Falling in love with your best friend – The French Relationship Expert
Maybe you’ve known this person for years and years, maybe you’ve become close over recent months. You have so much in common. You have your favorite show that you watch together, you text each other every day to talk about anything and everything, they make you laugh like no one else because you share the same sense of humor, you know everything about each other, you know you can always turn to this person for anything… They’re your best friend and you love them.
You love them… But wait, could it be that you’re falling in love with them? Something is starting to feel different, more intense. What does it mean? You can’t stop thinking about this person. Could it be that you’re developing feelings for your best friend? Is there a way to know for sure? And what exactly are you supposed to do when you are falling in love with your best friend?
I’ve written this article for you today to go over the telltale signs that you’re falling in love with your best friend, and I am also going to tell you how to proceed! I know that things might feel pretty confusing now, but once you get a clear picture of what’s going on it’s going to be easier to define what needs to happen next.
Why falling for your best friend can be incredible!
Not gonna lie, falling for your best friend can be one of the most wonderful things in life. After all, you already know one another very well, you share the same tastes, perhaps even the same hobbies and passions, you know how to make each other happy, you know how to make each other laugh, and you already have the foundation for a healthy relationship: friendship.
You already know that you mutually support one another and that you have a lot in common. But can best friends fall in love? And Is it a good idea?
Of course they can! And yes, best friends falling in love can actually have an incredible relationship. It’s true that some of the most solid relationships began as friendships and have such a solid foundation because stable bond was created before things became romantic.
Simply put, relationships that bud from friendship are so strong because they aren’t based on lust. Lust is a very volatile thing and any relationship that stems from it can be seriously damaged. Why? Because when lust is the only thing that binds two people together, the relationship often fizzles out as quickly as it began.
On the other hand, when it takes time for a relationship to develop and a very strong friendship is established before feelings of sexual attraction come into play, the relationship becomes infinitely more stable and resilient.
Falling for a best friend can seem scary (especially if you don’t know if they feel the same way), but rest assured. If you end up deciding to establish a relationship with this person, it truly could be wonderful.
There are just a few things that I want you to take into consideration before I get into the signs that you’re falling in love with your best friend.
Potential complications when you fall in love with your best friend
As you know I always prefer to be 100% honest with you and not sugar coat anything, so I needed to take a moment to go over the possible challenges that come with falling in love with a best friend.
The biggest con can be seen when two people that were best friends fall in love and then break up. I’m not saying that this is going to happen to you, (especially because you have all my tools at your fingertips for how to seduce someone, how to keep the passion alive, how to ensure that your relationship withstands the test of time), but it’s important to take into consideration.
A break up that follows a relationship between two people that used to be best friends can be exceedingly painful. Not only did the relationship you were working on fall apart, if feels like you’ve lost your best friend. The dynamic between you has shifted, and it can be challenging to restore the friendship that you had before.
Fortunately, anything is possible if you are motivated. I bring this up because I was recently speaking to one of my coaches who was telling me her story. She developed a very close friendship with a guy about seven years ago or so. They became closer and closer and one day she realized that he was actually her best friend. Then one night after too many drinks at the 1920s-themed birthday party they were attending, they kissed.
Funnily enough, neither of them realized that they had feelings for each other until that moment. Not long afterward, they decided to get into a relationship together! Unfortunately, though it seemed to make perfect sense at the time they got together, the relationship did not last very long at all. He was going through some challenges in his personal life and couldn’t dedicate ample time or energy to the relationship, and things fell apart.
That’s when she was hit with a double whammy. Not only did the relationship crumble before her eyes, she felt like she had lost the friendship she had with her best friend. With a little bit of time and patience, they were able to restore their friendship and they are now closer than ever.
Again, I am not telling you this story to scare you away from falling in love with your best friend! I just want you to be aware of everything that it entails. Like with anything great, there are risks involved, but you can also protect the relationship by exercising tools like proper communication and keeping things feeling fresh.
Now, without further ado, let’s take a look at the signs that you’re falling in love with your bff!
Signs that I’m falling in love with my best friend!
You can’t seem to stop thinking about him or her and you have that warm feeling in your chest whenever you’re together… But is it just because you’re super close and this is your best friend in the whole world, or is it because you’re super close and this is your best friend in the whole world AND you happen to be falling in love with them??
Well, let’s take a look at what a best friend falling in love actually looks like. By the way, if you want to know if he or she is feeling the same way, keep an eye out for these indicators in their behavior as well. Similarly, you can also check out this article on how to tell if they have feelings for you!
