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How To Excite A Man: Tools and Techniques That Will Make Him Addicted To You!

by | July 22nd 2019 | 20 comments

There are many reasons why you might be wondering how to excite a man! Perhaps you’ve got your eye on someone and you want to find the best ways to seduce him, or you’re looking for a way to spice up your relationship. Whatever the case may be, you’ve come to the right place because I am going to tell you how to excite him at any stage of the relationship and reveal some secrets that may surprise you!

Excitement and intimacy are some of the strongest elements in a solid relationship. When we begin to neglect these aspects, our bond begins to suffer. I’m very happy that you’ve sought out this article because it means that you don’t want to let that happen! I’m going to debunk certain stereotypes and show you how to get him wrapped around your little finger, so let’s get started!

How to excite a man: Why is it so important to know?

Aside from being fun, excitement and intimacy are extremely important and act as the glue to relationships. Of course, there are many other elements that are equally important like communication and shared goals for the future, but knowing how to excite your man should not be neglected.

They key to maintaining a healthy relationship is keeping things fresh, and this is where passion comes into play.

Knowing how to arouse and excite him will bring you closer at the beginning of your relationship, and as things develop between you, it will keep you safe from falling into a monotonous routine. It’s important to understand that no relationship is going to remain exactly the same as it was in the beginning – and it will evolve. It is up to you to evolve with it and always look for new ways to excite him, and he should be doing the same for you.

In the beginning of a relationship, you often can’t keep your hands off of one another so turning him on might seem easier. This is true, but I want to tell you some good news! As a relationship develops, you get to know each other better and better.

This means that you start to have a better understanding of what he likes and dislikes and you can use this to your advantage when you’re looking for ways to turn him on! You know how to surprise him and you know his fantasies. If you don’t, then it’s time to have an exciting conversation and find out!

Later on (or perhaps this is already the case for you!) you might have kids running around and life will pull your attention every which way, so you’ve got to ensure that the bond between you remains strong. Using seduction as one of the tools to keep you two close throughout all stages of your relationship is one of the best ways to maintain your connection.

How to arouse a man and the importance of never neglecting your own wellbeing

Before we dive into the how-to’s, I wanted to take a moment to draw your attention to a very important element of a healthy and happy relationship.

I understand that you want to please him and excite him, but it’s of utmost importance that you don’t neglect your own personal happiness. Not only is this important for you, but it’s also important for your relationship because it brings a healthy balance.

Furthermore, he doesn’t get to just sit back and do nothing!

When you’re trying to seduce a man, you should never try to do things that make you uncomfortable or require you to play a role. If you aren’t being yourself while you’re establishing a relationship, you won’t be creating a solid foundation. You need to showcase your natural qualities and characteristics and use them as a means to attract him. Don’t try to change the best things about yourself just to please him.

The most important thing is to create complicity between you, laugh together and to build a healthy relationship based on reciprocity and exchange. It’s very hard to do this if you are pretending to be someone else.

Sometimes we make the mistake of trying to buy someone’s love by just trying to be what they want us to be, without remembering to ensure that we are happy and that we are honestly presenting our true selves.

Start thinking about what kind of life and relationship you want to experience, and incorporate that thought into how you can excite your man. In doing so you’ll become closer, and you can begin to reveal the affinities you share.

How to arouse your man at any stage of the relationship

In order to understand how to excite a man, you’re going to need to understand his personality. I can give you pointers, but each and every person is different so you’re going to have to pay attention to his personality traits and you might have to modify some of your behavior.

That said, here are some general rules about what men like!

1. Compliment him!

Here is one of the easiest ways to excite him. Regardless of how long you’ve been together, a guy likes it when he knows you think he’s sexy. Complimenting his body lets him know that you’ve been thinking about and noticing his body, and his imagination will take over.

Remember – this doesn’t have to only be physical. Compliment him on some of his qualities and accomplishments, and you’ll be sure to make him feel good.

2. Tell him what you want!

Many people underestimate the power of telling a man what you want to do to him…

Taking the wheel when it comes to intimacy can drive him wild, and you don’t have to wait until you’re in bed to do this! Using the element of surprise to catch him off guard can very much work in your favor. Whisper something naughty in his ear when you’re out at dinner or touch him unexpectedly when you’re out with friends.

