He tries to make me jealous: Why and what to do now!
The topic of today’s article came from an email that I received earlier today. It is not uncommon for people to reach out to me because they feel that their guy is purposely trying to make them jealous, or because they’ve struggled with jealousy throughout their relationships… So I wanted to write this for you today to provide you with some answers and some tips. The first half of this article will be about how to handle a guy who deliberately tries to make you jealous, and then I will go over some tips and tools to help you if you’ve been struggling with jealousy for a long time.
Many people develop jealous habits and behavior that actually have very little to do with their partner’s actions, and I want to explain to you what you can do starting today to set out on a new path toward happiness in love. Excessive jealousy in a relationship can undermine the foundation but don’t worry. By the time you reach the end of this article, you’ll know what you need to do!
So, let’s take a look at what to do when you’re thinking, “He tries to make me jealous,” and how to make him stop, and then explore how to combat jealous behavior once and for all!
He tries to make me jealous: Why?
Amelia sent me the email that I mentioned in the intro, and she was telling me that she had started dating this guy. They’ve been seeing each other for a few months and she’s started to realize that he’s constantly trying to make her jealous. He’ll post pictures of himself with other girls on Instagram, he tells her that he’s hanging out with all these girls with his friends at clubs… and it has been making Amelia feel pretty terrible. Now Amelia, like so many of the people I have coached all around the world, felt scared to speak up. She didn’t want to push her guy away by seeming “demanding” or “difficult.” Instead, she was asking herself questions like, “Why is he disrespecting me, why is he doing all of these things, doesn’t he realize how it makes me feel?”
I explained to her the same thing that I’m going to tell you. Internalizing these questions is pretty much the worst thing you could do in a situation like this. Every time you ask yourself things like, “Is he trying to make me jealous”or “Why is he trying to make me jealous,” especially when you’re seeing obvious signs, you are in essence placing yourself beneath him. You’re putting him up on that pedestal and this is exactly what we do not want.
There is something important to remember about human nature. As human beings, when we don’t understand something, we will fixate on it and ask ourselves many questions about it. Then we feel blocked, we remain stuck, and we don’t grow. When this happens in a romantic relationship, it places the other person on a pedestal and allows them to play around. It happens subconsciously but this is the reality and my friends, this is precisely why I am making all of these articles and videos on my YouTube Channel for you. I want to help you set boundaries and enjoy a truly rewarding love life!
What to do when I see signs he is trying to make me jealous
Ladies, the first solution when you’re seeing signs that a guy is trying to make you jealous is to ask why. If a guy is trying to make you jealous and show you that he’s always surrounded by girls, ask him why he’s doing it? The truth is that this guy needs to realize that his behavior is quite frankly stupid and that he needs to change if he wants you to stick around.
Next, take a step back. I want you to be distant with him because when you do this, he’ll realize that he needs to change. This, again, has to do with human nature. Ignoring behavior that is meant to trigger you will actually just make him realize that he’s not getting a reaction, and therefore needs to change.
I know that you might have really strong feelings for this guy, maybe you’re already in love with him, and maybe you already feel like he’s the one… but if you’re constantly thinking, “He’s trying to make me jealous,” there is a big crack in the foundation of this relationship and things need to change. Whatever you feel for him, you must remember that pulling away from this kind of behavior will make him respect you.
The third thing I want you to do when you’re wondering, “Is he trying to make me jealous or not interested,” is to set boundaries. Once you have talked to him about his behavior and put space between you, you need to set new boundaries. This way, any time this guy (or any guy) tries to play with you or make you jealous, you will stand your ground and express that you are not like other people and that you are not going to allow this type of behavior. This is important because this reflects your sense of self respect and self worth, and men need boundaries. If you’re familiar with my philosophy then you’ve probably already heard me say that we men are like children, and we will try to get away with whatever we can. And if you allow us to do whatever we want, we will just continue to do so! But if you can set boundaries and prove that you aren’t like all the other people in the world, a guy will respect you more and start to think about what he can do to attract you in a better way.
So the question is not, “Why is he trying to make me jealous?” It’s “What do I want?”
You are in control of way more than you might realize, so don’t let a guy try to make you jealous. Remember, this is toxic and we need to steer clear of toxic relationships. If you’re struggling with this relationship and you aren’t sure how to make things better, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me or a member of my team for one on one coaching. It is my goal to give you all the tools to need in order to be the happiest you can be in your love life!
Jealousy is a constant theme in my love life: Help!
Now, as I said above, the second part of today’s article will be for those of you who have come to understand that you are a jealous person and it has been damaging your relationships.
If this resonates with you, I have some very important advice. If you are experiencing excessive jealousy, it means that we need to reinforce your sense of self confidence. This happens when a person does not love themselves enough and places their partner on a pedestal. Now, if you have been feeling like, “He tries to make me jealous,” it does not mean that his behavior is acceptable and that it’s all your fault. It does, however, it does mean that things need to change. The good news is that you CAN change the situation.
I have coached thousands of women who were struggling with jealousy because they were lacking self confidence, they felt like they weren’t enough, and they felt insecure in the relationship, and if this is the case for you, I can promise you that you can change your mindset. You ARE enough! You are someone special, and here are some tools that will help.
First, I want you to release negative emotions through physical exercise. You can’t stop being jealous if you’re full of negative emotions, so go running! When you run, get your heart rate up, and sweat, you’ll tire yourself out and release all these negative emotions. Then you can renew your energy and it’s usually very positive.
Next, work on becoming the new and improved version of yourself. Make sure that you’re filling your schedule with activities and people that bring you joy, and every single day, make sure you look in the mirror before you go out and practice positive affirmations. I know that it can feel silly at first, but you’d be surprised at how effective it is. Repeat to yourself that you’re a beautiful person, you have a good heart, you’re unique, and that you love yourself. By practicing these positive affirmations, your jealousy will decrease.
The third tip I have for you is to revamp your relationship. If your boyfriend tries to make you jealous, or if you’re struggling with jealousy on your own, it means that one or both of your is not fully satisfied with the relationship. The best way to change this is to start introducing new activities. Think about what would make your life together better, what would make it easier to enjoy the present moment? If you can write down 5 ideas, I want you to implement one new idea a week. This is how you can stop being jealous in just 5 weeks!
Why is he trying to make me jealous psychology: The summary
At the end of the day, if the guy you’re seeing is trying to make you jealous, you have to change things. If you’re realizing that your jealousy is not necessarily a direct result of his behavior, you have to change things. Jealousy is not something that is going to help your relationship thrive, no matter what stage it’s at!
So, to summarize what we went over in this article; If you have been seeing signs he’s trying to make you jealous, here is what you need to do.
1. Ask him why
2. Take a step back
3. Set boundaries.
If you feel that jealousy has been a theme in your life that has been making you suffer and you need to work on it, then you have got to:
1. Release your negative emotions
2. Become the absolute best version of yourself
3. Bring new activities into your life.
As frustrating as things might be right now, I want you to know that they can change. I am here to help you with all the content I’ve been creating for you, you can reach out to me for a coaching session, but you can also download my book, The Love Code. In it, you will learn everything you need to know about attraction and how to establish and develop a meaningful, healthy, and long lasting relationship.
I sincerely wish you nothing but the very best in life and love, ciao ciao les amies.
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