1. You talk about her/him to your friends
And I don’t mean that you just bring your best friend up in conversation here and there… I mean you talk about him or her All. The. Time.
When someone is on your mind it’s perfectly natural for you to want to talk about them. If this person is constantly on your mind, and you’re constantly talking about them, it means that you’re definitely feeling something. This is especially true if you realize that you don’t talk or think about anyone else this frequently!
Truth be told, your friends might already be thinking that you’re falling for your best friend. Have they made any comments? Your friends know you very well and they can recognize when someone has your full attention…
2. You feel jealous
How do you feel when your best friend talks to you about members of the opposite sex? How do you feel when you hear that he or she kissed someone? What emotions do you experience when you witness your best friend flirting with another person?
I’m asking because if you’re jealous, it means that you have feelings for him or her. Do you trash-talk people he or she is interested in? If you find yourself judging everyone that your best friend is into, it could mean that you are subconsciously trying to keep other potential partners away from them.
3. You creep his or her social media on a regular basis
What, you’re friends right? Aren’t you allowed to be interested in what he or she is up to?
Well, take a moment to honestly ask yourself – are you just browsing because you’re curious today, or are you investigating and trying to find out if your best friend is interested in someone else?
It’s normal to check out your friends’ Instagrams and Facebook profiles from time to time, but when you notice that you’re doing it all the time and are going out of your way to read all the comments and figure out if there’s something going on that you don’t know about… Well, chances are that you really are falling for them and don’t want them to fall for someone else.
4. You naturally gravitate towards them when you’re in a group
Have you ever noticed that when you’re in a group of people, you tend to move closer to your best friend? Even if you’re very close with everyone in the group? Perhaps your shoulders are even touching or you find excuses (even if it’s subconscious) to touch him or her?
It’s true that when you’re falling in love with your best friend, you’re going to crave physical contact, even if it isn’t sexual. This is also true when you’re alone!
What’s it like when you’re watching a movie together? Are you inching closer and closer, and are you borderline trying to snuggle your best friend? If that’s the case then you know that you are feeling something special for this person!
5. You get excited about doing mundane things together.
Your best friend calls you up and says, “Hey, wanna go exchange this pair of shoes at the mall today” and you feel jazzed about it! It doesn’t matter what you’re going to go do together, you’re feeling happy about the idea of seeing this person and spending some time together.
When you’re falling for a friend, it’s not about the activities you’re doing together, it’s about how you feel when you’re together. You feel so good and so happy that you’re ready to jump at pretty much any opportunity to spend time together!
6. It feels weird if you haven’t spoken all day
Your day feels like it’s missing a very important element if you haven’t spoken all day. You want to share everything and it doesn’t feel natural when you’re not in contact. The bond you feel with this person goes so deep that it actually feels like something is off if you’re not in touch.
This can also just be the sign of a very close friendship, but when you feel a deep need to be in contact with this person on a regular basis, it could be more…
7. You are realizing that you’re physically attracted to your best friend
You catch yourself gazing at their eyes, noticing that their lips are really full… You like the way they look in that one t-shirt… And when they’re wearing that one pair of jeans that fits just right… oh man!
If you can’t stop thinking about your best friend when you’re not together, and if you can’t keep your eyes off of them when you are, it looks like you’re falling for them!
8. The butterflies
Your best friend says something sweet to you?
Your best friend hugs you?
Your best friend says they can’t wait to see you tomorrow?
Your best friend laughs at your funny story?
That swelling feeling in your heart and those butterflies you feel in your belly on a regular basis when you’re around this person mean one thing: You caught feels.
So what needs to happen now?
I’m falling in love with my best friend… What do I do?!
If you’ve realized that you definitely are falling in love with your best friend, the first thing you’re going to have to do is figure out if he or she feels the same way.
There are a few ways to go about doing so. You can either ask them, but as most of us don’t want to do something so drastic, your other option is to learn how to recognize the signs that your best friend is into you as well.
The next step is going to be to introduce the seduction phase, and you’re in luck because I also have an article on that! Little by little you’re going to get your best friend to see you in a different light.
As each relationship is entirely unique, please don’t hesitate to get in touch with me directly for one on one coaching. Together we can design the perfect plan of action!
I sincerely wish you all the best,
Your coach for knowing if you’re falling in love with your best friend,