Similarly, when you’re in bed, don’t be afraid to let him know what you want and show him that you’re enjoying him! This is one of the things that turn guys on the most.

3. Surprise him!

I see that many women expect the man to initiate without even realizing it, but nothing’s stopping you from taking the wheel!

The next time you’re at home together, take him by the hand and lead him to the bedroom (or anywhere you’d like to be intimate with him!) Catch him off guard and let him know you want him right then and there.

4. Tease him!

One of the best ways to arouse a man is to playfully tease him. Think of it as flirtation that builds up anticipation and sexual tension between you.

It’s up to you to to decide how far you want to take it, but a little bit of mischief is always fun in a relationship. You could tease him verbally, face to face, or you could take it to the next level and send him texts that would turn him on when he’s at work! Again, playing with the anticipation factor can really add some fun to your relationship.

5. Be open about your fantasies!

This one might work a bit better once you’ve established a relationship or if you’ve been dating each other for a while, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t use it when you’re in the seduction phase as well!

Talking about your fantasies is one of the best ways to get him thinking about steamy situations with you, and even if he’s a bit shy at first, the fact that you’re talking about it will help him to open up!

How to excite him: You’ve just started dating

One of the best ways to excite him is to give him a reason to fantasize about you. If you want to learn how to unleash your inner seductress, I suggest reading this right away!

Men are visual creatures. Pay attention to what you wear (but make sure that you’re always comfortable). If you aren’t comfortable, you’re not going to be feeling as confident and confidence is a big part of being found attractive by a member of the opposite sex.

So, wear things that show off your favorite physical aspect and don’t be afraid to be tactile and flirt with him.

If you’re familiar with my philosophy, you know that I always say that the most important thing to focus on is not to love itself, but happiness! Enjoy being together and always look for new ways to have fun together.

Make sure you keep things fun and interesting in bed with touch, sensual massages, and foreplay! Men have fewer erogenous zones than women, so don’t neglect the importance of your approach and the positions you like.

When you’re in the heat of the moment, don’t just go through the motions like a robot – show him how much you enjoy being intimate with him and this will turn him on even more!

As your relationship develops, don’t just focus on the sexual aspect. Nurture the bond between you and make him feel excited about spending time with you. I often see people nitpicking or often complaining, and this doesn’t make their partner want to spend much time with them.

Work on ensuring that you’re always on the same page and working through disagreements as a team. The closer you feel in your relationship, the closer you will feel in bed.

What arouses a man when you’ve been together for a while?

A lot of people come to me for help with one specific question: “How can I arouse a man that I’ve been with for years?” Things often become monotonous in long term relationships and people sometimes struggle with keeping things fresh. As this is one of the most important elements that enable a relationship to stand the test of time, you can see how important it is!

You have an advantage because you already know your partner very well. I bet you know of a few things that he’s never done before, so why not suggesting you try them out together! It can be sexual, yes, but it can also be an activity that you’ve always wanted to do.

Sharing exciting moments strengthens the bond between you and will make both of you feel more in the mood! Take a special interest in his passions and don’t be afraid to take the initiative.

Don’t hesitate to do things that turned both of you on at the beginning of your relationship like jumping him as soon as he steps out of the shower or sending him a sexy picture while he’s at work. Remember what I was saying about teasing? Think about sending him something around noon, so he gets turned on but has to wait hours before he can get his hands on you.

When you’ve been together for a long time and you’re wondering “How to excite my man?” Think about introducing new things. Repetition gets boring after a while so think of getting away on a romantic week-end trip, trying new positions, or trying making love in new places!

Tips on arousing a man: Being won over damages seduction!

As this article comes to a close, I wanted to bring your attention to one last thing when it comes to exciting a man.

Many people want to please their man so much that they end up being at his every beck and call. It’s good to be aware of what your partner wants and make an effort to make them happy, but it’s not good to shift the power play.

Each and every relationship has this, and even though I don’t really like to use the term “power play,” that is what it is. It’s a question of both partners giving and taking, and maintaining balance in the relationship. No partner should have more happiness or more importance in the relationship than the other.

