platform you use to communicate with this guy and allow your personality to shine through!
Remember, we want to achieve what we are attracted to and we feel we don’t have. So think of yourself as the main prize. If you can adopt this mindset, you’ll see a huge change in the situation!
As always, I am here to help you with whatever you need.
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