What this means for our topic today is that if you put your partner on a pedestal and allow yourself to be completely won over, the attraction between you suffers. To be brutally honest, there is actually nothing worse for undoing the attraction between you. When the relationship becomes the center of your universe, you lose track of yourself and it becomes hard to maintain the same dynamic that brought you two so close together in the first place.

Maintain a satisfying and healthy personal life with hobbies, projects, and a good group of friends.

An easy way to keep things in check is by using the 1 for 1 rule. If he gives you a gift, you want to give him one as well, but maintain balance. If he gives you a bouquet of roses, don’t give him a Rolex.

The reason I say this is because if he feels that you’re completely won over, we will no longer feel that he needs to make an effort to please you. You want to remain an exciting challenge as well because men find this to be very exciting. For even more information on how to turn him on, I invite you to check this out!

I would love to hear your ideas on how to excite a man as well, so don’t hesitate to leave your comment below!

All my best,

Your coach for knowing how to arouse a man,

Alexandre Cormont


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    Wow! It’s wonderful technique. Thank you so much😘😘😘

    • Alex Cormont

      Hi Regins,
      Thank you for reading this blog. I’m glad these techniques were helpful.

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      This is amazing …thank u

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      thank you so much Alex you are the best it’s wonderful merci beaucoup vous êtes magnifique et dieu te protège. pour nous

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      Very interesting Alex!!! Thanks so much!!

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      awesome. thank you Alex

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      Your techniques have put me at ease.


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    Im confused because i do everything im reading and we have strong chemistry but we never discussed what either one wants so it was a FWB for 2 years so i finally told him i didn’t want that from anyone. I distanced myself and pnly wished him a happy birthday. he did respond wondering how i remembered. i havnt texted him since

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    Unbelievable article, Alex you are an amazing soul and man. We are so lucky to have you . thank you for your wisdom, this truth, and letting us get intouch with you ! Xx

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    Alex, Thank you for this article. I was completely won over by the man in my last relationship, and I put him on a pedestal. He never made a commitment to me, and after five years, he left me. You helped me figure out what went wrong. I am broken hearted, but hoping I get to love again without making these mistakes.

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    Wao, this is getting more interested than I thought. Thanks for being there for ladies like me, with you my hope has been raised that I will finally get him for myself. thanks so much, please

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    Wonderful read…definitely practicing these..

    Thank you Alex 💜

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    Hi Alex
    I find your articles very informative. Thanks SO much
    Dawn (Australia)

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    How do you seduce your ex back.?. And how many times can you use the no contact rule on your ex?

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    Bonjour Alex

    I am so excited to read your mail….
    Thank you so much for sharing your amazing techniques and yes it’s helpful…😘😘😘😍😍

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    Bonjour Sir . Hope u had a good sleep . first bundle of thanks for your article “How to excite him” .It start with eyes to smile defining desire, sexiness , mysteriousness..It send Sparks miles away to your man . Asking n offering intimate information seduce a man n turn on .Here body language from both sides play their role without a word in terms of clothing, being playful, flirty n fun . Gentle touches as it is a powerful tool to seduce naturally.
    Seduction and intimacy is called sex but truly wrong .it makes both think of each other when not around with them ..it is a way of connecting n attracting in a relationship to the significant other for significant reason.It build a bond of regard .care n kindness.But in this process it’s important to not forget ourselves.Its like “in me that you see”. together all the desire are seen,heard , filled.
    Relationship n love is presenting ourselves .it is staying in a relation in all circumstances . Always having time to laugh n converse together in a busy life . Sir I hope u will like it . please let me know where I’m wrong n what would you like to suggest . looking forward to work with you and waiting for your reply n messages . Always b happy , strong on the path to success .lots of regards .

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    Hello Alex! Thank U! Very nice n’ hyper informative article as always. I greatly appreciated.

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    Thanks Alex….this article is very helpful. Not losing oneself seems to the key in a relationship.

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    It is so much help me so much. And anyway tell me how is exactly make exicited man with long relationship distance ? Is it same your article ?

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    Thank You Alex


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